Recently, the incident of "the mother changed the toilet to the children's room for her 4-year-old daughter, but kept a tea room for herself" has attracted widespread attention, and major social platforms have discussed it. Let's take a look at some of the controversies today, some of which involve the different treatment of two sons and a daughter, and we will not press the table.
This incident can reflect the increasing challenge of parents' investment in children's education and life, family ethics and traditional Chinese family education concepts in modern families.
Remodel toilets for children. At the same time, the fact that her mother keeps a tea room for herself also reflects her desire to reserve a quiet space for herself in her busy life, which reflects the change of certain social attitudes. In the past, parents may have prioritized their children's needs. This change also shows that the concept of family education in China is being challenged by new challenges, and parents choose to keep a tea room for themselves in their care and sense of responsibility for their children and self-comfort and self-realization
Let's start with the theory of human needs.
Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory proposes that human needs are divided into five levels, from low to high, which are physiological needs, safety needs, social needs, respect needs, and self-actualization needs. We can use this theory to try to analyze this event.
The children's room is the physiological and safety needs of the child.
For 4-year-olds, having a comfortable, hygienic and safe living environment is key to meeting their basic physiological needs. If the toilet is converted into a children's room and can ensure that there is no dampness, good ventilation and complete sewage facilities, then the child's physiological needs can theoretically be met. However, it is important to consider whether such a renovation actually meets the standard of habitability.
In addition, the change of bathroom to bedroom may affect the safety of children to a certain extent, such as whether problems such as moisture, bacterial growth, noise and other problems have been effectively solved, if the renovation does not fully ensure the safety of children, then at this level, children's safety needs may not be properly met.
Respect for the child's choice is not taken into account.
Although the specific social needs of the child are not mentioned in the incident, if there is a lack of space for the child to interact with the family in the home environment, or if the design of the children's room is too small, it may also affect the child's emotional connection and social development towards the family.
At the same time, parents should respect and give priority to the reasonable needs of their children when deciding on the layout of the family space. If a child's real needs are ignored or secondary to an adult's personal interests (e.g., keeping a tea room), this is a lack of attention to the child's need for respect.
The mother's need for self-actualization overrides the child's need for safety.
In this case, the mother chose to be the one for her daughter's safety and self-fulfillment, and in some ways the mother's approach may not adequately meet the child's needs at all levels, especially the need for security and respect. In the allocation of family resources, it is particularly important to balance the different needs of children to ensure that the basic needs of each family member can be properly met, so as to create conditions for the realization of higher-level needs.
So do you really need a tea room to drink tea?
The author believes that whether or not you need a tea room for tea drinking depends on personal preferences, lifestyle, and understanding and pursuit of tea culture. From the perspective of traditional Chinese tea culture, the tea room is indeed an ideal place to provide a space for meditation and self-cultivation. Not only does it help to create an atmosphere of serenity and elegance, but it also allows one to find a moment of peace and harmony in the midst of hustle and bustle.
For some deep tea lovers, the tea room is an indispensable part, because the process of making tea is a ritual in itself, and the tea room provides a dedicated space to experience this process completely, including the selection of tea utensils, the attention to water quality, and the tasting of tea leaves.
In addition, the tea room usually pays attention to the space design, such as the use of natural light, indoor greenery, traditional decorative elements, etc., to form a unique visual beauty, which is conducive to enhancing the psychological pleasure of tea tasting.
The tea room can be used as a place for families or friends to exchange ideas and share life, and its quiet and comfortable environment is conducive to people to calm down and talk and enhance feelings. At the same time, the tea room is also a place where people can relax and precipitate their souls, and through tea tasting, they can achieve the effect of calming the mind and nourishing the mind and meet the needs of the spiritual level.
However, in real life, not everyone has to have a separate tea room to enjoy drinking tea. Many people can create a suitable tea environment in their existing living space, such as study, living room or balcony, and the key is to be able to create and maintain a love and focus for tea for themselves and others in their daily lives. There is no doubt that you can enjoy tea without having a separate tea room.
On the issue of choosing my daughter's children's room and tea room, I think that the emergence of this problem is disrespectful to the child and the family, and I think the vast majority of Chinese will not choose to let their daughter live in a room with a toilet.
The public's criticism of this incident shows that this practice ignores the basic rights and interests of children and the protection of quality of life, and emphasizes that family decision-making should be based on the interests of children to ensure that they grow up in a warm, safe and healthy environment. At the same time, it is also a good opportunity to educate the public on family ethics and the protection of children's rights and interests. The needs of parents are also to be ensured, but not at the expense of the basic needs of their children.