Since ancient times, China has had a tradition of inviting banquets, whether it is a wedding banquet or a birthday banquet, it is a grand event for family and friends to gather. Although many of the banquets have been cancelled, some traditions have remained.
In the cities, eating and drinking is very popular, especially in the countryside. In the past, most of the food in rural areas was cooked by relatives, but now with the improvement of rural living standards, chefs have begun to cook at home. Rural banquets value a lively atmosphere, but there is a phenomenon of "eating cold seats", and many people leave the table in a hurry with only money. Why is this happening?
One: People don't expect the banquet so much anymore
Nowadays, not only in cities, but also in rural areas, chicken, duck, fish, beef, etc., are commonly found on the daily dining table, and these ingredients used to be only seen during the Chinese New Year.
With the improvement of people's living conditions, they have begun to pay more attention to healthy eating, no longer keen on greasy meals, and prefer light tastes. Therefore, it is reasonable for the host to set up a "cold seat".
2. Busy work, lack of time and energy
With the changes of the times, many rural people go out to work or start businesses, often busy in the city or running around for a long time. They are so busy with work that they find it difficult to find time and energy to go back to the countryside to attend the banquet. Even if you receive an invitation, it is difficult to return to your hometown easily. It takes time and money to get home, not to mention the fatigue of the journey, and the complexity of the meal.
For these rural people who work outside the home, they are more willing to devote their limited time and energy to their own work and life. They don't think it's cost-effective or unnecessary to run for a meal. As a result, they prefer to transfer money directly to their owners through WeChat or Alipay, rather than being present at the scene.
Three: social discomfort, hating occasions and pleasantries
At the rural banquet, there will always be unfamiliar or strange people, and everyone lacks common topics and interests, so they can only barely catch up with a few words. And many people like to persuade them to drink, and the toasting scene is often difficult to refuse.
It's an awkward and difficult experience for introverts or people who aren't very sociable. They hate socializing and don't want to be drunk. As a result, they are more likely to avoid attending rural banquets or just passing through the motions. They feel that this will save a lot of embarrassment and stress, while also protecting their privacy and dignity. They prefer to be with familiar people or to be alone and quiet.
Four: The banquet has changed its taste
In the past, only big or sad events were held in the countryside to set up banquets, and relatives and friends were invited to celebrate or mourn together. But now, things have changed. In their hometowns, for example, some people even hold banquets to show off their newly purchased vehicles and invite relatives and friends to participate, but the purpose is no longer to share joy, but simply to earn money.
After discovering this situation, many people feel that there is no need to attend such a banquet in person. Simply ask someone to send a red envelope of 100 yuan, and some are not even willing to give money, and they will not go to the banquet on the spot. In this way, it led to an embarrassing "cold seat" situation at the host's house.
Finally
Family feasts were originally a tradition, and it was also a traditional way for everyone to get together to celebrate and give away money. But now this custom is gradually evolving, especially in the countryside, and some bad habits are beginning to spread, such as comparing and accumulating wealth. People began to invite a large number of people they didn't know to banquets just to make a little more money.
However, the phenomenon of "eating cold seats" in rural areas is actually a form of rebellion against this unhealthy culture. They just attended the banquet just to save face for their elders, but they only gave one or two hundred pieces of money, and left in a hurry without even eating. This kind of deserted feast scene is really embarrassing, and people will be more cautious when holding similar banquets in the future. Rural