Five years ago, a form of pension known as "huddle" was quietly popular in the city. In Hangzhou, for example, a group of elderly people choose to gather in a country house to live together and support each other.
However, time has proven that "group" pension is not a long-term solution. Most of these combinations are moving towards disintegration after two or three years. However, now a new way of pension is emerging, that is, "partnering" pension. A 58-year-old aunt told us through her own personal experience: It is really much better to support the elderly with a partner than to live alone!
01. The dilemma of group pension.The so-called group pension is a group of like-minded relatives and friends who get together, live together, take care of each other, and grow together. They want to be in such an environment, with someone to take care of when they are sick and the cost of living to be shared.
However, group pension seems to be beautiful, but it is actually difficult. Aunt Liu, 68 years old, her husband died five years ago, and her only daughter married away from home. Although she has a pension of 3,000 yuan a month, her lonely life makes her feel uncomfortable.
By chance, Aunt Liu got acquainted with her neighbor Sister Wang. Sister Wang has no pension and can only rely on her son to live, but she is often ridiculed by her daughter-in-law. Aunt Liu was deeply sympathetic to Sister Wang's plight, so she proposed to "hold together" for the elderly and let Sister Wang move to her house to live together.
In the beginning, the lives of the two were harmonious and fulfilling. However, with the addition of Sister Chen, contradictions began to appear. The relationship between the three gradually strained, which eventually led to the dissolution of the pension team.
In fact, Aunt Liu's experience is not unique. Many groups of pensioners face a similar dilemma. On the one hand, they have conflicts because of their incompatible personalities and differences between them. On the other hand, everyone's consumption level and living Xi are different, which leads to differences in spending.
02. The advantages of partnering for the elderly.Compared with group pension, it seems to be more feasible to provide for the elderly in a group. The biggest difference is that group care is a man and a woman of the opposite sex living together. They believe that "opposites attract", so this way of providing for the elderly has reduced many contradictions.
58-year-old Aunt Wang is the beneficiary of the partnership. She believes that the life of two people is much better than that of one.
Aunt Wang's husband died three years ago, and she herself retired two years ago. After retirement, her life became lonely. Until a year ago, she met Lao Li.
Lao Li is six years older than Aunt Wang and is a retired cadre with a monthly pension of more than 7,000 yuan. He lived a relatively affluent life, but he often lived alone in a large, empty house, with his children visiting only occasionally.
Aunt Wang and Lao Li met Yu Friend, and after a month of understanding, they decided to live together. Their personalities are compatible with each other, and their lives have become more fulfilling. Lao Li's living conditions are superior, but he prefers to find a soulmate, and Aunt Wang is such a person.
Aunt Wang and Lao Li lived in harmony, and they never quarreled because of contradictions. Their living expenses are AA systema, which makes the relationship between them more equal. They don't have a license because they think that partnering for the elderly is the way they want to live.
03. It is better to support the elderly with a partner than one person.
In the warm sunshine, the laughter of Aunt Wang and Lao Li echoed in the community garden. They have gone through many years of life hand in hand, and their pension methods are both independent and interdependent, which has become a unique landscape.
1.Respect the respective skies.Aunt Wang said softly that although she and Lao Li live together, they both know how to respect each other's personal space. People are sophisticated, they deal with each other separately and will not interfere with each other's social circles. This moderate independence makes them cherish each other's company even more.
While maintaining personal space, they also participate in various elderly activities, such as fitness, reading, traveling, etc., these common experiences make their tacit understanding increase day by day, the quality of life has also been improved, and warmth and care have quietly grown in companionship.
Their agreement is even more touching, if one of them falls down due to illness, they will not let the other take on the responsibility of care, they will each rely on their own children. This way of pension avoids the moral constraints that may be brought about by "grouping" pension, and makes the pension life simple and happy.
2.The power of inclusion and understanding.The mutual tolerance between them is touching. They will not quarrel over trivial matters, but will choose trust, tolerance and understanding, and face life's problems together. Their life is full of harmony and warmth, and their retirement life has become a beautiful existence.
3.Share the beauty of life.In the days of partnering, they share the housework, which is a pleasure of life, not a burden. Their life is full of tacit understanding and joy, and their retirement life has become a beautiful sharing.
4.The wisdom of economic independence.They practice an AA lifestyle that makes them financially independent of each other, and this independence makes them more free in life and also makes their life more quality.
5.The abundance and expectation of social interaction.Their lives are no longer lonely, they share the joy of life together, participate in various social activities together, their lives are full of expectations and pursuits, and their retirement life has become a vibrant existence.
Their retirement life is a life attitude full of wisdom and enthusiasm, and their stories tell us that partnering for the elderly can be a beautiful life choice. As long as we can find the right partner, know how to respect and tolerate, our life will be full of sunshine and warmth. AI assistant creation season