In our society, there is a special group of women who are called "stepmothers", although they are not the biological parents of their children, they take on the responsibilities of mothers, taking care of and educating children who are not related to them by blood. However, the identity of a "stepmother" is not easy, as a "stepmother" faces many challenges and pressures in the family.
A marriage expert pointed out that, first of all, although the "stepmother" may try her best to establish an intimate relationship with her stepchildren, the emotional distance between them is insurmountable, and there may be an emotional gap between them, and this emotional gap is insurmountable. This emotional gap may stem from a child's grief over the loss of their biological mother, or from a foreign mother's suspicions. In this case, the "stepmother" needs to make more efforts to understand the feelings of the stepchildren, to comfort the hearts of the stepchildren, and to win the trust of the stepchildren.
The marriage expert went on to point out that, secondly, some "stepmothers" may also face a contest with their husband's ex-wife. In this case, the situation of the "stepmother" may seem extremely difficult. On the one hand, the "stepmother" needs to maintain good communication with her husband's ex-wife so that they can care about the growth of the children together, and on the other hand, the "stepmother" also needs to maintain the relationship between herself and her husband so that she can make the family harmonious.
The marriage expert continued to point out that in addition, the "stepmother" also needs to face the pressure of society in the family. Because in the eyes of many people, "stepmothers" are imperfect, and there will always be people who feel that they can't selflessly pay for their stepchildren like their biological mothers. This prejudice can put a lot of psychological pressure on the "stepmother", thus making them feel isolated and helpless in the family.
The marriage expert finally pointed out that in general, it is very difficult to be a "stepmother". "It is difficult to be a stepmother" is a complex social problem that requires the joint efforts of the whole society to solve it. We should be more understanding and respectful of these special women, and provide them with more support and help. At the same time, we should also reflect on and change the prejudice and discrimination against "stepmothers" in order to make them feel relieved.
So, how difficult is it to be a "stepmother"?Below, let's talk about an example of "stepmothers are difficult to be".
4 years ago, after being introduced, the woman Feng married a divorced man with a daughter. At that time, He's daughter Qianqian (pseudonym) was only 4 years old.
The woman Feng said: "People say that 'nurturing grace is greater than giving birth'. Under the influence of this statement, since I married He, I have always treated my stepdaughter Qianqian as my own daughter. In terms of eating, drinking, and dressing, I will try my best to make her eat better and dress warmer than children of the same age. It can be said that I put my whole body and soul into my stepdaughter Qianqian. In order to raise her well, I don't want to have biological children myself, although my husband He persuaded me many times, I insisted on not having children anymore. ”
The woman Feng continued: "Although I treat my stepdaughter Qianqian as my own daughter, I always feel that her heart is separated from mine. She wouldn't tell me anything, and seemed to want to avoid me every day. Sometimes, even though I made delicious food for her, she secretly complained to my husband He, saying how bad the food I cooked for her was, how bad it was. ”
The woman Feng continued: "I am a gentle woman who doesn't lose her temper very much. Normally, I don't quarrel with my husband. But just yesterday, I had a quarrel with my husband He because I wanted to go back to my parents' house to visit my mother, and when I was arguing with my husband He, my stepdaughter Qianqian first rushed to the closet and pulled my clothes to the ground, and then pointed directly at my nose and said, 'Hurry up and pack your things and leave immediately!'When I heard my stepdaughter Qianqian say this, I suddenly felt a chill. From this point of view, it is too difficult to be a stepmother. ”
The woman Feng finally said: "My stepdaughter Qianqian is only 8 years old now. I was thinking: 8 years old still dared to treat me like this, and when she grows up, I am afraid that she will treat me even worse. Thinking of this, I felt that I had to have my own biological children, otherwise, my situation would be more and more difficult!”
The above is a general process of this event.
When many netizens learned about this incident, netizens started a heated discussion.
Netizens' years are like songs: Other people's children can never be raised. I'm also a stepmother, I used to treat my husband's daughter as my own, however, she didn't even have any family affection with me, and I was also very chilled!
Netizens are thriving: It's really difficult to be a stepmother!Some stepchildren, you just cut off your heart and let them eat it, and they don't appreciate it!
In short, netizens have a lot to talk about.
"It's hard to be a stepmother" is an indisputable social reality. However, although it is difficult to be a stepmother, there are times when some women have to be stepmothers. Lao Hu feels that as a husband, he has the responsibility to educate his children, and when his children are disrespectful to their stepmothers, they should take action to educate and manage their children. Only in this way can the relationship between the children and the stepmother become harmonious.
What do you think?