"Girl, go back to your mother-in-law's house for confinement, your brother is going to get married" "Auntie, this room is mine".
The idea of "male superiority and inferiority" has influenced many people, resulting in women being treated unfairly in the family. Confusingly, this kind of thinking seems to be more prevalent among women, which has always puzzled me. is also a woman, but she insists on expecting to have a son.
Su Mingyu in the TV series "It's All Good" is an example of suffering unfair treatment in the family. The mother first sold her daughter's house to support her eldest son's study, and then ignored her daughter's dreams. This kind of plot is not only in TV dramas, but in reality there are many women like "Su Mingyu", who have been in this unequal environment between men and women since childhood.
Just like Su Mingyu in "It's All Good", these women have accepted the concept of male superiority and inferiority since childhood. In their hearts, they still follow the belief that "a woman is virtuous if she is not talented", so they believe that the most important role of a girl is to be a good wife and mother. Even if their daughters have a successful career, they will seek benefits from their daughters for the benefit of their sons. This mother's thinking makes the daughter gradually disillusioned with the family.
Jiang Chunyu grew up in an ordinary rural family, and was originally the only daughter in the family, so she deserves more love from her parents. However, because her mother was heavily influenced by patriarchal thinking, she grew up in an extremely difficult environment. The elder brother was unfriendly to her under the influence of her mother, and the father had no status in the family, so Jiang Chunyu had no real freedom until he left home.
Although Jiang Chunyu excelled in her studies and came out on top in every exam, her mother rejected her request when she went to university, citing the family's lack of money. This made Jiang Chunyu feel very frustrated, because going to college was her only chance to change her fate, and it was also the only moment she went against her mother's wishes.
In her family, however, her opposition was almost insignificant. Despite her repeated pleas, she was unable to change her mother's decision. So, Jiang Chunyu had to go out to work by himself to earn tuition for himself.
During the summer vacation, Jiang Chunyu successfully saved enough money to pay for his tuition through hard work. When she entered university, she was pleasantly surprised to find that the outside world was far more exciting than she had imagined. On campus, she not only learns knowledge that she has never been exposed to before, but also quietly falls into an unexpected love.
In the initial stage, Jiang Chunyu was reluctant to fall in love. She is convinced that only through relentless hard work and study can she change her destiny. However, the appearance of a special person subverts her thinking.
Because of Jiang's excellent academic performance, she was able to receive a scholarship from the school almost every time. Not only that, but she came out on top in every exam. However, in one exam, she unexpectedly lost the title of first place, and the person who took away her laurel was none other than Zhu Linfeng, who would later become her husband. After losing the first place, Jiang Chunyu studied harder, but still fell to second place in the next exam.
In order to figure out who the other party was sacred, she couldn't help but find Zhu Linfeng. This encounter made the two have a deep affection, and finally entered the palace of marriage after graduation.
At the moment when the two decided to enter the marriage hall, Jiang Chunyu hesitated to confess the news to his parents. Just when she hesitated, Zhu Linfeng gave her confidence and encouraged her to bravely share this decision with her parents, so she mustered up the courage to dial **.
However, it is not surprising that after hearing the news, the mother did not show much emotion, but replied lightly: "Got it." But he did not say whether he would attend the wedding in person. Although Jiang Chunyu had already anticipated her mother's possible reaction, she still felt a deep pain in her heart when she heard her mother's response with her own ears.
Despite the lack of parental involvement, Jiang Chunyu still successfully completed the wedding. This wedding also made her lose confidence in her parents. Zhu Linfeng noticed his wife's low mood and said bluntly that from now on, his parents will also be her parents. This sentence warmed Jiang Chunyu's heart, because from this moment on, she finally had a family to rely on.
The days after marriage were plain and peaceful. It didn't take long for Jiang Chunyu to become pregnant. However, after becoming pregnant, her parents, who had not been in touch for many days, suddenly broke into her life. One day, Jiang Chunyu was at home when he suddenly heard the doorbell ringing, and when he opened the door, he saw that it was his mother. The mother said with a relaxed face: "Girl, your house is so beautiful, now that you are so rich, why don't you donate some money to the family?"Jiang Chunyu was displeased with her mother's words, but after all, she was her biological mother, and she hadn't seen her for a long time, so she chose to stay calm.
The mother did not stay long, but left in a hurry after a few pleasantries. What Jiang Chunyu didn't expect was that the next day, his mother brought his brother to visit.
When his mother came with her brother and wanted to stay at home, Zhu Linfeng felt that this was the best way to ease the relationship between his mother-in-law and his wife, so he agreed without hesitation. And considering that his wife is pregnant and has his mother-in-law by his side, he is also more at ease.
However, Jiang Chunyu knew that her mother's purpose was definitely not to take care of her confinement.
Soon, Jiang Chunyu's guess was verified. After she gave birth to the child, her mother told her bluntly: "Daughter, go back to your in-laws' house for confinement, your brother is going to get married." His mother-in-law's words made Zhu Linfeng stunned for a moment, he could hear it, and his mother-in-law seemed to want his eldest brother to treat their family as a newlywed.
After listening to her mother's words, Jiang Chunyu couldn't help but snort coldly and told her directly: "Auntie, the house is an outsider for me. After saying that, she ignored her stunned mother at the door and lay down directly. And Jiang Chunyu's mother saw that her daughter dared to refuse her request, and directly angrily pointed at Jiang Chunyu who was in confinement and scolded. Zhu Linfeng saw his mother-in-law's attitude and quickly blocked his wife behind him.
Faced with Jiang Chunyu's mother daring to have such an attitude, Zhu Linfeng did not hesitate to kick her out of the ward. And Jiang Chunyu's mother resolutely threatened to sever the relationship after her daughter resolutely refused, and Jiang Chunyu immediately agreed.
In daily life, we can often observe the phenomenon of "favoritism towards boys" in some families. Although society has become more enlightened, there are still some people who cling to the old ideas of the past and find it difficult to let go. They seem to perceive daughters as worthless in the family, which leads to the fact that girls tend to have a lower status.
However, it is interesting to note that this attitude changed in an instant after her daughter's success in her career. Once the daughters have achieved something, they will quickly recall the so-called family emotions that were previously left behind, trying to carry out moral kidnapping in this way. They may ask their daughters to make unnecessary sacrifices for them or even their brothers. However, by this time, they had completely forgotten about their injustices against their daughter. However, as parents, they have no reason to be forgiven by their daughter. If they forgive too easily, it will only further deepen their neglect of their daughter.
In today's society, men and women have gradually achieved equality in status, and there is no essential difference in work. In the family, equality should be pursued, if you favor your son too much and treat your daughter indifferently, you will only end up paying for it.