Not long ago, a parent told me about their family's "strict mother and loving father" education method. At home, the wife is stricter, and the husband is gentler and more tolerant. The parents also raised their own doubts and concerns about this model, and were very concerned about whether such a role change would have adverse consequences for the development of children, especially the understanding of men and women and the shaping of personality. His concerns are also a problem for many families. From people's point of view, "strict father and loving mother" is a normal way of education that is more suitable for us, but "strict mother and loving father" is a bit of the opposite and is not easy to be recognized. However, with the progress of the times and the change of family philosophy, should we still stick to this old way of life?This question is very valuable for research.
Parental love. In the Chinese society of "strict father and mother", the father is often seen as the head of the family, while the mother is a gentle and tolerant image. In this way, in the face of the father's authority, the children often know how to respect and obey the rules, and get emotional comfort and support from the mother's care. However, there are certain drawbacks to this model. Fathers are too strict with their children, which will cause them to be afraid, have low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, and be insecure. Therefore, under the education method of "strict father and mother", parents should pay attention to the emotional needs of their children and prevent them from being too strict with their children's mental state.
At home, both parents are essential to the development of their children. In practice, we can try to find a balance between parents, that is, let the father be more tender and the mother can be moderately strict, so as to maintain the authority and precision of the parents over their children.
Father-mother relationship.
In stark contrast, the emerging family parenting style of "strict mother and loving father". In this model, the role of the mother is more severe, and the role of the father is more gentle. Such parenting methods have a negative impact on the gender status of children, especially in the development of boys, and the lack of the concept of "male role models" makes it difficult for them to make correct judgments. At the same time, this model will also have some influence on how women perceive the role of men. Parents should focus on providing appropriate gender guidance to their children in the teaching style of "strict mothers and loving fathers", so that they understand that men and women are equal and have equal status in society.
Gender roles and family education.
From "strict father and loving mother" to "strict mother and loving father", it can be seen that the roles played by men and women in family life are different. The traditional relationship between men and women is no longer suitable for today's world, so parents should be more flexible and open in teaching their children. Education should not be gender-centred, but should be tailored to the personality and needs of each child.
Finding a balance is the focus of homeschooling. Parents should teach their children in a timely manner according to their personality characteristics and developmental needs. In addition, communication and cooperation between parents is also crucial, so that parents can discuss together, develop lesson plans together, and have a common view of teaching.
Focus on the emotional needs of children. Children's growth is inseparable from the care and support of parents, whether it is "strict father and mother" or "strict mother and father", we must fully respect the spiritual needs of children and provide them with the necessary help and encouragement.
In short, "strict father and loving mother" and "strict mother and loving father" have their advantages, but they also have their limitations. Parents should understand the personality of children, grasp the relationship between "strictness" and "kindness", strengthen the communication and cooperation between parents and children, change roles in a timely manner, and pay attention to children's emotional needs. On this premise, create a complete development space for children, so that children have a positive and sound personality and adaptability.