Hoping that the son will become a dragon and the daughter will become a phoenix" has always been the wish of most parentsAs a result, more and more parents begin to plan their children's future education routes when they are still very young, trying to let their children win at the starting line.
This is where the word "chicken baby" comes from.
But,The first batch of "chicken babies" has been released, what is the result?
It can be seen from the endless variety of prenatal education machines, early education, and make-up Xi classes on the marketThe phenomenon of "chicken baby" has become more and more inclined to a lower age level, and as parents, it is natural to hope that their children will receive education as soon as possible.
Some parents buy all kinds of them before their children are bornPrenatal education machine, there is **, there is reading, take a few hours a day to use the prenatal education machine to play various sounds on the pregnant belly, hoping that the child will have a good Xi atmosphere in the womb.
I put the piano music you play, I put the violin, and the three-character scripture you read, I read Caigen Tan.
There are also parents who give money to the baby who is still in the wombI can't understand it, and I try to make my unborn child Xi to understand.
Wait until the child is born, not to mention the time spent listening to stories every dayChildren who are still in confinement begin to be taught to recognize colors, and when children react to red, parents also proudly praise:
"My child knows red at such a young age!”
As everyone knows, the baby is just born,Because the various organs of the body are not yet fully developedThe eye can only see objects within 20 centimetersIt is more responsive to dark colors, and less recognizable to light colors.
At about half a year old,Many parents begin to enroll their children in early education classes to train their children in some simple cognition.
When the child enters kindergarten at the age of three, the official entry into school beginsThe choice of school is also carefully chosen.
"The food in public schools is good, but there is not much to learn. ”
"Private schools learn a lot of knowledge, but it's too high. ”
"If you don't lay the foundation in kindergarten, it will be very difficult to learn in primary school. ”
These parents, who have been entangled since kindergarten, are also entangled in elementary schoolWhich school has a good level of education, and which school pays more attention to the all-round development of children
One by one, it is recorded in the book, for fear that the child will be inferior in the initial choice.
With the implementation of the "double reduction" policySchools are beginning to reduce the burden of schoolworkParents are starting to get anxious again, and schoolwork has been lightened.
Then add it yourselfThe real meaning of "double minus" is to lighten the child at school, After going home, it's not like you don't really have to learn anything, it's lightened here, so make up for it from the other side.
As a result, many children lose their time to play after school and during the holidays, and instead appear in one after another make-up Xi classes and improvement classes.
Some parents are reluctant to let their children work so hard at first, but look at the children around one by oneI have signed up for various improvement classes, and I have become anxious.
"Sometimes it's not that I want to push my child so hard, it's the environment that makes it compel!”
One parent said this when faced with the fact that their children were flooded with various Xi make-up classes during the holidays and had no time to rest.
This practice not only tires the children, but also consumes the parents, and the children do not have a happy childhoodParents have also been in a tense and high-pressure environment for a long time, and many family conflicts have followed.
"I just suffered the loss of being uneducated, and I didn't want my children to follow my old path. ”
A parent surnamed Liu said this in an interview.
This Mr. Liu has just paid the fee for the Xi class for his child, which is an essay improvement class, and Mr. Liu's child has just entered the fourth grade of primary school.
The cost of this composition improvement class is 200 yuan an hour, two hours per class, and two classes per week, which is 800 yuanIt's 3200 in a month.
"No way, for the sake of the child's academic Xi grades can be improved, it is worth spending more money. ”
Mr. Liu is not from a wealthy family, he works two jobs every day, and runs a part-time job at night after work, and he actually likes the job of a delivery boy the most.
Because the delivery man is a walking intelligence machine.
Under the "double reduction" policy, the major cultural classes Xi have been stopped, and many Xi classes are hidden in communities that are not easy to find.
Mr. Liu was delivering takeawaysI gradually figured out that there is a make-Xi up class, the teacher of the make-up class is good, the teacher of the make-up class is good, the Xi Xi is reasonable and cost-effective, and there are more students in the make-up classThis information cannot be found if it is not intentionally observed.
After many observations and inquiries, Mr. Liu finally chose a Xi institution not too close to his home, and there is another advantage hereThe place where the child Xi is studying composition is very close to the place where he is Xi English, and he just walks a few steps to catch up with the English class after the composition class.
"This is not the most expensive, I also want to report it to my child, but our economic conditions do not allow it, and I hope to choose the best for my child if I have the ability." ”
Mr. Liu saidI don't have much culture, I can't teach my children by myself, I can only rely on school and Xi.
Because I just suffered the loss of no education, if I could study hard when I was in school and Xi and be admitted to a good university, I wouldn't have to work so hard now.
So he hopes that his children will not repeat the mistakes of the past, can work harder in Xi, even if it is still looking for a job in the future, I hope that my child can find a high-income job.
It's also a part-time job, so it's definitely more comfortable to sit in the office, and it's best to be able to take the exam ashoreIn this way, at least this life is guaranteed.
Mr. Liu is because he has not worked hard to learn Xi, so he hopes that the child can change his destiny by learning Xi.
So will a child whose parents are both top students also be top students?
Mr. and Mrs. Zhang from Guangzhou have the most say on this point.
Mr. and Mrs. Zhang are both 985 master's graduates, but their children were not even admitted to high school, and finally had to enter vocational high school to continue their Xi.
Such a result was unacceptable to Mr. and Mrs. Zhang, and Mr. Zhang couldn't figure it out:
"It is said that children will inherit their parents' genes, and my wife and I don't say how smart we are, but fortunately, we also graduated from prestigious schools with high degrees, so why can't we even train a high school student?”
During Mr. Zhang's children's schooling, the couple accompanied them almost throughout the whole process, helping the children with homework and sorting out the knowledge points they learned every day.
It can be said that the couple's investment in their children's Xi is no less than that of the school teachers.
But as the child gets older,There are more and more knowledge points, and sometimes a knowledge point cannot be mastered by children in the middle of the night, several times down,Mr. Zhang was so anxious that he became angry, and often had a few big bubbles at the corners of his mouth.
Mr. Zhang felt that his problem-solving methods and ideas were different from those taught by the school teachers, and the children could not grasp them.
I simply enrolled my child in a cram Xi class, and I enrolled in cram Xi classes for several courses.
Children enter the school at 7 a.m., rush to the Xi class after school at 6:30 a.m., and do not return home until 9 p.m., and when they return home, they have to resume Xi what they have learned that day and Xi prepare for the next day's new class, which is even harder than that of migrant workers at work.
Even before going to bed, listen to English words to sleep, because experts say that the period before going to bed is the best time to deepen your memory.
But after sacrificing a lot of rest time and spending hundreds of thousands of Xi expenses, the child still has not been admitted to high school.
This made Mr. and Mrs. Zhang feel powerless and at the same time could only accept such a resultAccepting a child is just an ordinary mediocre child.
Parents' anxiety is bound to be transmitted to their children, so what is the situation of the first generation of chicken babies who have now been "out of the cage"?
Xiao Wang just entered high school this year, and in his memory,When I was a child, my family was quite wealthy, although it is not to the point of asking for something, but as long as the things he wants are not too much, his parents will buy them for him.
Before junior high school, his family lived in a large flat of more than 200 square meters, and the place was open, and his classmates liked to go to his house to play.
But when he reached junior high school, because he wanted to go to a good school in the district, he and his parents moved out of a house of more than 200 square meters and lived in an old and dilapidated school of less than 70 square meters.
I heard from my parents that in order to buy this house, the family bought a big house"Bankrupt" bought this school district house.
After living in the school district, the quality of life of Xiao Wang's family has also changed. When he asked his parents again that he wanted to buy something he liked, most of the time the parents replied:
"Don't buy anything that is not related to Xi. ”
According to Xiao Wang's recollection,His parents would never buy him a figure of a few hundred yuan again, but they would sign up for a make-up Xi class for him for tens of thousands of yuan without blinking an eye.
Sometimes Xiao Wang will miss his previous life, and he will also be bored with various Xi make-up classeswill also quarrel with his parents to vent his dissatisfaction.
But seeing that his young and beautiful mother rarely bought new clothes for himself in recent years, his father also quit smoking and drinking in order to save some money, and reduced the number of times he went out to socialize.
Xiao Wang gradually stopped complaining, learned to be silent, fromThe former cheerful teenager has transformed into a taciturn youth.
Fortunately, with the efforts of the whole family,Xiao Wang's classmate was smoothly admitted to high school, which can be regarded as giving him a little comfort to his parents who have paid so much.
There are still three years of sprint to get into a good university.
If Xiao Wang is a successful case under the "chicken baby" policyThen Xiao Chen can be said to hate the "chicken baby".
Xiao Chen has now graduated from college and joined the work, and in his impression, he never had a vacation during school, and he was always immersed in various Xi make-up classes and questions.
In addition to cultural courses, there are also several art courses.
Every day is not in a state of sleeping well, which also causes Xiao Chen's height to not be highHe blamed this on the oppression of his parents on him.
Xiao Chen himself likes basketball very much, and he also sweated on the court during college, but because of his height, he could only envy watching his tall classmates being selected for the school basketball team.
Except for basketball,Xiao Chen is also very fond of e-sportsWhen I was in high school, I once sneaked to an Internet café to participate in an e-sports competition during the holidays, and I also won the first prize with a prize of 10,000 yuan.
However, when Xiao Chen happily went home to his parents with the bonus, what he got was:
"What's the use of a good game?”
"If you have that time, you might as well do a few more sets of questions. ”
"What's the point of playing games?Getting into a good university is what you have to do. ”
Xiao Chen didn't understand why those world-class esports players could do what they likedI can only soak in various cultural classes every day, and I can't have my own hobbies and dreams
Who is Xi learning for?Is it to make the parents look more face-saving?Or is it to be able to find a good job in the future?
After graduating, Xiao Chen felt that he had wasted too much energy during his school years, although he also graduated from collegeBut there is no advantage in the workplace, and there are too many excellent young people.
I have worked hard for more than ten years, and after entering the society, I still get a salary of thousands of yuan a month, living a life of 9 to 5 crowded subway.
In the eyes of the parents, nearly 10,000 yuan a month, the unit pays the pension, which is already a very good result.
But here in Xiao Chen, he has paid too much for this resultsacrificed his childhood, gave up his hobbies, and ended up living as a lifeless adult.
Xiao Chen also secretly swore in his heartYou must not let your child become a member of the "chicken baby", at least let him enjoy the happy time of childhood.
But when it comes to becoming a parent, who can say for sure?
"Chicken baby" is a product of the times, and with it is the prevalence of "involution".
But it's not that "chicken babies" shouldn't existInstead, parents should stop "ineffective chicken babies".
Less follow the crowd, and focus on training based on children's own strengths and advantages, rather than what others learn and what my child will learn.
Three hundred and sixty lines are the champions, and no one is born mediocre.
As long as you use the right ways and methods to discover the shining points in your children, your children will definitely be able to move towards the road to success.