The 63-year-old mother-in-law loves to play mahjong, does not see her grandson, and is hospitalized for 15 days, and her daughter-in-law has no obligation to be filial to her
You hurriedly went and paid my medical bills, the hospital has been three times, I am not well yet, you can't let the hospital kick me out!Aunt Zhao, 63 years old, was lying on the bed and said to her son, who was playing with his mobile phone.
Mom, to tell you the truth, I have limited money every month, mortgage, car loan, living expenses, water, electricity and heating, property, and two children to support, I am really short of money. The son replied to Aunt Zhao in embarrassment.
No money?How is that possible?Didn't you just pay your salary yesterday?Yes, all the expenses you mentioned are necessary, but no matter how important they are, they can't be more important than seeing your mother, right?You go and pay the medical bills first, and the rest will be talked about later!Aunt Zhao made a decision for her son.
The money is not in my hands, it is in Li Ling (pseudonym, Aunt Zhao's daughter-in-law), and she is responsible for our family's finances. The son explained helplessly.
You're such a wretched person, that daughter-in-law, you don't make money at all, you know how to spend all day long!Flowers that should be spent, flowers that shouldn't be spent, and now that the old man is sick, she refuses to payI'm going to call her, I'm going to ask her face to face, why is she so unfilial!The more Aunt Zhao spoke, the more angry she became, and she called her daughter-in-law's **.
Not long after, the daughter-in-law hurried to the hospital with her 10-year-old granddaughter and 2-year-old grandson in her arms. But she was resolute: "No money!."I don't have time to take care of my mother-in-law!”
Under everyone's persuasion, daughter-in-law Li Ling poured out her bitterness: her mother-in-law usually talks a lot, does things strongly, is addicted to mahjong all day long, and never refuses to help take care of the children, which makes her troubled.
I don't have an obligation to take care of my grandchildren!"Li Ling explained that after she and her husband got married, they have been living with her mother-in-law because their workplace is relatively close to her mother-in-law's house.
At that time, my mother-in-law loved to play mahjong, and although the young couple had no requirements for my mother-in-law, the home was often dirty. After work, Li Ling has to be responsible for cleaning up, and her mother-in-law doesn't cook, so Li Ling and her husband have to cook by themselves.
The only thing that makes Li Ling feel uncomfortable is that her mother-in-law often invites mahjong friends to play mahjong at home, which makes the family miserable. Sometimes it even hits late at night, which makes Li Ling, who has to get up early to work the next day, feel very frustrated.
The following year, Li Ling gave birth to her eldest daughter. I thought that my mother-in-law would break her Xi of playing mahjong because she loved her granddaughter, and concentrate on helping Li Ling take care of her children, so that she would have less worries at work.
Surprisingly, on the third day after Li Ling was discharged from the hospital, her mother-in-law said to her forcefully: "I'm too old to take care of your confinement." The child cried during the day and at night, changing diapers countless times a day. You see, my blood pressure is unstable. You have to find a confinement lady as soon as possible. After saying this, the mother-in-law didn't care about Li Ling and the crying child, and went straight to the mahjong parlor in the community with her bag.
The son asked his mother-in-law: "The child is crying, Li Ling is still in confinement, how can you go to play mahjong?"”
The mother-in-law replied forcefully: "The child and daughter-in-law are all yours, and I have no obligation to help you take care of them." I have fulfilled my obligation to raise you and start a family for you. I'm in my 60s, how many days can I live?I don't even have the freedom to play mahjong?I will play mahjong every day in the future!Since then, my mother-in-law really went to the mahjong parlor to play mahjong every day.
During the entire confinement period, Li Ling could only take care of herself and the children by herself, and she did not dare to make any requests to her mother-in-law. The cost of hiring a confinement lady is too high, and it is inconvenient for the mother-in-law's house. When Li Ling and her husband got married, her mother-in-law sold the old house and replaced it with a big one, so they had no home of their own and could only live in her mother-in-law's house.
After the maternity leave, Li Ling tried her best to please her mother-in-law and asked her to help take care of the child: "Mom, look, this child is your own granddaughter at first glance, she looks like you, you take it out, you have more face!."The mother-in-law was silent.
Mom, we are now in the ** period of work, and the child will grow up in a few years. Once you lose your job, it's hard to find it again, don't you say?Li Ling begged her mother-in-law again to help take care of the child.
The mother-in-law ignored it.
Mom, my salary is 5,000 yuan a month, all handed over to you, except for taking care of the children, you don't have to take care of the housework, I will deal with it after work!The mother-in-law agreed.
In the first ten days of Li Ling's work, her mother-in-law took her child to the mahjong parlor every day, and when the child slept, she played a few laps, and when the child woke up, she watched others play a few laps.
Half a month later, the child suffered from eczema because he did not change diapers for a long time, and his eyes were red and swollen because he was illuminated by smoky lights all year round.
Mom, can you not play mahjong while holding your child?Li Ling begged her mother-in-law.
Again, I am not obligated to help you with your children, and you have no right to interfere with my freedom!The mother-in-law refuted Li Ling with confidence.
Sure enough, many days later, my mother-in-law still invited mahjong friends to play mahjong at home. But within a few days, because my mother-in-law had children at home, it was too noisy, and the friends didn't come.
Finally, a month later, her mother-in-law couldn't stand that she couldn't play mahjong as she wanted, and issued an "eviction order" to Li Ling's family: "I'm too old to take care of your children." I like to be quiet and can't stand the noise of children. You'd better move out. If you encounter any difficulties, you can overcome them on your own!”
I'm not obligated to help you!Li Ling felt helpless, so she had to move out of her mother-in-law's house with her husband and children. Three months later, Li Ling found a small two-bedroom house, and begged her mother-in-law: "Mom, can you help us make up the down payment?"Renting a house is too expensive, it's not cost-effective, and it's a big expense for children. ”
You are young people and earn more. I am now old and can only live on my pension. If I put the money on you for a down payment, then I'm sick and go to ** to find money for treatment?Besides, I usually like to play mahjong, and I can't always play five cents, one piece, and now I'm playing eight cents, if I don't play, I'll be laughed at by mahjong!The mother-in-law was right.
So, Li Ling had no choice but to ask her parents' family for help, scraped together the minimum down payment, applied for the highest amount of loan, and then asked her mother to come over to help take care of the child.
Three years ago, Li Ling became pregnant unexpectedly, and her mother was unwell and could no longer help take care of the child.
When she gave birth to her second child, her daughter had just entered the first grade and needed to be picked up and dropped off four times a day.
Mom, can you help me pick up and drop off the kids every day?Half of my salary for you!Li Ling begged her mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law agreed at first, but in the half month of picking up and dropping off the child, the child was late four times, and the reason was always: "I played cards late last night and overslept!".”
What's even more infuriating is that the mother-in-law forgot to pick up the child three times, the reason is: "There are rules for playing mahjong, if you don't play enough eight rounds, you can't end the game, which will affect the interest of mahjong friends!."”
After the maternity leave, Li Ling hired a nanny to help take care of the child.
Once, Li Ling was on a business trip, and the nanny called ** and said that the child had a fever. Li Ling immediately called her mother-in-law, hoping that she would go to the hospital with the nanny to see the child.
I can't go, I'm busy!The mother-in-law replied, but Li Ling obviously heard the sound of mahjong coming from the other end of the **.
In the year after giving birth to her second child, Li Ling had to run around her daughter's school, hospital, home and work because of problems such as her mother's illness and the child's hospitalization. During these hectic times, she couldn't even eat a meal a day.
It was at this time that Li Ling's unit began to implement the elimination of the last position, and her husband was also facing a critical moment in his career.
In the end, after her son was hospitalized for seven days with a high fever, in order to take care of her two children and support her husband's work, Li Ling quit her job and went home to become a full-time housewife.
After quitting her job, Li Ling's daughter's academic progress and her son's health gradually improved. Despite some financial difficulties, they were able to make ends meet and lived a relatively stable life for more than a year, and the relationship between her and her mother-in-law gradually stabilized.
However, just half a month ago, my mother-in-law had a sudden cerebral hemorrhage while playing mahjong and was rushed to the hospital.
In order to take care of her mother-in-law, Li Ling's husband had to take a leave of absence, which led to the failure of her husband's full attendance award. In addition, due to the loss of a client, the project bonus is gone.
You come and take care of me and let my son go to work!The mother-in-law made a request to Li Ling.
Mom, I have to take care of my two children, and my mother, I don't have the time or energy to care about you anymore!I have to take care of the children I gave birth to, and I have to take care of the mother who raised me. You didn't give birth to me, you didn't raise me, you didn't help me, I can't take care of you. Li Ling responded unceremoniously to her mother-in-law.
Then you take out the money my son earned and pay for me, that's what my son earned!The mother-in-law said to Li Ling.
Mom, you're right, the money is earned by your son, but it's the joint property of our husband and wife. According to the housework of one person, the cost of raising children is half for one person, the cost of firewood, rice, oil and salt, water, electricity and heating property gas is half for one person, and the mortgage is half for one person. Considering your son's dedication and sacrifice to the family, converted into money at market price, he still owes me a lot every month, what about the money he came to honor you?Li Ling responded to her mother-in-law confidently.
Is it okay to say less than two sentences?Li Ling's husband spoke at this time.
Yes, you honor your mother, it's right, I don't care. But if you lose your job because of leave, you can figure out how to spend 10,000 yuan a month on your ownIf you cash out, borrow money to pay, you pay it back yourself, don't involve me, otherwise we will divorce!After Li Ling finished speaking, she walked out of her mother-in-law's ward with her two children.
Look at your daughter-in-law, can you still have it?The mother-in-law said angrily to her son.
Mom, Li Ling** said something wrong?In the past few years, you can see how difficult it has been for us, but you just won't help. You have the money to play mahjong, but you don't have the money to make a down payment for us;You have time to play mahjong, you don't have time to bring us the kids;You have a good body to play mahjong, and now you are sick and let your daughter-in-law serve, isn't this a dream?I'll lend you money to pay your bills, hire a caregiver for you, and from tomorrow I'll be going to work to earn money!After the son finished speaking, he went to chase Li Ling.
Although whether it is law or morality, it is appropriate to respect the old and filial piety, but empathy, between the two strangers of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, what should be done, it is all a report and a report.