A female netizen asked for help, her boyfriend is from the province, and he is too far away, and his parents are against continuing to dating, and now she is very stiff with her parents, and she doesn't know what to do
As the saying goes, the bell must be tied to the bell, and the daughter as the middleman, only by coordinating by himself can the problem be fundamentally solved.
Communicate patiently with your parents to understand their specific thoughts, knowing that distance is definitely not the only reason, it is just a more decent excuse to refuse.
First of all, as a daughter, don't quarrel with your parents because of their objections, you must know that your parents are worried that their daughters will marry too far and will be wronged in the future, but also out of concern, and be patient to understand their specific thoughts.
1. If the parents are not satisfied with the boyfriend's family situation:The daughter has to explain to her parents that the fact that the original family is not rich does not mean that people are not okay. For example, the boyfriend has a stable job and is willing to spend the income on himself. Another example is that the boyfriend is diligent, willing to share housework, and more considerate.
2. If the parents are not satisfied with the boyfriend's characterAt this time, the daughter must listen to the analysis of her parents, after all, "Jiang is still old and spicy", parents live for decades more and have deep experience, and they will never deliberately smear each other to destroy their daughter's marriage.
After understanding the concerns of your parents, you can test your boyfriend, determine whether it is true or false, and also understand the bottom line that you can accept. Love can make people blind, and you must try to maintain your ability to analyze rationally.
3. If your parents are dissatisfied with your boyfriend's familyThe relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a worry point for parents, you can discuss with your boyfriend, you must not live with your parents after marriage, the young couple is self-reliant and self-reliant, and parents will be more at ease.
In short, daughters should understand that their parents are against a marriage, and distance is definitely not the only reason, this is just a more decent refusal statement. Marriage is not child's play, when parents object, follow the advice of parents, everywhere, it is not recommended to get married in a hurry. At the same time, I also communicated more with my boyfriend and persuaded him to work with me to influence my parents with sincere actions.