Chen Hong's daughter was a high-profile girl when she was in high school. She is beautiful and moving, has a sweet smile, and has superb emotional intelligence, and is deeply loved by everyone. At that time, there were five or six boys who pursued her, some of whom prepared breakfast for her every day, and some would quietly send her home after evening Xi.
One of the boys came from a privileged family, and often gave her roses and chocolates on various festivals. However, she politely declined, saying that none of the boys could touch her heart.
I oppose my daughter talking about her boyfriend in high school, first, because she is still young, second, love during study is easy to distract from Xi, and third, young people's feelings are not stable enough.
I hope that after graduating from college and working, she can find a boyfriend who loves her, and then enter the palace of marriage and live a happy life. However, out of curiosity about my daughter's view of mate selection, I once asked her: "Qianqian, what kind of boy can attract you?"
She held her chin with a sweet smile on her face and her eyes full of longing: "First of all, he should be more than 175 meters, elegant and handsome;Secondly, he needs to have a bachelor's degree or above;Again, his family is in good condition;In the end, he must be able to make money, have high emotional intelligence, and be good to me.
As for the rest, I'll think about it slowly. "I was relieved to hear that Qianqian had set these standards for her future boyfriend, and it seemed that she had grown into a well-rounded person who didn't just value her appearance, as some girls do.
My daughter studied in Shandong as an undergraduate, and there are many boys from the Northeast among her college classmates, who are tall and big, and her daughter is 1.68 meters tall, beautiful and generous, and several male classmates from the Northeast have a good impression of her.
But my daughter is very sensible, she said that my mother only raised one daughter for me, and I will go back to her city to find a job after graduation, so I don't think about boys from other places.
I was very touched by my daughter's sensibility, I worked hard to bring her up alone, others said I was too stupid and tired, and now it seems that all the hard work is worth it.
You must be wondering why I raised my eldest daughter aloneThat's because my ex-husband and I divorced when Qianqian was two years old. I have to admit that when we get married, we go 100% for a lifetime, but marriage is really a good school, and it often exposes the things that are ignored in love in marriage.
My ex-husband, how considerate he behaved in love, how bad he was exposed in marriage. He loves to drink, and the amount of alcohol is not well controlled, and he often gets drunk as soon as he drinks, and every time he comes back from outside, the house is filled with a disgusting smell of alcohol, and he actually says that it is the smell of wine.
He loves to play mahjong, card skills are poor, often every gambling must lose, in the mahjong parlor outside our community, he is very popular with mahjong friends, everyone will be happy to see him come in their hearts, because the big head is sent money again.
He was addicted to alcohol and mahjong, but that wasn't the main reason for our breakup. The real reason for our breakup was that I couldn't get the financial support I deserved from him, and his parents were even more patriarchal.
Even though he had promised to give me 70% of his salary, he would always run out of money within a week after each paycheck and then start asking me for money again. This feeling bothered me so much that I would even give him his salary back to show my displeasure, and at the end of the month, he had very little left of his salary.
His parents had been expecting us to have a grandson to continue the incense, but I had a daughter. When I came home from the hospital with my daughter in my arms, I thought they would come and hug the baby and tease her, but I was disappointed by their performance, and they were still talking and laughing without even looking at Qianqian.
I complained to my ex-husband about the ruthlessness of my in-laws, and he told me that they wanted grandchildren and didn't like granddaughters. We ended up getting divorced because my in-laws' patriarchy was unbearable for me.
I took Qianqian and faced the difficulties of life alone, although many people said I was stupid, but I was willing to pay for my own daughter.
Although Qianqian grew up in a divorced family, she never lacked love, so she grew up to be a beautiful, sunny and enthusiastic girl. Before her daughter graduated from college, she stuck to her principles and didn't talk about a long-distance boyfriend.
After graduating, my daughter returned to my small town and became a teacher at an art training institution. I suggest that Qianqian can consider finding a suitable partner, after all, she is also 22 years old, and she should start thinking about her marriage.
Qianqian nodded, saying that she is not a child again, and if she meets a suitable one, she will definitely look for it. After she went to work, she didn't want to live with me, because I liked to talk to her a lot, so I rented an apartment near the unit.
A few of my colleagues introduced her to a few boys. There are soldiers, employees of state-owned enterprises and managers of private enterprises, and these boys are all in good condition, but after seeing it, she shook her head and said that she had no eyes.
I am very sad, these boys' family conditions are really quite good in our small city, they have a house and a car, a stable job, and more importantly, their parents have social security. But the daughter shook her head frequently, always saying that it was not her dish, which was really urgent.
I asked my daughter what kind of boy she would have eye contact with, and what should she do if she regretted it in the future if she let go of so many excellent ones?Qianqian shook her head and said that the eye edge is not clear, how can a girl have no eye for a boy, how can there be a spark of love?
For this reason, I deliberately searched the Internet for what the eye edge isThe answer is this: the so-called eye edge is whether people can be attracted by each other's appearance, temperament and charm when they meet for the first time.
Expert studies have shown that the eye relationship rate of young men and women is about 5%, which means that only 5 out of 100 people have an eye relationship, which is really low!
But Qianqian, who continues to be stubborn, disappoints me.
At the age of 23, she is still a loner and unhurried. And I, too, gradually became indifferent. When she was 24 years old, she began to come home less often and her body began to plump up.
She was originally 168 meters, weighing 118 pounds, well-proportioned, but now it is getting fatter and fatter, and it is estimated that it is about 140 pounds. I started to get worried, and I said, "Qianqian, your boyfriend hasn't been found yet, why don't you control your weight?"
Nowadays, boys like slim girls, you **, don't get fat anymore. She just told me that she had found a boyfriend, and they had been together for half a year, and because they often ate supper together, they gained weight.
She also proudly told me that her boyfriend said she was cuter when she was fatter. I asked the boy about his work and family, and she didn't answer, just told me that the boy was two years older than her, treated her very well, and loved her very much.
She didn't answer me directly, and I was even more curious. I set up an ambush near my daughter's apartment, and once I finally saw a boy coming out of the apartment with her.
The boy was shorter than Qianqian, wore glasses, and looked very ordinary. I feel very disappointed, my daughter who has been emphasizing the edge of her eyes, has given up so many tall, upright and excellent boys, can she have special feelings for such an ordinary boy?
I left a message for my daughter on WeChat, asking her to go home after work today anyway, and I have something to look for her. She replied with only two words: Okay. When my daughter came home in the evening, I was waiting for her with antiquation.
As soon as she came in, she looked a little irritated and asked me why I was calling her homeShe was busy like a spinning top every day, and she had to deal with me after work. I asked her to tell me in detail about her boyfriend's specific situation, including work, income, his parents, and so on.
My daughter looked at me with some dissatisfaction and helplessness in her eyes, and she sighed deeply and said, "Mom, you are really too nosy. "The boy, only 1.7 meters tall, two years older than her, 26 years old this year, his parents divorced, his mother took him, the mother and son have been renting a house outside, and the mother can earn 3,500 yuan a month by working outside, this boy graduated from college and helped a relative do some work, and he can only earn 3,000 yuan a month.
That night, the biggest war in history broke out between mother and daughter, and I was disappointed that she had a boyfriend. I asked her almost hysterically, "Qianqian, so your vision is so low?"
No wonder there are so many excellent boys in front of you, you can't look down on them?I thought you had a good eyeIt seems that being poor and ugly is what suits your eyes, don't you think it's too ridiculous?
I admit that my tone was snarky and mean, because this boy was so disappointed in his appearance and condition that I was going mad. My daughter said that I was a snob, and I only had a boy with a house and a car in my eyes, and the boy was degraded to nothing by me when he was poor, she just had poor vision, and she had an eye relationship with this poor boy, and she was willing to marry him, so what's wrong?
I asked her to break up with this boy right away, and I said that if you are going to find him, then I will cut off the mother-daughter relationship with you!The daughter said angrily that if she broke off the relationship, she would break off the relationship.
She slammed the door and left, leaving me sitting there alone, close to breaking down!
I remember asking her what kind of boy she was looking for, and the criterion she gave was first, he had to be 1Over 75 meters, handsome;Second, he must have a bachelor's degree or aboveThird, the family conditions should be good;Fourth, you must be able to make money and be good to me.
Look at the one she's looking for now, with a height of 170 meters, ordinary appearance, college diploma, poor family, monthly income of 3,000, compared with her original standard, it is really falling from the clouds to dust.
I feel that my life is very frustrated, and my marriage has failed due to the unloved person I met, and now my daughter is looking for such a person. I wanted to find someone to tell me about my sadness and disappointment, but people said that the ugliness of the family should not be publicized.
My parents are no longer alive, and the only people I can trust are my brother and sister-in-law. I cried and went to my brother's sister-in-law's house, and when my sister-in-law came to open the door, she saw that my eyes were red and swollen, and asked me with concern what was wrong
I couldn't hold back crying anymore, I told my brother and sister-in-law all the situation of the boyfriend Qianqian was looking for, and I said that if she insisted on finding this boy, I would make up my mind to cut off the mother-daughter relationship with her, and never get along.
After hearing this, my sister-in-law asked me: "Chen Hong, you don't like this boy, is it because he is poor, his diploma is not as good as Qianqian, and he is not as tall as your ideal son-in-law?"I nodded, saying that his conditions were not worthy of Qianqian at all, Qianqian had such a high vision, and now she found one like this, she must have been deceived by his rhetoric.
My brother said to me: "Old sister, don't threaten to cut off the relationship with Qianqian for this matter, young people nowadays have more personality than when we were younger, you should at least investigate the reason why Qianqian fell in love with this boy so desperately, and then decide whether to oppose it, right?."
Isn't it bent on going your own way like you are now, isn't it pushing Qianqian into this boy's arms?”
My brother and sister-in-law said affectionately to me when I went out: "Chen Hong, in the matter of Qianqian looking for a boyfriend, if you don't want her to die alone, don't be emotional and oppose at every turn, the more you oppose her, the more disgusted you are, remember that you can say something well, besides, we only have the right to suggest, not the right to decide!."
It's a little bitter, and she has to eat it. "When I walked out of my brother and sister-in-law's house, my heart was still very heavy, and I still don't admit that my opposition was wrong, who would bear to let my daughter take the risk of trying a marriage that might fail?
People say that if this is your own daughter's boyfriend, will you agree?I hope you can give me ideas, thank you.