When children go to kindergarten, we parents usually encourage the children to make more friends, after all, make more friends, take care of more, and children can live happier in kindergarten. However, I would say that more important than making friends is that we need to teach children to recognize what kind of friends are worth datingWhat kind of "friends" must be kept away
I heard my neighbor's mother say that her son is in kindergarten and often plays with another child in the community.
Because the two children are in the same community and the same class, it is simply a great fate. Occasionally, mothers have something to do, and they willHelp each other pick up and drop off the kids, the two families take care of each other, which is quite good, so their sons have becomeBest of friends
Until one evening, Bao's mother went to pick up the children and go home, but the homeroom teacher left the neighbors behind, and said: "This afternoon is the doll bookstore activity in the kindergarten, and the children are reading seriously!".But your son has a good picture bookTorn beyond recognition......”
After listening to it, Bao's mother was furious, thinking that this child was too naughty, and hurriedly apologized to the teacher, consulted the compensation for the picture book, and compensated for the loss of the kindergarten according to the price.
On the way home, Bao's mother didn't say a word, and her son was so frightened that he was silent, as if it was the eve of a storm.
Back at home, Bao's mother tried to calm down and asked her son, "Why are you doing this?"”
Her son cried with a wow, he said: "It was Haohao who told me, let's compete to see who dares to tear the picture book apart, and if anyone tears it, who will be a hero." However, after I tore it, he didn't tear it, and laughed out loud ......”
Bao's mother chuckled in her heart, it turned out that this was the case, she taught her children to be naughty since she was a child, but she couldn't do it, if no one instigated it, she couldn't do it.
Although it was not all the fault of the son, Bao's mother still criticized the child harshly, and the compensation for the picture book should also be deducted from his pocket money.
The child also realized his mistake, and the mother asked the child: "Do you think Hao Hao is your good friend?"The child thought for a moment and shook his head.
Indeed, this mother's son met a poisonous friendship, and that Haohao was not his real friend.
A good friend should be someone who will stop you when he sees you doing something wrongWhen I see that you are successful, I will encourage you;When you have a problem, we will find a way to help you;He comforts you when you are sad.
Parents should tell their children, "If you feel with this personIt's hard to be together, you must stay away from him. ”
As the saying goes, "those who are close to Zhu are red and those who are close to ink are black", children will come into contact with people outside the family from kindergarten onwards. If the child is exposed to positive people, he may become positive;But if you come into contact with some children with bad Xi, the child may also go down the wrong path.
Therefore, after our children go to kindergarten, parents still have to be powerful people, not to hate the poor and love the rich, but to distinguish between true and false friends.
belowseveral categories".FalseFriends",ParentsBe sure to guide the child away from them, noBut the child willBadly affected!
The first category is that the children who encourage you to do bad things are not your friends.
Every family has a different way of education, children have different Xi, and some children have problems with their own values.
If your child makes a friend, it will be from now onStart making mistakes constantlyParents must be vigilant: it may be someone around the childEncourage or guide himDo bad things together, such people must not make friends.
The second category needs youHouse childrenConstantly ingratiatingpeopleNot at allSincerelyof
Did the child say something like this when he came home, "Mom, if I don't give Xiaoming something to eat, he won't play with me......”
If a child's friendship needs to be constantly exchanged for material things, then it will not be long-term.
If we always let the child please others in exchange for "friendship", the child may still developPleasetypePersonality, which is very detrimental to the child's future character development.
Therefore, if you need your child to please you, you should keep him away as soon as possible.
The third category, people who always want to take advantage of it, should also stop losses in time.
Some children always want to take advantage, ask you for delicious food, borrow your toys to play, and eat and drink under the guise of being friends.
This kind of love takes advantage of people, there is a problem with values, and we can't let children become friends with them.
The fourth category is people who look down on you and often expose your shortcomingsAlsoNot friends.
Some children make friends with you just for fun, often talking about your shortcomings in front of others and making everyone think you are a joke.
If there is no minimum respect between people, there is no friendship at all. Let the child meet this so-called friend, and leave as soon as possible.
Mentors and friendsIt is an indispensable partner on the road of children's life, and we as parents, in the process of children's growth, how to understand whether they have made good friends?
First, for younger children, parents should help their children identify friends.
If the child is younger, parents need to be careful to observe oftenGet involved in children's activitiesto help children identify what kind of friends they are around.
Pay attention to the child tooChanges in behavioral Xi, whether it has been influenced by other people, to understand the child's friendship.
When you find out that your child is careless in making friends, you will clearly tell him that you can't play with this person anymore.
Second, for older children, parents should communicate more with their children.
If the child is already in junior high school, or has already entered high school, we cannot force the child to play with who and who not to play with, which will arouse the child's rebellious mentality.
Parents should communicate more with their children, understand their children's ideological dynamics, understand what kind of friends their children play with, and guide their children to establish correct valuesStay away from the negative energies that bring you backof people.
Whether it is childhood or adulthood, our lives are inseparable from friends, we don't have to have many friends, just treat each other sincerely, friends don't have to be excellent, just have an honest and kind character.
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