"The spring silkworm is dead to the end, and the wax torch turns to ash and tears begin to dry. ”
When I was a child, I always heard someone praise the teacher with this poem.
Teacher, a noble profession, a glorious image. They are like spring silkworms, constantly spitting out silk for the benefit of mankind until the last moment;They are like candles, burning themselves inch by inch, illuminating others until they are all reduced to ashes.
Minglong Boy Lei Lizhou is such a teacher.
When Lei Ming was a child, every time he returned home, he would see his father tutoring his students, and his father was full of love and concern for his students, but he was always cold to him.
Since he was a child, Lei Ming has been required to count down every day, he must do what he should do within the specified time, and if he has a slight flaw, he will be severely criticized by his father, and he has never been praised by his father for what he has worked hard to do.
Lei Lizhou always hits Lei Ming, thinking that he can't do anything well. Lei Ming was determined to take the Qingbei exam, and he denied his idea very contemptuously;Lei Ming chose to be a teacher, and he said that he did not deserve to be a teacher;Lei Ming went to work, and Lei Lizhou disagreed.
The students in Lei Ming's class have a bit of a personality problem, Lei Ming asked his father for advice, and Lei Lizhou told him to encourage the students more, help her open her heart, and care more about and accompany her students as a teacher.
At that moment, Lei Ming realized that his father did not know how to treat a child, nor was he impatient and unwilling to accompany him, but he only wanted to give these to his students, and did not want to care, encourage, and accompany his son.
Lei Ming held a banquet for further education, all relatives and friends have been present, but Lei Lizhou is not there, he was eating with his students at that time, and that student, who was cared for and helped by him all the way, now because there is no travel money to go to college, he came to borrow money from him.
Seeing Lei Lizhou's embarrassed face, saying that his money was also left for his son's tuition, the student fell to his knees, and when Lei Lizhou secretly put a red envelope in his bag, he saw the pesticide he put in the bag. On that day, Lei Lizhou did not appear at his son's college banquet in the end.
His wife was sick and was anxious to wait for him to sign for surgery, but Lei Lizhou couldn't find time to sign for the sake of his students, and finally his wife died, which also became a hurdle that Lei Ming couldn't get over in his heart.
Lei Lizhou is such a teacher who has always only seen students, he is a real wax torch, burning himself, just to illuminate students.
Minglong Boy Lei Ming listened to Lei Lizhou's words and cared for the flawed female student, and finally the female student fell in love with him and jumped to her death after being rejected.
Lei Ming's career has suffered a heavy blow, and he has always lived in guilt for female students and their families, and has been sponsoring female students' families all year round.
Lei Lizhou suffered from Alzheimer's disease in his later years, his wife was long gone, and his son could not be by his side every day to make money, so he had to be sent to a nursing home.
He has been high and strong all his life, and now he has reached the point where he needs to be taken care of by someone to eat, drink and Lazar, and he also cares about face and dignity, because the excrement is not cleaned up in time, he has bedsores on his body, and when Lei Ming rushed to the hospital, he was being intubated by a group of doctors.
Seeing Lei Ming coming, Lei Lizhou muttered that he had a very important thing to tell him, and when Lei Ming asked him what it was, he muttered that he remembered something very important, but he couldn't remember what it was. After a while, he shouted again, asked who Lei Ming was, and clamored to see his son.
He no longer recognized his son, but he did not forget to see his son at this time, not his students. You see, he also knows that relatives are far away, but he was reluctant to give even a little energy to those who are closer.
It was impossible for those students back then to abandon their careers and families and stay by their side to take care of him. Only the son who was beaten and disliked by him, in order to make money to treat him, did not hesitate to gamble with the five children of class 11, and was expelled from the school because of this.
Doesn't Lei Ming want to be a good teacher?It's just that for him, he has a father who doesn't care about his family's life for the sake of his students, and he doesn't want to be such a person anymore.
People like Lei Lizhou, great isn't it?Great. But he has nothing to celebrate. We have been taught to "sacrifice ourselves for others" since we were young, but that is only "self-sacrifice", not to give up our wives, children, and families.
In Lei Lizhou's eyes and heart, all the people are not important, and they have nothing to do with him, except for his students. This kind of thinking and behavior is too paranoid and too scary.
An excellent person, a sound person, should not be one who cares about one thing or the other, and cannot be confused. Each of us is not an isolated existence, we all have social attributes, and society has given us multiple identities, so we should take on every responsibility.
As a teacher, Lei Lizhou cares about his students and accompanies them, and there is nothing wrong with that. But he is not only a teacher, he is also a father and a husband.
Just because he cares about his students doesn't mean he has to hit his sonHe accompanies students, which does not mean that he has to snub his son. While his wife lies in the hospital, waiting for him to sign for the operation, he should know that saving lives is more urgent than teaching a student an exercise.
Lei Lizhou lived in the self-touching of self-sacrifice, feeling that he was a spring silkworm and a wax torch, so he should spit out the last bite of silk for his students and shed the last tears, but he didn't realize that what he gave up was never just himself, but his family.
His wife died of illness and his son was burdened with a crippled childhood, all of which were caused by his "wax torch thinking". The biggest misunderstanding of the "wax torch thinking" is that we always think that only by sacrificing ourselves can we illuminate others.
In fact, electric lights do not need to burn themselves and illuminate a larger area than candles.
What does the desolation of Lei Lizhou's later years indicate?Can you say that his students are doing something wrong?No. They have been accompanied and cared for by teachers, but when they become adults, they have their own lives, their own lovers and relatives, and it is impossible for them to leave behind those responsibilities and only stay by Lei Lizhou's side every day.
This is the boundary and proportionality that a normal person should have.
You see, how wrong Lei Lizhou is?When he needed someone to take care of him, he also knew to call his son, not his student, but when he was young, he didn't have a son in his eyes, only a student.
Such greatness is not greatness, it is selfishness, and it is unclear. What he wants is not to create more value, but to satisfy his desire and psychology to pursue nobility.
In fact, whether it is a teacher or any other profession, we should do our best to do a good job. But doing your best does not mean that you have to sacrifice yourself and give up your family.
The ancients didn't have electric lights, so they wanted you to make wax torches. Nowadays, we should understand that only by continuing to become a better version of yourself can you create greater value for others.
Winter chapter of romance dramas