The Buddha said: I don't owe anything in the past life, but I don't see it in this life, if we meet, we will definitely owe it.
The encounters between people seem to be for no reason, but in fact they are all destined.
In this world, there is no natural love, and there is no hatred for no reason, and the love and hatred experienced in this life must be the unfinished fate of the previous life.
The encounter between parents and children is also the fate of the past and present lives. Some children come to repay their kindness in this life because they owed them to their parents in the previous life; Some children come to collect debts in this life because they have a grudge against their parents in the previous life.
If children have the following three characteristics, most of them are here to collect debts in this life, which is a sign of "fatherhood and motherhood", so we must be vigilant.
1. Disobedience and unfilial piety, violence against parents
Not long ago, some netizens broke the news that a woman in Zhejiang beat her elderly parents on the street, and her subordinates showed no mercy.
It is understood that the mother who was hit first by the woman did not let go of her mother's hair, and scratched her mother's face and neck with force.
The father on the side tried to pull his daughter away, and shouted: "Don't beat your mother again, hit me if you want to!" ”
So, the woman let go of her mother and began to punch and kick her father again, but the father never fought back, allowing her daughter to beat and scold...
Seeing such a scene, one can't help but feel sad.
Parents give their children life, and they work hard to bring up their children, not to mention that their kindness is like a mountain, but they also have a clear conscience. Even if parents make a thousand mistakes, as children, they should not fight against their parents.
It is undeniable that the disobedience and unfilial piety of children are due to the fault of improper parental education, but as human beings, they should have their own principles of life and moral bottom line, instead of blaming all the problems and contradictions on their parents.
No matter how justified the children are, no matter how unbearable the parents are, when the children rely on their youth and strength to beat their parents, the blessings of the children and the whole family are gone, and what awaits them is only moral degradation and endless sorrow.
2. Lazy by nature, bent on "gnawing" at parents
In today's society, young people are under a lot of pressure to work and live, and it is understandable to ask parents to help them take care of their children and do housework.
However, there is a category of children who are lazy by nature and cannot adapt to the high-pressure work of society, so they simply drag their families directly and rely on their parents, relying on their parents' meager income to support their small families.
I have seen such a report that a septuagenarian tearfully kicked his son's family of four out of the house, threatening that he did not need his son to provide for him.
At first glance, many people will think that the old man is too ruthless. However, after learning the cause of the incident, many people felt pity for the old man and severely reprimanded his son for his unfilial piety.
It turned out that the son lived with his parents in the name of "filial piety to his parents". The father is over 70 years old and still goes out to sell things every day, and the mother is busy at home every day, washing and cooking for her son's family of four.
As for the son and daughter-in-law, who are over forty years old, have achieved nothing, do not support the elderly, do not raise the young, lie at home and play with their mobile phones all day long, and let their elderly parents support their family of four.
At first, the parents were distressed about the hardships of their son's family, so they let their son's family live with them and take care of their daily life. However, I didn't expect that this care would be more than ten years, and now that my parents are old, they can't do it anymore, so they can only ruthlessly drive their son's family of four out of the house.
To tell the truth, children who do not want to make progress and are bent on gnawing at the old are here to "reduce" their parents, and their "mission" is to squeeze their parents dry and corrupt the family. It can be said that encountering such children is a catastrophe for the parents' lives, which is very sad.
3. Seriously ill, resulting in the exhaustion of family wealth and the separation of parents
There is such a sentence: I hope that my children will not get sick when they are young, not be bullied when they are children, be self-reliant as adults, not be lonely in middle age, and have someone to support them in their old age.
It can be said that this is the most sincere and simple hope of every parent for their children. However, such a simple wish is not something that every parent can fulfill.
With the development of the Internet, various rare diseases are well known, and the sad journey of the families of some rare patients has also been recorded in the best way.
Seen such a **:
When the child was one year old, he was diagnosed with a rare disease, and in order to give the child **, the parents sold the house, but seeing that the savings were spent little by little, the child's condition still did not improve.
Financial pressure, physical and mental suffering, for parents, is a great test. In the end, the father could not bear it and chose to abandon the child, and at the same time his wife.
After that, the mother took the child to seek medical treatment everywhere, saw a doctor during the day, broadcast live at night, and slept only three or four hours a day. The pressure of life and psychology has tempered a woman who is less than thirty years old into a woman who looks like she is fifty years old.
There is still a long way to go in the future, and the bitter journey of a single mother with a child does not know the end**.
To be honest, having a seriously ill child at home is undoubtedly a misfortune for the whole family.
When you experience the treatment of your child's illness, you will understand that a healthy and happy child is the greatest gift to parents and the greatest wealth of parents.