Today I would like to recommend a book to you "May You Grow Up Slowly".
This is a collection of essays by famous writers of "slow parenting", including nearly 30 essays, one of which is a letter written by Liang Qichao to his son Liang Sicheng, entitled "Don't ask about harvest, but ask about cultivation".
This letter is actually a reply.
Before this letter, Liang Sicheng had written a letter to his father Liang Qichao, in which he said: He has been studying at the University of Pennsylvania for three years, and he is drawing every day, worrying that he will become a painter and run counter to his ideals.
Liang Qichao replied to the letter, using the comparison of the great poets Li Bai and Du Fu of the Tang Dynasty with Yao Chong and Song Jing to encourage Liang Sicheng to settle down, study steadily, not pay too much attention to the results, but focus on the process, not to rush for success, but to persevere.
He also reminded Liang Sicheng to read more, study more, travel more, experience more, not be complacent or inferior, and have lofty ideals and ambitions.
In this letter, there is a sentence that says, "Don't ask about the harvest, but ask about the cultivation."
This sentence also applies to educating children, don't give children too much pressure, don't give children too much expectations, don't give children too many comparisons, but give children enough time, enough space, enough trust, so that children can explore and discover their own world at their own pace, according to their own interests, and according to their own potential.
This sentence appears on the front page of the first chapter of the opening chapter "Dear Child", and Lao Tie asked, how should this sentence be understood?
This sentence is to say, I hope you can be loved by many people, and if not, I also hope that you can learn to be tolerant in loneliness.
This sentence expresses a good wish, hoping that everyone can be loved and can feel the warmth of being loved. If you are not loved, you also hope to be able to find yourself in loneliness, learn to be tolerant, and learn to understand others.
Loneliness is a difficult state to endure, and it can make people feel lonely, sad, and even hopeless.
In loneliness, we can become selfish, narrow-minded, or even indifferent. If we can learn to be tolerant in loneliness, then we will be able to understand others more, be more tolerant of others, and be kinder and happier.
This quote is also an encouragement not to give up hope even in loneliness, to believe in ourselves, and to strive to be a better person.
Specifically, this sentence can be divided into two parts:
The first part is "May you be loved by many". This sentence expresses the hope that you can be loved by many people and be able to feel the warmth of being loved. Love is the most beautiful emotion in the world, and it can bring happiness, joy, and hope.
When we are loved, we feel that we are needed and valued, and we are more confident and courageous.
The second part is "If not, I hope you learn to be tolerant in your loneliness". This sentence expresses a realistic attitude. In real life, not everyone can be loved by many people.
If we are not loved, do not be disappointed and do not feel inferior. We should find ourselves in loneliness, learn to be tolerant, and learn to understand others.
Learning to be tolerant in loneliness is a very important process.
Tolerance is a noble quality that enables us to be more understanding, more tolerant, kinder, and happier.
In addition, in this book, you can see different parents and children, their stories are full of wisdom and emotion, and let us understand that every child is unique and should be treated with gentleness.
Therefore, this book, it is very suitable for parents and children to read together and build bridges of communication with each other.
This book also allows us to learn to be grateful to our parents, and also allows us to cherish our children, so that we can grow up together and everything will be in time.
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