Hu Shigang never thought that he and his wife Long Liya had only been married for 4 years, and they would make such a fuss. The ups and downs and changes of this marriage also made Hu Shigang aware of the practical pressure in marriage.
Hu Shigang is an ordinary office worker, in order to marry Long Liya, he not only took out all his savings, bought a wedding house in Wuhan, but also took 100,000 bride price to his wife. In order to express their gratitude, Long Liya's parents also bought a house as a dowry. The newlyweds are full of happiness and joy.
However, life after marriage brings practical pressures. Hu Shigang works in a foreign company, but he faces mortgages, car loans and living expenses every month, which makes him feel extremely troubled. Especially when Long Liya became pregnant, the financial pressure was even worse. In order to reduce the family's expenses, Long Liya decided to move back to her parents' home, and her parents helped them pay for the family's living expenses. In this way, although the economic situation has eased, the contradictions between the two have gradually increased.
Hu Shigang proposed that Long Liya resign and take care of the children at home, so as to reduce the cost of hiring a nanny. However, this suggestion was strongly rejected by Long Liya. She believes that only by making her own money can she maintain her independence and self-esteem. In order to maintain the stability of the family, Hu Shigang's parents transfer 5,000 yuan to his father-in-law and mother-in-law every month. Still, when the pandemic hit, Hu Shigang's parents' business was affected, and they had to suspend their babysitting payments.
That year, Hu Shigang took his wife and children back to his hometown for the New Year, and the family was stuck at home for several months. During this period, a series of contradictions began to erupt. When Hu Shigang's parents learned that they had to pay off the mortgage to their mother-in-law's family every month, they angrily accused him of not keeping his promise. The parents believe that although they nominally gave their daughter and son a dowry house, in fact the house did not have the son's name written on it, and the son did not even see the house. What made them even more disappointed was that their daughter-in-law's cold attitude towards them made them feel difficult to get close to.
Just when the contradiction was about to become irreparable, a dispute at the dinner table broke through the situation. His mother couldn't stand Hu Shigang's silence and accused him of being selfish. Long Liya couldn't stand it anymore, she smashed the bowl and smashed the pot, her father-in-law got up angrily, and family conflicts were about to erupt. Hu Shigang did not defend his wife immediately, but pushed her into a corner and quelled the dispute. However, the relationship between husband and wife has fallen to a freezing point.
Hu Shigang discussed with his wife whether he could let his father-in-law and mother-in-law move into a new house, rent out the old house, and use the rent to repay the loan. However, Long Liya's family was adamantly opposed to the proposal, believing that Hu Shigang was too selfish and unwilling to make sacrifices for the family. Subsequently, they even decided to sell the house in order to settle the dispute.
What Hu Shigang didn't expect was that Long Liya thought that after the house was sold, her parents didn't need to repay the mortgage they repaid at all. Long Liya believes that parents have already taken on a lot for them, and they have paid a lot for their children to take care of, so Hu Shigang's proposal is unreasonable. For this issue, the couple divorced.
Uncle Ma's point of view:
1.Long Liya reasonably proposed to let her in-laws give 5,000 yuan a month for nanny fees: Long Liya, as a wife and mother, shoulders the responsibility of taking care of children. The reason why she proposed to let her in-laws pay for nannies is that she hopes to reduce her burden and ensure the care of her children and the normal operation of the family. Moreover, her proposal is on the premise of having a matrimonial house, which is not only completely reasonable, but also very helpful to the family.
2.Hu Shigang's proposal to reduce household expenses was correct: Hu Shigang was anxious and troubled by the financial pressure, and offered to let Long Liya quit her job and take care of the children at home to save on babysitting fees. This suggestion is reasonable, because if Long Liya takes care of the children at home, it can not only save on nanny fees, but also ensure that the children are better cared for. In addition, Hu Shigang's proposal also shows that he is willing to make sacrifices for the sake of his family, and he can also take on more responsibilities for the sake of economic stability.
Grandma Lin's point of view:
1.Long Liya's attitude and behavior are unacceptable: Long Liya is relatively close to her parents, but she is cold to Hu Shigang's parents. She offered to let her in-laws give her 5,000 yuan for nanny, which seemed a bit selfish and did not understand the overall financial situation of the family. In addition, she didn't care about the opinions of Hu Shigang's parents, and even supported her parents. Such attitudes and behaviors are unacceptable in a conjugal relationship.
2.Hu Shigang's demands on his father-in-law and mother-in-law are excessive: Hu Shigang's belief that his father-in-law and mother-in-law should return the mortgage they have repaid to him seems overly selfish. The father-in-law and mother-in-law have helped the young couple solve a lot of financial problems, and they should no longer sacrifice the interests of the family for their personal interests. He should be more grateful for the dedication of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, and think more about the overall interests of the family.
From Hu Shigang's lawyer's point of view, according to the relevant provisions of the Marriage Law, the alimony, alimony and other expenses incurred after marriage should be borne jointly by both parties, and the wife's dowry property belongs to the joint property of the husband and wife unless the two parties agree or have different opinions on how to deal with it. According to the provisions of the law, the property donated by the father-in-law and mother-in-law during the existence of the marriage relationship shall belong to the joint property of the husband and wife.
However, in the case that Hu Shigang's name is not written on Long Liya's house, and Hu Shigang has not seen this house, it is not certain whether the house belongs to the joint property of the husband and wife. In addition, there is a lack of documentary evidence for the expenses paid by the father-in-law and mother-in-law to help take care of the children, and there is no clear agreement between the two parties, and it will be difficult for the lawyer to give a clear conclusion.
Eventually, the couple chose to separate, ending their painful marriage. Disputes over houses and property will be resolved through a lawyer's negotiation in order to achieve fairness and justice.
The continuation and ending of the story are unpredictable. After a series of hardships, Hu Shigang and Long Liya discovered each other's various shortcomings, from the initial love and dependence to quarrels and contradictions. Will they be able to re-establish trust and understanding and choose to face the adversity together?Or do you choose to go your separate ways and find a new path in life?Only time will tell.