Introduction:Face is the least valuable thing in the worldHow can I put it down?Today with you**.
Do you have anyone around you who is particularly good-looking?
Mr. Lu Xun wrote an article called "Talking about Face".
Mr. Lu Xun mentioned in "Speaking of Face":
Face is the program of the Chinese spirit, just like the long braids in the late Qing Dynasty, as long as you pull the braids, the whole body will follow you.
Many people are controlled by the so-called face. Face has become his shackles.
A person with a good face has these 3 characteristics
People with a good face often have these 3 characteristics.
1.Xi inertia retorts
No matter what you say, he will refute you.
If he makes a mistake, he will not admit it, he will find a way to justify it. Even if he knew he was wrong, he wouldn't change it.
Why is this happening?It's that he feels that admitting that he is wrong and admitting that he doesn't understand is particularly faceless.
It is precisely because of this mentality that he can't bend down and can't accept opinions, which is to save face.
2.Good old guys
There is also a kind of good-looking person, who is the image of a "good old man".
For example, if he is a manager, when his subordinates make a very serious mistake, he just doesn't say a word in pain.
He also turns a blind eye to everything, giving people the impression that he has no principles.
Of course, deep down, he also knew that it was wrong to do so, but he just couldn't stand his ground.
He felt that criticizing his subordinates and pointing out problems was a "wicked person", and he felt that he was really embarrassed to look up and not look down, and he couldn't erase his feelings.
3.Cowardice and inaction
When he was about to do something, he always Xi the habit of hiding back.
He thinks "I won't", "I can't", "I can't", "I can't do it".
He was worried that if he messed up and was looked down upon, he would lose his dignity. To cover up his cowardice, he will make ten thousand excuses.
If you value your face too much, you will never dare to take the first step.
If you love face too much, you can't succeed. If you want to achieve something, then you have to put it down.
Ren Zhengfei has a saying that is particularly good:What I want is success, face is empty, I can't eat it as food, face is for dogs.
3 ways to put down the sub
Face is the least valuable thing in the worldSo, how can you put it down?
1.It's me who forgets
In fact, the reason why I love face is because my heart is full of me, and I am always self-centered.
So when encountering something, the knee-jerk reaction is self-defense.
When others criticize him and point out his problems, he will retort at the first time: "It's not my fault, it's your problem." ”
When communicating with others, others are expressing their opinions to him, but what about him?Block out all those opinions, and always express emotions.
Before he goes to do something, he also thinks over and over again:
If this doesn't work out, what will they think of me?Do you think I'm not capable?Will they talk about me in the back?It's so shameless. ”
In the end, under his tossing and turning, he made a decision:
Forget it, don't do it. If you don't do it, you won't fail, you won't be talked about, and you'll be safe.
You see, it's all centered on your own feelings.
This kind of "self" is like a high wall, which traps him in the high wall, isolates him from the world, and makes him never grow.
So, what should be done?You have to learn to forget yourself.
It's that you don't have to be self-centered. You don't care what others think of you, the success or failure of what you do is your own business. And what others say about you is his subject.
You only need to take responsibility for your own subject matter and do not interfere with other people's subject matter.
This is called topic separation.
2.Thinking about things
A reporter once asked Steve Jobs: "Why don't smart people care so much about dignity?".”
Jobs thought for a moment and replied, "Because smart people are more concerned about their own growth than defending their face." ”
After forgetting yourself, you still have to think about things, and the core is two points.
Value-driven
You don't think about how this thing is done well, what others will think of you, and whether it will hurt your face.
It's about whether it's worthwhile to do it.
You must pay attention to your own growth and results, rather than being influenced by external things.
For the purpose of solving problems
When conflicts break out with others, when arguing, a person with a good face is always expressing his emotions, and he wants to win for the sake of his so-called dignity. In this way, the two will not communicate in the direction of solving the problem, and will eventually go to extremes.
Therefore, with the aim of solving problems, it is necessary to work together to do things well.
Remember:There is an essential difference between the expression of anger and the expression of anger.
3.It's people
In addition to forgetting yourself and thinking about things, you also have people in your heart.
What do you mean by "having someone in your heart"?I'll give you an example.
A lot of managers are good old people who seem to be doing it for others. In fact, he is a refined egoist, he only thinks about whether he will be affected and whether others will have a bad opinion of him.
A really good manager should have affinity when he should be, but when his subordinates make big mistakes, they should be severely criticized. If you are worried about offending someone, just say a few words in a friendly manner, and you can't strictly point out the problem and help him grow, but you will harm your subordinates.
Your motivation is to help him become a better version of himself, which is to have people in your heart.
The same is true for cooperation, you can't accept unreasonable demands from other departments just because you are embarrassed and for the sake of your so-called face.
You take it and end up transferring the pressure to the team. You do this, and you don't have your subordinates in your heart at all. Slowly, your subordinates won't support you, and you won't be able to succeed without a team behind you.
Finally, to sum up,People can't love face too much. Face is the least valuable thing in the worldSo how to break the shackles of face?That's it:It's me who forgets, thinks about things, and pretends to be people.