The phenomenon of cold eating in rural areas is frequent, and the wedding farce has caused thinking about where the gift money is going
Since ancient times, China has had the custom of entertaining guests. Whether it is a wedding banquet or a birthday banquet, it is a major event for relatives and friends to gather. Although many banquet names have been abolished, some customs still exist.
Eating is a common phenomenon in urban areas, especially in rural areas. In the past, the family was cooked by relatives and friends, but with the development of the economy, many people will cook for the chef at home. In the countryside, eating is about a lively atmosphere, but now there is a situation of "eating cold seats", and many people leave in a hurry after leaving only a small part. What's going on?
One: Expectations for banquets have decreased.
Today, chicken, duck, fish and beef can be found everywhere not only in the city but also in the countryside, and used to be only eaten during the Spring Festival.
With the improvement of living standards, more and more people have noticed that they eat better, eat less and less, and eat less and less. Therefore, it is reasonable for the hosts to prepare a table of "cold seats".
Two: busy work, not enough time and energy.
With the development of society, many peasants went out to work and do business, and they often worked in the city and also worked outside. They are so busy with work that it is difficult for them to spare the energy to return to their hometowns for the feast. Even if you receive an invitation and want to go back, it is not so easy. Going back is time-consuming and costly, not to mention the fatigue of the journey, and there is also socializing at the banquet.
Migrant workers working in rural areas are more willing to devote their only time and energy to work and life. In their opinion, this banquet is not necessary at all. Therefore, they would rather choose to transfer the gift money to the woman through WeChat or Alipay rather than be present in person.
Three: not adapting to the social environment, averse to communication, do not like small talk.
At the village banquet, I often meet some people I don't know or don't know, and they don't have any common topics or hobbies with each other, that is, they just talk casually. Many people love to drink, and in this case, it is difficult for people to refuse.
This is an embarrassing and unbearable experience for those who are not good at communicating with people. They don't like to socialize, and they don't like to get drunk. Therefore, they are generally reluctant to go to the banquets held in the villages, otherwise they will go through the motions. Because they believe that by doing so, they can avoid too many troubles and troubles, and they can also maintain personal privacy and self-esteem. They would rather deal with acquaintances or be alone.
Four: The atmosphere of the banquet has changed.
In the past, in the countryside, unless it was a major event or a sad event, they would hold a banquet and invite relatives and friends to attend. However, this time, something has changed. Take our hometown as an example, some people will hold banquets to show off their newly arrived cars and invite relatives and friends, but their goal is no longer to celebrate, just to earn more money.
After realizing this, many people think that it is superfluous to go to the banquet by themselves. Just find someone to make a 100 yuan red envelope, and some people are reluctant to even give a gift, let alone when the time comes. As a result, the guests fell into the embarrassing situation of "cold seats".
Finally. Banquets are a custom, and it is also a tradition for everyone to gather together to celebrate and give each other some gifts. But now, this custom has slowly changed, especially in the countryside, and some bad habits have emerged, such as comparison, accumulation of wealth, and so on. As a result, many strangers were invited to the banquet just to get more pocket money.
However, in some places, there is a situation of "eating cold seats", which is actually a kind of resistance to the bad culture of society. They came here just to give a gift of one or two hundred yuan in front of the old man, and left without even eating. Such a banquet is very embarrassing, and if such a banquet is held in the future, it will be more careful.