My husband Li Si and I have been married for three years, and our personalities are not the same, and sometimes there are some small frictions. Li Si is more stable and conservative, and likes to have a plan for everything;And I, Zhang San, am more cheerful and casual, and I don't like to be bound by too many rules.
Just yesterday, while the two of us were having dinner, there was another bit of an argument.
Husband, we've been married for three years, isn't it time to consider having a baby?Li Si said suddenly while eating.
Alas, husband, we are still young, so we are not in a hurry to have a baby. I said with some embarrassment.
Most of us have given birth in three years, and we should look forward to the baby. The parents have also been asking to see their grandchildren. Li Si was eating, and his tone was a little anxious.
Then tell me what you think. Li Si also put down his chopsticks.
I think in another year or two, let's enjoy our life as a couple. I organized the language, "I am on the rise in my career now, and having children will have a big impact on me." Besides, when the children come, our lives can't be so free. ”
Freedom is important, but having a baby is also happiness. Children can bring us closer together. Li Si said seriously.
I understand your thoughts. But at the moment I'm not quite ready to be a mom, and it will take a little time. I saw that Li Si's face was a little ugly, so I quickly softened my tone.
Li Si was silent for a while, and then said, "It's okay, then let's not be in a hurry." But you can't keep putting it off, it's time to give birth when the time comes. ”
Well, okay, I'll talk about it later. I quickly digressed the subject, "By the way, I suddenly have an offer." ”
What is the offer?Li Si looked up at me.
We can try the system!I was interested.
system?Li Si was confused.
It's that we agreed to take our own hands and take turns. I explained, "For example, if you're in charge of earning money to support the family, I don't have to do housework and take care of the kids." Then let's swap for another month, I'll support the family, you take the children to cook or something. In this way, we can all experience the hard work of the other half, and also give ourselves a chance to be liberated. ”
What's awkward, it's called gender equality!I excitedly said, "Now that society advocates the equal treatment of men and women, we can get off to a good start!"”
But if it's really made at home, wouldn't it be messy?Li Si was obviously not very receptive to this idea.
It's not really all about it, it's just the occasional change of role," I quickly explained, "and make it easy for yourself." Do you say?”
Li Si still shook his head: "I don't think it's appropriate." The husband should earn money to support the family, and the woman should take care of the housework and take care of the children, which is the division of labor. Everyone has their own role to play, so that the house can be organized. ”
I was a little displeased and said, "Why do you have to ask a woman to take the child to do housework?"It's not ancient times, and women can go to work. ”
I didn't say you can't work, but the family needs someone to take care of it. Li Si also raised his voice, "If you all go out to work, your home will be messed up." ”
Housework can be taken care of by hiring someone, and giving birth to a child can also be sent to a nursery. I waved my hands excitedly, "We can live a free and bright life, instead of being tied to traditional roles." ”
Li Si hung up ** and looked at me helplessly: "My mother is urging me to ask about the child again." ”
Well, it's normal for your parents to be anxious. I nodded, "But the two of us have to decide the child's affairs, and it's useless for others to be anxious." ”
Oh, yes. Li Si sighed, "Where did you just go?"Oh, I don't think the system you mentioned is still very feasible. ”
You old-fashioned, you know that you are against my proposal. I was a little annoyed, "What do you have to say?"”
Of course, I have to express my opinion on the big things in the family. Li Si's voice raised.
You just don't believe in my ability and feel like I can't take responsibility!I'm also on fire.
I didn't mean that!Li Si frowned and said, "But your idea is too unreliable." ”
You're insulting me!I slapped the table excitedly.
Calm down!Li Si slapped the table vigorously, and the dishes and chopsticks jumped up.
You should be calm!I stood up and said loudly.
Li Si also stood up, and was about to speak, when he suddenly stopped and took a deep breath.
After a few seconds, he said calmly: "Quarrel can't solve the problem, let's sit down and have a good talk." ”
I was about to continue arguing, but when I saw his appearance, I gradually calmed down, sat back in my chair, and said, "Then tell me what you think." ”
Li Si also sat down and looked into my eyes: "I'm sorry for being excited just now, in fact, what you said makes sense." Now that society has progressed, I can't be so old-fashioned. ”
I was a little surprised that his attitude changed so quickly, nodded and said, "Well, I was a little overdone just now, and what you said has some truth." ”
It's not all your problem," Li Si continued, "Actually, this matter is about our future life, and I really need to learn to open my mind and accept new things. But on the other hand, there are also practical possibilities that need to be taken into account. ”
I listened carefully to what he said, and I felt that there was a compromise in his words.
Li Si pondered for a while, and then said, "Regarding the system you mentioned, I am willing to give it a try." But you need to set the principles first, such as who does what, how long you want to rotate, and so on. Then observe how effective the implementation is, if it really doesn't work, or if it's not good for the family, we will cancel the system. Do you think it's okay?”
I asked, somewhat surprised, "Really?".Are you sure you want to give it a try?”
Well. Li Si nodded, "It's okay to give it a try and open your mind." And I should listen to your thoughts more, not my own opinion. ”
That's great!I happily said, "Thank you for your willingness to accept my suggestion." We can make a schedule and try our lives. ”
Okay, I'll listen to you. Li Si smiled.
I was very happy and felt that Li Si was indeed growing. It seems that our married life will become more and more harmonious and happy!
In this way, Li Si and I reached a consensus on the trial system. We then spent some time working out a schedule and decided to rotate roles each month.