I'm here to teach you how to be truly diligent, and learn to say goodbye to pseudo-diligence.
You have a lot of goals, you have determination, you have the anxiety of being motivated, and you have put in some effort to a greater or lesser extent. I tired myself every day, and when I looked back, I realized that I hadn't done anything, that I had done nothing.
Weird, isn't it?The problem is, you're not lazy. But you give your time, you restrain your desires, and you don't get anything in return. It's so frustrating.
You're not really diligent, your effort is just a protective color for you to wear.
Let's start with a few common pseudo-diligence situations and how to solve them.
First, spend a lot of time doing the simplest things.
You envy those who are knowledgeable and insightful, so you decide to read a lot. But you are addicted to philatelic reading, one book after another, you can't put it down, you see the wonderful passages and focus on it, and then happily mark that you have read the 89th book this year, and then 11 more, and a hundred great plans have become.
However, reading books is the easiest step to becoming a "knowledgeable and insightful person". Memory, application, output, and repetition are Xi more important links.
In the process of achieving your goals, you are only willing to take the step that you are comfortable with.
Who says you don't read diligently?No one dares to say that. You're really trying, but you're actually being smart, you're being lazy, you're performing with yourself.
If your workout routine doesn't make your muscles feel a little sore, then it won't really workout and grow.
Staying in your comfort zone is inefficient;It's the same with doing things. If your task makes you feel happy and good, it means that you haven't entered the real promotion zone yet.
After thinking a little about the tasks that I can achieve, I feel that I need to think and overcome difficulties in order to be called "really diligent".
Anything that is related to hard work has to have a difficult and painful part. If you can't make an effort, use the simplest effort to comfort yourself with your anxiety about progress. How to solve it, just face it, there is no other way.
In the second case, I never test what I get.
You are busy from morning to night, but you feel like you haven't learned anything, you haven't accomplished anything. Because you're just buying ingredients and hoarding recipes, it's only when you make the dishes that you can really feel that you've done something.
What you have learned should be tested immediately, whether you remember it or not, whether you can do the question.
Mark my words:
Utilitarianism cannot be overemphasized for true diligence. You want to see feedback, and you want to see feedback immediately. Any effort that is not aimed at detecting output is a hooligan.
There is a bit of overlap with the first one, but I think it's worth mentioning it separately. )
In the third case, you just bury your head in Xi and never summarize the rules.
You will find that people who are good at learning and Xi are good at summarizing methods. In the process of your Xi, you must have met many people who work harder than others, but their grades are not ideal;There are also some people who don't seem to read much, but are always excellent.
If it's a difference between smart and not, it naturally exists. Being smart and being good at finding ways can be obvious to each other.
I won't go into this point. In short, the right approach is very important, don't work behind closed doors, don't just rely on your own intuition to solve problems, be good at reflecting on yourself, and be good at learning from others Xi.
Most of the things can be learned. Find the right way to turn yourself from a pedestrian to a subway. Strategic diligence is just as important, if not more important, than tactical diligence.
Fourth, the moral licensing effect keeps you wandering in place, indulging in the illusion of effort.
I've written about this: Simply put, the moral permissibility effect is when you make some superficial effort toward a goal, or even just foresee a grand plan, you tend to be moved and feel that you are getting better. To do it or not to do it in the future, you will not be the best.
For example, before learning English, ** a bunch of English materials;If you want to work out, follow a bunch of bloggers, buy running shoes or something, get a fitness card or something.
It's just that these acts of collecting materials and articles give you a sense of "I've tried" and give you moral permission.
The possibility that you can get better, right in front of you, within reach, is enough to comfort you.
In the first case, at least you put in a real effort;But moral permissibility is fundamentally zero, and it is a manifestation of self-deception.
Everyone was and is an actor in this collective drama. You can't read a book unless you borrow it. Who can't smell a book?
Remember when I said that people like to have a particularly perfect, well-fitted plan and make efficient use of all the blocks and fragments?
Ah, just to give you moral permission. Let's start with the solution.
Summary: Many people's diligence is just pseudo-diligence, you put in the effort, but you get little. To be truly diligent, you may need to pay attention to the following:
Don't just do the easiest part of things, only the tasks that require you to work on your tiptoes are where you should really be diligent;
For true diligence, utilitarianism. Don't overdo it, if you want to see the feedback, you have to see the feedback right away;
It is very important to study Xi carefully, and it may be even more important to be good at summarizing the rules and finding the essence of the problem
Reject moral permission, do not engage in formalism, and simplify what needs to be done to the core.
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