Author: Wen Qiusheng.
01. Introduction.
Venerable Xuecheng said, "What you say is actually what others think of you. "Language is both a way to present oneself and a way to get to know others. In interpersonal relationships, by judging words, we can see a person's inner maturity and thoughtfulness. More importantly, words can reflect a person's cultivation and character. How you talk and behave in your dealings with others can have a profound impact on your life's development. People who are good at words are always able to express themselves in a proper way, make people feel comfortable, and achieve efficient communication and exchange.
02. Speak, see cultivation.
Whether a person is cultivated or not, in fact, there is no need to guess, let alone test, just listen to what he says, we can clearly understand. High-level people are cultivated in speech, and their words are appropriate without losing proportion. On the contrary, people with low levels often speak to hurt the self-esteem of others, show off themselves, appear vulgar, and make people feel empty and boring inside. In "Dream of Red Mansions", the contrast between Jia Baoyu and Xue Pan clearly shows the embodiment of cultivation in words. Jia Baoyu's poems are gentle and elegant, showing his talent and famous background;And Xue Pan is incomprehensible and vulgar, which makes people annoying, showing that his level is low. High-level people pay attention to etiquette and occasions in their speech, do not easily make indiscriminate jokes, have a cordial attitude, and their words can bring each other closer to each other, which is lovely.
03. Speak, see a person's ability.
Language is like a seasoning, with different combinations and different flavors. A competent person is not only eloquent, but also willing to communicate with others. In life, we often see some people who are not good at communicating, and when answering questions, they are simple and boring, and they dare not say much. This is because they have weak expression skills, lack self-confidence, and are afraid of causing others to be displeased by saying the wrong thing. Those who are capable, on the other hand, are able to expand their minds based on the words of others and propose new topics of interest based on them, making the exchange in-depth and interesting. When communicating with people, capable people express their thoughts in an orderly manner, can satisfy the other person's intellectual curiosity and curiosity, and give people a sense of being taught. They have strong mental organization skills and are able to sort out their thoughts in a short period of time and express them clearly in concise language, making complex things easy to understand. People who have something to say are usually more prominent in their ability and efficiency.
04. Speak, see a person's character.
On the road of life, it is quite accurate to judge whether a person's character is reliable through words. People with good character always give others enough respect and leeway in their speech, do not easily expose others' shortcomings, and do not discuss other people's private affairs. They talk well, care about the people around them, and make getting along well. They can liven up the atmosphere and express themselves, but they don't dominate the crowd. Speak honestly, without flattery, and sincerely express your opinions, which are self-evident. People with good character are kind and think about others, and convey warmth with words. They do not easily hurt the self-esteem of others and give people a sense of comfort and rapport. Zeng Guofan said: "There is room for not saying anything, there is room for not doing things, and there is no afterglow for love." This is the embodiment of the words and deeds of a person with good character.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message.
On the journey of life, please learn to be kind and kind. When interacting with people, maintain good cultivation and become a person who knows how to be polite and speaks on different occasions. No matter who you get along with, maintain proper etiquette, smile and give the utmost respect to others. Don't blame and don't hurt the self-esteem of others. Be good at using words to warm others, rather than treating them as ** and causing harm. Speech is also a practice. From the tone and attitude of a person's speech, the rigor of logical thinking, and the sincerity expressed in his words, we can get a glimpse of a person's level. Speak well to avoid making a bad impression on others due to speech problems. On the road of life, there is something to say, the popularity is getting better, and the opportunities will naturally increase.