18th century FrancePhilosopherDennisDiderot received a beautiful gift from a friendNightgownLater, he fell into an inextricable emotion. He began to feel like everything around him didn't match this gorgeous pieceNightgown, so he not only threw away the old furniture, but also replaced itcarpets, renovated the whole home. However, instead of being happier because of this, he felt exhausted. This is what economists call the "Diderot effect", in which people keep adding more items to an object after they own it in order to achieve psychological balance.
In this materialistic era, various activities appear from time to time, and it is easy to be blindly bought by the outside world to buy unwanted items. However, when we are occupied by objects, objects are also taking possession of us. Our time, energy, and wealth are all wasted on these items without any more happiness. Ancient GreecePhilosopherSocratesThink, less desire to feel light. If we pursue material things too much, our spirit will become barren and barren, and if we pursue fame and fortune too much, our body and mind will become exhausted. On the contrary, if we can follow the flow of circumstances and focus only on what really matters, we will be able to live a relaxed and contemplative life.
James, a psychologist, once used a birdcage to influence his buddies to eventually give up what he didn't need. This is known as the "birdcage effect", and when we accept an item or make a decision, we tend to be bound by that item or decision. We'll either buy a matching item to make it make sense, or change our plan to make the decision reasonable.
in realitylifeWe also often fall into the "birdcage effect". For example, we buy an expensive dress, and to match the dress, we buy another expensive pairShoes。Or, we decide to go to a party, and in order to rationalize that decision, we change our original plan and spend more time and money. In this way, we are trapped in an infinite loop of birdcages, unable to extricate ourselves.
To get rid of the "birdcage effect", we must first be clear about our real needs and goals, and not be distracted by the outside world. Second, we need to examine whether our choices are reasonable and truly in line with our values. Most importantly, we need to have the courage to let go of unnecessary items and decisions and keep only what really matters.
The accumulation of items can make us feel frustrated and powerless, while neatness and order can bring usTranquilitywithPeaceful。The most important rule of organizing things is to keep things simple and throw away or give things that you don't need to others. Keep only the items we really need and like that are able to make ourslifeMore relaxed and enjoyable. Another principle of organizing things is that everything should have a fixed place of belonging, so that it is not only convenient for us to find things, but also to keep oursHomeNeat and organized.
In addition to organizing things, we can also organize our thoughts. Psychologists believe that the human brain is an information-processing center, and anxiety and stress arise when our brains are too disorganized. Therefore, we must learn to organize our thoughts, record important things and put trivial things aside.
Many people complain that they don't have enough time, but in fact, everyone has 24 hours a day, it's just that we don't manage our time properly. To manage your time well, you must first be clear about your priorities. We should put what's important first and not get bogged down by trivial things. Second, we need to learn to say no and not sacrifice our time for the sake of other people's requests. The most important thing is that we make the most of the fragmented time, such as on the road, in the time of waiting in line, we can read a book, listen to ** or think about a problem.
The real change is learning to organize yourself. We need to avoid being bogged down in material things, don't fall into the "birdcage effect", keep tidy and organized, and learn to manage our time. Only when we have the ability to organize ourselves can we face it betterlifeThe challenge of realizing their own value.