Adolescent children are relatively simple and impulsive in love, because 15-year-old girls do not understand what love is in this period, so it is very simple to regard the good feeling for the opposite sex as love, thus presenting the phenomenon of early love. As a parent, I am very worried about my child's early love, but I don't know how to discuss this issue with my child.
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How to talk to a 15-year-old daughter about her early love
1. Take your father as an example and tell her the standards of a good boy.
Sometimes, when something happens during a casual conversation, parents should also consciously tell their 15-year-old daughter what kind of boy is a good boy, such as responsible, active, and contributing to parents. The child may not respond in time at that time, but after repeated times, she will compare with the boys around her with this standard. Naturally, everything will be good from the original, and gradually be able to see the shortcomings of the other party, and it will not fall too deep.
2. Be guided correctly at any time.
After chatting, we can get a lot of information, such as when to talk about love, what kind of identity the other party is, why the child loves this person, and so on. However, in the whole process of conversation, parents should hold a thread: good and correct love guidance, and help children establish a correct and healthy view of love.
3. Calm down and consider empathy.
When it is found that the child is in early love, parents should first stabilize their emotions and calm their minds, the problem of love can be big or small, and the mentality of how to look at the problem of early love is very important. We think that "blocking is better than sparse", the more we stop children from letting them talk about love, the more simply it stimulates children's rebellious hearts.
4. Parents should not express their emotions clearly.
If children are really in love, parents must not immediately and resolutely oppose them, and they cannot take action to separate them. Because children have a rebellious mentality, the more parents don't let them do anything, the more they will be. Moreover, adolescent children regard their own decency very important, and parents must not let their children feel particularly undignified in front of the opposite sex, otherwise children may do extreme things.
How to educate children about early love.
1. Understand your child's ideas.
Puppy love is a throbbing of the child in adolescence, and with the advent of the child's adolescence, there will inevitably be mutual attention between the opposite sex, which is a physiological phenomenon of human beings. Mom and Dad are also from adolescence, so they should better understand the child's inner thoughts. Parents should also communicate with their children automatically and be able to make friends normally, but they can't cross the red line.
2. Communicate with the child through letters.
When you learn that your child is in early love, your parents must have a lot of things you want to say but can't say, and you need to communicate with your child better than scolding, scolding, or perhaps ignoring. People can calm their minds when writing, and parents can communicate with their children through letters, which can also improve the role of communication.
3. Respect children and handle them coldly.
When a child is frustrated by the object they admire, parents cannot treat the child with ridicule, scolding or even punishment, let alone rushing to the school, the other party's home, or complaining to the neighbors. The best way is to understand the child, care for the child, and use the "cold treatment" method.