Wang Xiu'e is Lao Ding's virtuous helper, the mother of four boys, and a woman who died of difficult childbirth. In the past, people used to think of her as a tragic character. However, after Domino re-examined the drama "Parental Love", she entered Wang Xiu'e's world through a deeper perspective and discovered her extraordinary side, in fact, she lived a very happy life.
First of all, I have to mention the unique charm of Wang Xiu'e. She's not perfect, but she's definitely not stupid. She deeply understands Lao Ding's bottom line and expectations. In front of outsiders, she always saved enough face for Lao Ding, and let Lao Ding maintain the dignity of a man in front of others. Once, when everyone was talking, she accidentally fell off the stool, Lao Ding did not step forward to help, but she treated it indifferently, because she understood that in Lao Ding's heart, a man should keep his arrogance.
At home, although she didn't communicate much with Lao Ding, Wang Xiu'e would occasionally be naughty and deliberately provoke Lao Ding: "Fight, beat!."The wisdom in this is that she knows that even if Lao Ding is angry, he will not really do anything to her. This is a unique way of getting along with Lao Ding. Wang Xiu'e keeps the whole house in order. The diet and daily life of the three children and Lao Ding are all managed by her alone. Sometimes, she even has to deliver home-cooked meals to her neighbors An Jie and Jiang Defu. At the same time, she also carefully taught Jiang Dehua how to take care of the children. Such a daughter-in-law is really rare.
The division of labor in the family is clear, Lao Ding makes money outside the home, and Wang Xiu'e supports the family inside. Without her, the home wouldn't have been able to run so smoothly. Her dedication and hard work to the family make Lao Ding have no worries about working outside. In Lao Ding's heart, Wang Xiu'e is an indispensable treasure in his life.
And Wang Xiu'e is the most admirable thing about the scene where she delivered An Jie. At that time, she was bold and careful, showing extraordinary wisdom and courage.
Therefore, if you re-examine the role of Wang Xiu'e, you will find that she is actually a very powerful woman with a rich heart. In the context of that special era, she lived her own happy life in her own unique way. At that critical juncture, if Wang Xiu'e's decisiveness and carefulness were missing, An Jie's child would probably be born on the road. It was Wang Xiu'e who stabilized the panicked situation, guided the nanny and Jiang Dehua to prepare the required items, and personally delivered An Jie after disinfection and cut the umbilical cord. Her bravery and determination were vividly displayed in that moment, without too much hesitation and concern.
But Wang Xiu'e is not only bold, but also careful. Although she had only given birth by herself and watched others deliver babies, she was able to remember the delivery process in its entirety. This keen observation and memory makes people have to admire her intelligence and carefulness.
She had noticed Lao Ding's special feelings for An Jie, which showed her sensitivity and carefulness. Although she had an argument with Lao Ding because of this, and was even heard by Jiang Defu, she fell into an embarrassing situation, but she never gave up protecting her family and defending her marriage. In her opinion, it is not an irreparable tragedy that her husband likes other women, and she firmly believes that as long as she gets it back, it will be fine.
In order to achieve this goal, Wang Xiu'e and Jiang Dehua formed a united front and jointly planned to let An Jie leave. They proceeded in two steps: first, let Jiang Dehua persuade An Jie to live on the island;Then, at the suggestion of Secretary Yang, Jiang Dehua decided to return to his hometown immediately. They hoped that this would make An Jie retreat from the difficulties and take the initiative to go to the island to find Jiang Defu. And the result was just as they expected, Anjie compromised in the predicament and took the children to the island.
In this process, Wang Xiu'e's wisdom, bravery, carefulness and decisiveness have been fully demonstrated. Not only did she succeed in dealing with potential rivals, but she also protected her family and marriage in her own way. Her character and way of doing things are imbued with the power of intellect and emotion, making a lasting impression. Wang Xiu'e's marital crisis was resolved, and she felt that she had regained her happiness. However, from the perspective of an onlooker, Wang Xiu'e's life is actually full of misfortunes. Lao Ding has always hoped to have a knowledgeable and cultured partner, and Wang Xiu'e is just a rural woman who can't read big words. The lack of a common language between the two made communication a major obstacle in their relationship.
Wang Xiu'e's life course is also very bumpy. As an officer's wife in the new era, she died of dystocia during childbirth, and Lao Ding was not by her side at that time. In the eyes of many people, her departure makes people sigh for her fate.
However, in Wang Xiu'e's own cognition, she feels that she is very happy. She loves Lao Ding deeply, not only loves him as a person, but is also proud of his military career. She often sang the song "Mulan", expressing her reverence and yearning for this woman who could serve in the army for her father. In her heart, Mulan is not only a strong woman, but also a successful soldier, and Lao Ding is also a soldier.
In addition, Wang Xiu'e thinks that Lao Ding is a good man who takes care of his family. He not only has to raise his son, but also take care of his parents, which is a sign of responsibility in the eyes of rural people. Regarding the lack of a common language between the two, Wang Xiu'e did not care too much. In her opinion, the growth of children is the most important thing.
In the end, Wang Xiu'e thinks that Lao Ding is a gentle man. The "gentleness" here does not mean that the two have the same heart and affection for each other, but that Lao Ding never speaks ill of each other, nor does he beat people. In Wang Xiu'e's heart, this is already a perfect marriage. She didn't have high expectations for marriage because she knew that the women around her lived like this.
If Wang Xiu'e is asked to choose again, she will still choose to give birth to Ding Si. In her opinion, it is her obligation to have children, and it is Lao Ding's responsibility to make money. Although she eventually died in childbirth, she gave birth to four sons for Lao Ding's family in her life, and successfully educated Jiang Dehua as a "sister" who was willing to take care of Lao Ding and the children.
Who can say that such a woman is stupid or unhappy?