In the past, divorce and remarriage were seen as embarrassing, but in today's society, it seems to be commonplace.
Some people say that it is difficult for a man and woman in a second marriage to think about their own thoughts. Men are afraid that women are greedy for money, and women are afraid that men will be called by nannies. It seems that the second marriage relationship is much more complicated than the first marriage, and therefore more difficult to get along with.
Facts have proved that whether it is a first marriage or a second marriage, there are happy and unhappy ones. The key is to choose the right person. If the two are happy, they are in love, and they have good character, so they can get along in harmony. On the contrary, they will be suspicious of each other, calculating each other, calculating each other, and the contradictions will continue to last.
A few years ago, there was a second-married couple living next door to me. The man is in his sixties, his wife is dead, he has two sons, and he also has grandchildrenThe woman is in her fifties, the old man is dead, and she has two daughters, both of whom are married. The two people's villages are not far apart. One day, the women's temple fair passed by the man's village, and the man was moved when he saw the woman dressed fashionably and in a foreign manner. After inquiry, I learned that the woman is also widowed and currently single, and I feel that I am really sympathetic and a godsend!So he asked someone to match, and chased the woman to his hand.
After the two were together, they went to an elementary school cafeteria to cook, and the man was the chef and the woman was the handy. Originally, this day was very good, there was work and money to earn, and the two became old companions, but as soon as the novelty passed, all kinds of problems came out!As soon as I had free time, the woman slipped to me to complain, saying that the man's money was tight, and he paid for it when he went out to eat and buy clothes, and he didn't give the woman the usual money. Both of them received their own salaries, and then each deposited their own money. As for the man, from time to time he glanced at the door of my house to see if his wife was hiding from me and speaking ill of him. As long as there is an opportunity, the man will come to defend himself, saying that he is also old, and he can't spend all his money on women, and he has to save some money to leave a way back, and when he gets old in the future, he will have to count on his son and grandson to take care of himself. That's it, the two of you muttered all day long, he came and he muttered to you, it was clear that the husband and wife had two hearts in secret, so that I was caught in the middle and didn't know how to persuade me.
The other couple is very happy. Both of them are teachers and have children. After the wages of the two are received, they will be planned together and arranged reasonably. The two of them each transferred 500 yuan per month to their children as support for their children, and the rest of the money, the two saved a part as a pension for the old couple in the future. In the end, what is left is the living expenses of the two. If a child has special needs, they will also change the plan to provide additional support. Men love to play cards, occasionally play, win or lose, and women don't care. The woman's grandson is just over a year old, and sometimes the son and daughter-in-law will send the grandson over, and the old couple will hold the grandson regardless of who has no class. I've never seen them angry. I feel that the two of them treat each other very kindly, informal, not outside, not angry, not suspicious, so they are safe and happy. If one partner is selfish, the balance of marriage will tilt.
The quality of life of the second marriage depends on the sympathy and careful management of the husband and wife. No matter who is in charge of the house and who is in charge of the money, the world of the two should be transparent, and they should both get used to empathy and take care of each other's feelings and needs. Children do not necessarily have to be cared for and supported to live. If the children are having a hard time, if they have the conditions, they can also do what they can to help. There are also cases where both parties do not have children, and there are cases where only one partner has children, and in short, the situation of the two will not be exactly the same. It's not easy to get together again, you should love the house and Wu, respect each other, be calm, discuss and discuss, don't hide from me, it's boring, it's better to live alone.