53-year-old Aunt Liu has always been alone and raised her daughter alone. Her husband died in a car accident at an early age, leaving her and her young daughter to rely on for their lives. As a mother, Aunt Liu worked tirelessly to earn money and devoted all her time and energy to her daughter's growth. 
She regards her daughter as her life, and works hard day after day, just to give her the best life and future. Finally, Aunt Liu's daughter grew up and went to college smoothly. Aunt Liu looked at the child alone and was excited. She looks forward to her daughter being able to stay by her side to work and live after graduating from college, so that she can rely on her in her later years. However, my daughter met a Shanghai boy at university, and settled in Shanghai with her boyfriend after graduation. Aunt Liu understands her daughter's choice to start a family, but she can't hide the pain and loss in her heart. Today, Aunt Liu has retired. Every day in the old community of Zhengzhou, I live a repetitive and monotonous life, alone, and extremely lonely. My daughter occasionally comes back to visit, but after all, she lives far away. 
Aunt Liu understands that her daughter has her own home and is unlikely to return to her mother. This kind of retirement life that is too quiet and dull makes Aunt Liu yearn for someone to spend the rest of her life with. It was precisely because of this expectation in her heart that she decided to meet with Lao Li, a 60-year-old retired man, under the introduction of her friend Sister Wang, who danced square dance. Lao Li's condition is good, the property is stable, and she is the same age. Aunt Liu faintly felt that joining hands with Lao Li would bring a new life experience. So she resolutely decided to try to live with Lao Li to bring some expectation and happiness to her old age. On the first day she moved into Lao Li's house, Aunt Liu was full of apprehension and novelty. She gently placed her suitcase in her room and sat on the edge of the bed intently looking at the new home with which she would spend the rest of her life. 
Lao Li's house is spacious and tidy, the furniture is decently arranged, and it is full of life. This made Aunt Liu feel a lot more relieved, and she felt that she had finally found a warm little home that she could rely on and share. In the first few days, Lao Li took care of Aunt Liu's daily life and diet, which made her feel the long-lost love. Aunt Liu also did her best to take care of the housework and make some delicious dishes for Lao Li. The two spent a few days of comfortable life under each other's photos. Aunt Liu looked at Lao Li's praise and felt a kind of satisfaction of being needed. At the same time, she also fully appreciates the joy and warmth of life when she is accompanied by someone. Chat with Lao Li every day, watch TV, go to the nearby park, and sleep together at night. 
Aunt Liu felt the taste of happiness for a long time, as if years of fatigue and loneliness were relieved in this silence. She knows that the two have compatible personalities and get along well, which makes her yearn for the back road of life hand in hand with Lao Li. Such a beautiful day is just like the new life that Aunt Liu is looking forward to. She was sincerely grateful to Lao Li for bringing her this warmth, and she was also glad that she had finally come out of loneliness and found sunshine. Halfway through her life, Aunt Liu regained her vision and hope for the future. Just when Aunt Liu was immersed in this warm and beautiful cohabitation life, Lao Li's son and daughter-in-law began to come to the house frequently for dinner. At first, it was once every few days, but then it gradually changed to two visits every three days. 
When the family came, they were always empty-handed, and they never said hello in advance. Aunt Liu could only prepare a few dishes in a hurry, and then hurriedly entertained them. Lao Li's son's family is very picky about tastes, and Aunt Liu has to spend time to buy the most expensive and fresh ingredients, and every time she cooks, she is tired and has a sore back. What made her even more dissatisfied was that they left in a hurry after eating, never staying behind to help wash the bowl and get a dish. Aunt Liu looked at the mountains of dirty dishes, helpless and aggrieved in her heart. This frequent hospitality made Aunt Liu physically and mentally exhausted, and she ran back and forth between the kitchen and the dining table, and she had no time to take care of anything else. The cost of buying ingredients is also getting bigger and bigger, far exceeding the monthly living expenses of 3,000 yuan given to her by Lao Li. 
Just eating and wearing is already stretched, let alone buying something you like to have some fun. This made Aunt Liu more and more complaining about the arrival of Lao Li's daughter-in-law. She held back her stomach with bitter water and had nowhere to tell, and it was not good to tell Lao Li Ming in person, so she could only endure this excessive housework and economic pressure. She understood that she came to live with Lao Li in order to live a good old age, and this unique way of hospitality had a huge negative impact on the life she was looking forward to. The reason why Lao Li asked his son's family to come to his home for meals so often was out of his father's kindness, hoping to deepen the relationship with his daughter-in-law and get more opportunities to accompany his grandson. 
But he didn't put himself in Aunt Liu's shoes, and didn't understand that this meant a huge physical and mental burden for her. When Aunt Liu reflected the current situation of insufficient living expenses to Lao Li, Lao Li not only questioned her spending money too quickly, but also emphasized that "children come to eat at home because they can afford you". This kind of superficial concern for her children, but in fact partiality, made Aunt Liu feel deeply humiliated. She thought that finding Lao Li was to find a life partner, but she didn't expect that Lao Li would not care about her new partner's feelings for the sake of her children. Actually, Aunt Liu is not opposed to entertaining her daughter-in-law a few times once in a while. But Lao Li didn't put himself in her shoes, and arranged for his son to eat again and again, but he didn't consider whether this hard work exceeded Aunt Liu's physical and mental capacity. 
This wrong approach and attitude made the relationship between the two parties more and more rigid, and also caused Aunt Liu to leave home in anger. When Lao Li questioned Aunt Liu for spending money too quickly, the last glimmer of hope in Aunt Liu's heart was also shattered. She was furious, realizing that she was not as important to Lao Li as his unsuccessful son in Lao Li's heart. For this group of daughters-in-law who can only eat white food, she works hard day after day, exhausting her energy and money, and Lao Li not only does not appreciate it, but also questions herself, which is really unacceptable to her. Aunt Liu ripped off her apron and decided to leave immediately. She thought of the food she had worked so hard to prepare these days, and the various things she had served them in their daily lives, and her heart was furious. 
All she wants is someone who really takes care of herself, and Lao Li clearly can't provide this. So she chose to open her legs and leave this suffocating place, maybe this is another detour on the road of life, she must turn around and find a way out again. As for Lao Li still muttering behind her, Aunt Liu turned a deaf ear. She understands that her hard work and dedication have never been valued by Lao Li, and this relationship is destined to not last long. Even if she is lonely, she will never allow herself to be used as a free nanny and cook for the Lao Li family. So, with infinite regret and pain, Aunt Liu also left Lao Li's house firmly. After leaving Lao Li's house, Aunt Liu still lives a peaceful life living alone. She was no longer enthusiastic about community activities, nor did she think about finding a new partner, but lived the rest of her life on a meager pension. 
When she lost Lao Li Chu, she also fell into a low ebb and hesitation, but after all, she still walked alone. Looking back on this emotional experience, Aunt Liu couldn't help but feel a lot of emotion. She realized that many elderly people who live alone often ignore whether they can truly be happy after marriage when looking for a partner. Aunt Liu and Lao Li could have been the perfect life partners, but in the end they fell apart, and Lao Li's fault was to blindly accommodate their children and not put themselves in the shoes of their new partners. This inspired Aunt Liu: Does our society ignore the inner feelings of the elderly too much?Many children either urge the elderly to find another partner, or manipulate the emotional life of the elderly.
As everyone knows, for empty nesters, finding a truly matched partner is the key to lifelong happiness. Otherwise, a marriage against your will can sometimes be more hopeless than living alone. The story of Aunt Liu and Lao Li is worth pondering for every pair of elderly people who are preparing to form a new family. Only by considering one's own feelings first, rather than being obedient to one's children, can both husband and wife find true comfort. This is also a summary of Aunt Liu's experience that she hopes to warn future generations through her own experience.