Some people say that you should fall in love with the person you like and marry the right person.
In real life, there are indeed too many examples of this.
Many people who love each other start with their hearts and end with regrets, and finally fail to enter marriage.
There are also many people, although they can stay together for the years, but they are always difficult to let go, just because they can't let go of the regrets they once had.
Marriage, like alone is not long enough;If it is only suitable, happiness will also be greatly reduced.
How to choose, there is no exact answer to this, mainly depends on your focus.
Pay more attention to love and think that love is above all else
Marriage is not just a matter of two people, but involves many people.
When it comes to marriage, two people who love each other may show all kinds of contradictions.
And these problems have become an obstacle for them to enter marriage, that is, they are not suitable for each other.
But it's easy to fall in love, but it's always hard to let go.
People who have entered the heart want to completely shut themselves out of their own world, and not everyone can do it.
There are always some people who are unwilling to accept the arrangement of fate, thinking that love is above all else, as long as the love is firm enough, it is enough to overcome all difficulties.
Therefore, they resolutely do not let go of each other's hands, and must give love a happy ending.
Marriage should be based on feelings, so that both parties can be happy.They believe that marriage and love will be happy, and true love is hard to find, and once you miss it, it may never be encountered again in this life.
There are no two people who are naturally suitable, and all suitables are the result of the two people constantly running in and changing each other.
If the two love firmly enough, and have the determination to overcome all difficulties together.
It is also possible to dilute or eliminate those existing problems with understanding and tolerance in the run-in, so that the marriage can become suitable from seemingly inappropriate, and have a happy ending.
Pay more attention to real life and think that being with the right person can last a long time
Love, just simply like it;And marriage, it needs a lot of measurements.
Even if you don't love each other, every marriage also carries the wishes and expectations of your families, as well as relatives and friends.
In the eyes of many people, they seem to be very suitable and will be happy.
However, only the two parties know best in their hearts that this wedding, which seems to be harmonious for everyone, is not the ending they want.
Maybe they just don't like each other and are dissatisfied with this marriage.
Perhaps, it is because they love each other in their hearts, and it is only because of this marriage that is suitable in the eyes of others that they have to leave regrets.
In short, such a marriage union is not because of heartbeat, but has to hold hands for the rest of his life.
They eventually chose to compromise with fate, believing that being with the right people was the best arrangement for life.
Eventually, pessimists will waste time in depression, and it will be difficult to get happiness;Optimists are always good at adjusting, and can let go of the past as soon as possible and adapt to the life in front of them.
Perhaps, in the countless times of common advance and retreat in the future, with the deepening of understanding, because of mutual understanding and tolerance, the spark of love will gradually run in.
This is the long-term love, so that in the run-in, the feelings that have been tempered will be more stable and longer.
Sakura message
In fact, liking and fitting don't have to be either/or.
Instead of struggling with choices, try to create a situation where you can have both.
That is, to strive to strengthen and optimize oneself, and increase the capital of one's own choice.
It's just that fate is hard to find, and there are not so many chance encounters in life, and sometimes, it's not enough to be excellent.
Therefore, while improving ourselves, we must also continue to expand our circle of contacts.
Only by knowing more people can we increase our chances of choosing and being loved.
If one day, you meet the person who likes each other and is suitable for each other, I believe that you have become so good, you will be able to grasp it easily.