Children's emotional language refers to the way they express their inner feelings through speech, body, expression, voice, etc. Children's emotional language is an important way for them to communicate with the outside world, and it is also an important factor in their growth and development. As parents, we have the responsibility and obligation to understand and respect our children's emotional language, and help them build healthy emotional management and social communication skills.
So, how do you read your child's emotional language?Here are some methods and tips to share with you:
1.Observe your child's nonverbal behavior.
A child's non-verbal behaviors, such as eyes, facial expressions, postures, movements, gestures, etc., often reflect their true emotions. For example, when a child's eyes are shining, smiling brightly, and their body is relaxed, it means that they are happy, excited, and satisfiedWhen a child's eyes twinkle, the corners of their mouth droop, and their body tense, it means that they are nervous, scared, and uneasyWhen children have cold eyes, expressionless faces, and stiff bodies, it means that they are angry, disgusted, and resistant. By observing a child's non-verbal behavior, we can make a preliminary judgment about their emotional state and respond accordingly.
2.Listen to your child's speech.
Children's verbal expressions, such as tone, speed, intonation, vocabulary, etc., can also express their emotions. For example, when a child speaks in a relaxed tone, speaks at a moderate pace, has a steady intonation, and has a positive vocabulary, it means that they are happy, confident, and stableWhen a child's tone is urgent, fast-paced, high-pitched, and negative, it means that they are anxious, flustered, and excitedWhen a child speaks in a low tone, speaks slowly, has a low tone, and has a negative vocabulary, it indicates that they are depressed, helpless, and hopeless. By listening to children's verbal expressions, we can learn more about the reasons for their emotions and respond accordingly.
3.Ask your child how emotionally he or she feels.
Sometimes, your child's emotional language may not be clear or precise enough, or they may be unwilling or unable to express their emotions. At this time, we can take the initiative to ask children about their emotional feelings and help them recognize and express their emotions. For example, we could ask the child, "How are you feeling right now?"Are you happy or sad?Why do you feel this way?How do you want me to help you?"Wait. By asking children about their emotional feelings, we can better understand their emotional needs and support them accordingly.
4.Feedback on your child's emotional language.
When we understand the emotional language of the child, we also need to give the child a feedback to let them know that we are listening, understanding, and caring. We can respond to children's emotional language in the following ways:
Affirm your child's emotional language. We can use words of praise, encouragement, affirmation to express our recognition and respect for our child's emotional language, such as: "You are awesome, you can tell me how you feel in such clear words." "You are brave and you can face your fears. "You're very creative, and you can come up with so many interesting things. "Wait.
Repeat your child's emotional language. We can repeat the child's emotional language with the same or similar words to let them know that we are listening, understanding, for example: "You said you were happy because you did well in the exam today." "You said you were nervous because you were going to give a speech on stage. "You said you were angry because your toy was taken away by your brother. "Wait.
Reflect your child's emotional language. We can use different words to reflect the child's emotional language and let them know that we are feeling, in empathy, for example: "You must be happy that your efforts have been rewarded." "You must be worried, you don't know what other people are going to think of you. "You must be angry, you feel that your rights have been violated. "Wait.
By giving feedback on children's emotional language, we can enhance emotional communication with children, enhance children's emotional expression and emotional regulation skills.
5.Summary.
Children's emotional language is an important way for them to communicate with the outside world, and it is also an important factor in their growth and development. As parents, we have the responsibility and obligation to understand and respect our children's emotional language, and help them build healthy emotional management and social communication skills. We can read children's emotional language through observation, listening, inquiry, feedback, etc., so as to establish a closer, more harmonious, and happier relationship with children.