A friend of mine is a homeroom teacher at a well-known local primary school, and in the process of dealing with children for a long time, she has summed up some "common points" that often appear in children. Especially boys, if the method is not right, it is easy to "raise" the child.
She found that if a boy does not develop the "three abilities" before the age of six, that is, by the end of kindergarten, what the child will become in the future is basically determined.My friend's conclusion is actually not difficult to understand. As the saying goes", ".Three-year-olds look big, seven-year-olds look old", in the process of the child's growth,The age is a key node in the development of character that children will face。The guidance of parents will largely determine the future character of the child.
Especially for boys who are "naughty by nature", parents should seize this critical stage. Start to exert your strength from the time the child is young, so that the child can develop a good character in the future.
The reason why the age of 6 is regarded as a critical period is actually inseparable from the child's developmental characteristics.
Psychologically, the child's 0-6 years old is regarded as a critical period for the germination of self-consciousness. At this time, the baby will try to see the problem more from his own point of viewThey prefer to use "I want" and "I do" instead of carrying out their mother's "orders".
This also means that if parents can grasp the critical period of their children's development and provide necessary guidance to their children, they will help their children develop a good character that will be used for a lifetime. Friends refer to this guidance as the cultivation of the "three abilities".
In order to cultivate children's reading habits from an early age, she also takes her children to read together to help them develop good reading habits. Under the guidance of their parents, children learn from each other and gradually fall in love with reading. After more than 6 years of reading accumulation, Xiaoshi said that there are several boxes of books he has read.
Although these extracurricular reading books did not help much in learning at first, as they accumulated over time, they gradually became the foundation of children, making children's reading ability and comprehension ability stronger and stronger.
The homeroom teacher also plays idiom solitaire games with the children, recites ancient poems, and communicates in English when they are chatting and walking in daily life, which are constantly helping the children to improve and break through.
Although the homeroom teacher did not open much in knowledge for the education and cultivation of his son, he gave more help and guidance to Xiaoshi's learning habits, learning methods, and learning attitudes. These accumulations gradually became small stones, and finally exploded into the sky.
Unlike girls, boys, as the future pillars of the family, must have the ability to solve problems, and the premise of this ability must be to have a certain ability to express. Children with limited language skills can hardly become the future breadwinner of the whole family.
Children are not "exclusive" to the family, they must go to society, which requires them to dare to express themselves and be good at expressing themselves, otherwise it will "suffer" in the future society
It seems very vulgar to talk about money, but how can you survive without talking about money. Talking about money with children, especially boys, is a very necessary thing.
Mothers may have such a feeling that boys spend money when they are students, they are always lavish, and they start to make money when they enter the society, and they have no sense of money. Such boys, after getting married and having children, are often prone to conflicts with their wives because of money. Because, the head of the family knows that firewood, rice, oil and salt are expensive, and they are generous before marriage and don't know where to use the money after marriage, so the contradiction naturally comes.
If, a boy would have known"Money management", then the boy will make reasonable use of every penny of his money, when he is poor, he will spend the money on the blade, and when he is rich, he will use the money for financial management and investment. Such a boy rarely has a big dispute with his family because of money.
As the saying goes: ten years of trees and a hundred years of people, educating children is never a 100-meter sprint, but a marathon long-distance run, if you want children to stick to the end, you need parents to make a series of preparations from the start.
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