Author: Shang Feng.
By December 26, 2023, my father Shang Chuanzhong has been away from his family for 100 days!
In his last days, the thing on his mind was to go back to his hometown and the place where he worked and lived, and say goodbye to his former family and friends!It's a pity that he couldn't do what he wanted, the main reason is that he doesn't know how to drive, and the secondary reason is that the index data is not bad after the father replaces the ** drug, and he has illusions that this is not an urgent matter, and there are still many opportunities in the future.
When my father left home for the last time to go to the hospital, he was so excited that we all thought it was just an ordinary medical visit, pointing out the scenery outside, thinking about the similarities in his past life experiences, and even joking with his mother.
However, no matter how good a wish is, it is just a wish, not a fact!Due to severe malnutrition caused by the wanton spread of cancer cells and low immunity, at 5:08 pm on September 18, 2023, his father Shang Chuanzhong died of illness at the age of 76.
Looking back on my father's life in 100 days, he was not illustrious and did not create huge wealth, but as a low-level person born in a remote village, a real descendant of beggars, he also realized the self-improvement of rural people to urban public families by broadening his own vision at a critical time and his perseverance and hard work, and overcoming various difficulties in the transition period after the reform and opening up, and cultivating both of us brothers to become college students, laying a good foundation for the continuous upward movement of the family.
Compared with his contemporaries, his father can be regarded as brilliant as he can. At least among his friends, his father is also an outstanding figure. In the second half of my father's life, when we didn't see and talk much, my father kept telling me about his experiences when he was young, including his views on life and the world.
As a person who is also working hard, in the days after he left, I gradually understood that my father hoped that he could leave a little mark on this world, this world that he had worked hard, of course, he hoped that future generations could remember his efforts, and remember his efforts while constantly achieving family promotion!This is also the memorial that this memorial not only expresses the nostalgia of the contemporaries of the family for him, but also hopes to leave the deeds of his father to the descendants of the family.
According to the Gregorian calendar, my father was born on January 13, 1947, but as a child of a rural farmer, we are relatively unfamiliar with the Gregorian calendar, and we are more familiar with the traditional lunar calendar.
The family where my father was born was a real family of beggars!My grandfather wandered with his grandmother when he was young because of the floods in his hometown, and finally came to a small mountain village at the foot of Dahong Mountain in Zhangji Town, Zhongxiang City, Hubei Province, where he was taken in by the local villagers. A few years later, because of my grandfather's outstanding facial features as an adult, he was favored by a local girl, that is, my grandmother, and the two got married and had children.
The father is always the oldest among the grandfather's children.
Third, the second brother is the second!However, the age difference between him and his brother and sister is relatively large, it is said that because of the impact of the Anti-Japanese War, the family is too cold, and he can't afford to have too many children, and his brother and sister were artificially killed during this period!It wasn't until the end of the war that my grandfather's family gradually stabilized and began to live a normal life. So, to a certain extent, my father was lucky to come to the world just right!
My father's hometown, when I was very young, because my parents were busy with work, and their main energy was to take care of my brother, so I mainly lived there with my grandparents. The scenery is beautiful, the air is very good, the products are also abundant, there is only a mountain trail to connect with the outside world, when I read the Peach Blossom Spring when I was in school, I always thought that it was about my hometown.
When I was a child, I walked among the mountains and forests in my hometown, my mind was quiet, but the premise of quiet was that my father had a rare state-owned enterprise establishment and work in that era, and the stable life that followed**.
And my father's childhood obviously lacked this strong backing, and when he began to be sensible, the whole country had already been liberated, and he, like many children in the country, enjoyed the right to education. However, for him, his grandparents are old, his younger siblings are still young, and his nephews are being born one after another.
Under this pressure, my father's application for withdrawal from school has almost always accompanied his study life, he explained that he was stupid and couldn't learn, but his teachers have always been in contact with him, and after I became an adult, I still talk about my father's seriousness in studying, and my education before school after I was born was mainly tutored by my father, and a solid foundation allowed me to enter the school a few years earlier than my classmates. The most important thing is calligraphy, no matter how he goes, he is remembered and plays a role because of his good handwriting, so I have always doubted his statement.
Anyway, the father who did not graduate from primary school dropped out of school and went home to farm, because of the heavy burden, many people persuaded him to become a son-in-law, but I don't know the courage of his **, but in addition to work, he was recognized by the cadres of the brigade with a good hand, and he could enter the brigade headquarters relatively freely to read the newspapers that were extremely rare at that time, so as to understand the outside world.
Because he really wanted to go outside, as a rural youth at that time, almost the only way to get out of the countryside was to become a soldier, but the malnourished body and thin social background hindered the realization of his father's dream almost every year, but he never gave up.
In 1968, my father, who had reached the age of 21, had reached the last year of being able to join the army, and my father, who was unwilling to be disillusioned, saw the kindness of the little brother who led the soldiers, and took the initiative to introduce his own situation, especially the yearning for the outside life, and I don't know which point moved this little brother in Hunan, and used his power to lead the troops, directly determined the qualifications of my father to enlist in the army, and on March 8 of that year, he came to the Jinyintan prairie on the shore of Qinghai Lake, and became a soldier in the guard platoon of the 39th Regiment of the 2829 Unit of the Air Force of the Lanzhou Military Region.
50 years later, this Hunan brother also found his father's ** through other comrades-in-arms, and chatted with his father about his original recognition of his father and his father's recognition during his time in the army. It is conceivable that my father, who was somewhat desperate at the beginning, moved this big brother of the same age with what kind of courage and quality he had when he was basically destined to miss the army!Don't give up, be brave to show your strengths, and seize any opportunity, this should be a precious treasure left to me by my father!
For a long time, my father rarely talked about this unit, and even my mother and our children didn't know what this unit was for and what kind of work my father was doing in the armyIt was not until recent years, when the staff of the local civil affairs department, and later the Veterans Affairs Bureau, approached my father to organize him to go out for recuperation and pay him allowances and other benefits for those involved in the war, that we learned from him that this unit was also one of the participating units of China's first atomic bomb. This has also become the capital that the grandson, who is still in elementary school, bragged to his classmates, one is the sense of honor of the work, and the other is a strong sense of confidentiality!
From my father's mouth, we learned more about his efforts to stay in the city, he did not talk about the specific things, but he officially joined the Communist Party of China in the first year of enlistment, became a "five good soldiers" for three consecutive years, and finally retired from the army and transferred to the first fertilizer factory in Zhongxiang City, became a branch member of this large state-owned enterprise, and successfully raised the starting point of our family from the countryside to the county seat.
My father was a positive person, and he wanted the family to always be upward, so he paid special attention to our brother's education and sent us to the best school in the area. He also encouraged us to actively participate in the Mathematics Olympiad, the Chemical Intelligence Competition and the National Physics Competition, and encouraged us to submit articles to major magazines and newspapers since junior high school, so as to make our all-round development.
At the end of the 80s, the operation of state-owned enterprises was in full decline, and often the salary could not be paid for several months, and it was necessary to borrow money from relatives to pay for the cost of studying. My father's dedication finally allowed our brothers to go to college together in that era when hundreds of fresh graduates from the county went to college in that year, and they achieved a good story among acquaintances.
My father after the 90s was largely lonely!The state-owned enterprise where he worked has been restructured, and he has also become a laid-off worker. In the era when social security is not yet complete, the father who has reached the age of 50 is a little confused!In fact, at that time, my brother had already graduated from college and was assigned a job, and the work unit was also well paid.
2023 Post Sprint Race However, I don't know if it's because my father, who has always been proud of being strong and relying on his family, can't let go of these burdens, or for what reason, my father, who could have enjoyed his old age in peace, still chooses to live a life of odd jobs everywhere, never reaches out to his children to ask for money, and even when his children buy things for him, he doesn't forget to return the price.
Even when the children have a certain relationship with the local No. 1 person because of their marriage, and the individual also has a certain social status and power, many people can't believe the father's choice when they find the father and try to trust the relationship. As a result, rumors of unfilial piety spread among children, which brought unexpected troubles to the children. However, he has always had one principle: uprightness, no waiting, no reliance, and self-reliance.
This is also the most valuable quality that our children and grandchildren learn from their fathers and pass them on. With his own hands, without the support of his father, he created a path on his own, got married, had children and settled down. He didn't say anything when his children were also self-reliant and married, but we could clearly feel from the tone, voice and volume of his voice when he introduced the children to his acquaintances: he was proud of us.
The strong love for the children and the family, and the unsparing dedication, are also the precious wealth left to the children. Since childhood, although he has been strict with us in learning, he rarely uses force to guide us, and is more reasonable, guided with heart and love. The first time my father was hospitalized was because he rode a bicycle back to the countryside to visit his son in the middle of the night, and was thrown into a mountain nest.
In fact, there are many similar specific examples, but the core meaning is: my father loves his family and loves us!We will always remember our father and his contribution to us and to our family
I would like to use this article to commemorate my father!It's equivalent to saying goodbye to the world he has worked hard for for his father!May the heavenly father always smile and always be proud of his children and grandchildren!