On the bus back to my hometown, I ran into an elderly couple. They were on their way to visit their daughter, who had given birth, and they had two daughters in the family. I praise them for being blessed to have two daughters who are like little padded jackets. They smiled happily and said that the two daughters were very filial, and although they married far away, they often went home to visit, and they were much better than families with sons. They also proudly said that their two daughters have successful careers and high incomesMarriageAlso happy and happy.
Occasionally, the daughters would pick up their parents and go to their respective homes for a few days, and the relationship between them was very good, without the tension and quarrels that were like in families with sons. However, when I asked how the two daughters at home felt, the old man's face sank. He said to me, "Young man, you probably don't understand yet. While it's good to have two daughters, as parents, our biggest fear is that we die prematurely and can't protect them. Hearing this, I felt the endless worry in their hearts.
On the surface, the couple is proud of their two daughters' achievements and happiness, and very satisfied with their daughters' filial piety and ability. However, deep down in their hearts, there is a heavy worry and fear. They are afraid that after their death, their daughters will be wronged and bullied. In the traditionSocialIn the concept, the son is considered to be the pillar of the family, capable of protection and responsibility.
The daughters, on the other hand, often face unfair treatment and demands from their in-laws. For the two daughters, it was experiencedStressAnd the trouble is also relatively large. Parents are worried that their in-laws will give their daughters arbitrary instructions, harsh demands or treat them badly, and the daughters can't avoid it, and even endure it. The couple knew that only while they were alive could they protect their daughters and give them strength and support.
However, they are not just concerned about what happens to their daughters after they get married. As parents, they fear that their daughters will not have enough support after their death. This may have something to do with the fact that they have experienced the pain of losing their parents firsthand. In their eyes, whether their daughters marry or become mothers, they are always children in their eyes. They understand that after they leave, their daughters will face daunting responsibilities and challenges, and will need to take on the role of the breadwinner of the family. This endless worry and deep affection are fully displayed in their attachment and care for their daughters.
The love of parents is always selfless and heavy, just as the couple takes a long-distance hard seatTrainsIt's the same as going to visit my daughter. Their journey is long and hard, but their wish is so simple, they just want their daughter to live happily. However, for those who have daughters at home, they endureStressand worries, but ordinary people are incomprehensible.
Daughters can't be as coquettish and dependent as their parents were when they were alive. Although adult daughters also need the company and guidance of their parents, they are no longer the carefree children who can be spoiled in adulthood. When daughters become wives and mothers, they are seen as the main supporters and caregivers of the family.
They need to take on family responsibilities, take care of their husbands and children, and face the in-lawsSocialvarious expectations andStress。Daughters often have to face all kinds of challenges and difficulties, and at the same time, they don't have anyone to talk to. They can't express their helplessness and exhaustion in front of their parents, and they can't even cry coquettishly.
Therefore, for those parents who have two daughters in the family, their greatest wish is that their daughters can live happily ever after. They fear that they will die prematurely, that they will not be able to protect their daughters, and that they will become "adults" without parents.
As a quote from One Hundred Years of Solitude says, parents are the only barrier between us and death. Only by being around our parents can we not feel the presence of death. However, when our parents are gone, we must face death. The couple also deeply experienced the fear and helplessness of losing their parents. They understood that their death meant for their daughterslifeWhat will change.
First of all, the daughters will lose an object to rely on and spoil. in theirlifeParents have always been solid backers and selfless supporters. The attention and care given by the parents gives the daughters peace of mind and peace of mind. And when the parents are away, the daughters will have to take on more responsibilities andStressto become more independent and mature. They must learn to take care of themselves and their families, while also coping with challenges and difficulties. This transformation is a test for the daughters, and it is also a reality that must be faced in the growth and struggle.
Second, the daughters will lose the shelter that their parents protect. Parents are a haven for their daughters and a haven for their souls. In the outside world, daughters may encounter all kinds of hardships and unfairness, and without the protection of their parents, they will be more vulnerable to bullying and grievances. The loss of their parents means that the daughters have lost someone who can make decisions and protect them. The couple is well aware of this, so they are concerned about the challenges and dilemmas that their daughters may face in the future.
The love of parents is never changed, just like this couple. They rode hard seats for more than ten hoursTrainsGoing to visit their daughter is just a small manifestation of their love. Their love and concern are so heavy, they are willing to give everything to protect their daughters, and they only hope that they can live happilylife
Of course, this story is just one example, and every family's situation is different. However, for parents with daughters at home, it is inevitable that they will experience some similar worries and contradictions. No matter how happy their daughters are in their in-laws' house, parents will always worry about whether they will be wronged. They are afraid that after their death, their daughters will not have enough support. As a result, they will cherish and care more about the time in front of them and provide support and protection to their daughters as much as possible.
Therefore, for those who have daughters at home, we must be more understanding and considerate of the endless worries and concerns of parents. At the same time, we should also cherish the deep love between parents and daughters, and accompany and care for them more when they are still alive, so that they can feel our love and care.
There is a strong connection between the parents' endless worries and the daughter's inner struggles and insecurities. Parents are always concerned about the well-being and safety of their daughters, and they are worried that they will not receive adequate protection and support after their death. And the daughters are faced with a variety of families andSocialofStressand expectations, unable to coquettish and confide in their inner troubles.
For daughters, the death of their parents means that they will lose someone to rely on and protect, and will have to take on more responsibilities and challenges. However, the love and concern of parents will never go away, and their dedication and care are felt by their daughtersEndless lovewith warmth. As children, we should be more understanding and considerate of our parents' endless worries, cherish the time we spend with our parents, and give them more love and support.