The 53-year-old mother-in-law insisted that the child have the woman's mother's surname, and the father-in-law said a word when he found out, and the daughter-in-law cried bitterly
My name is Li Meng, I am 28 years old this year, and I am a typical only daughter of the post-80s. Two years ago, I met my husband Wang Jinsong, who was 3 years older than me and worked in an accounting firm, through a blind date. The two soon entered into marriage, and their married life was also very happy.
It was only recently that the issue of a surname began to crack in our otherwise happy little family.
The cause of the incident can be traced back to 3 months ago. At that time, I was 5 months pregnant, and my mother-in-law asked me abruptly, "What are you going to name your baby?"Who's the last name?”
I was stunned for a moment: "This, it should be my husband's surname." ”
What should not be done!The mother-in-law's tone instantly hardened, "I know that young people nowadays are selfish and unrighteous. I don't want to pass on the lineage and keep a little blood!”
The most important thing in having a child is health, and the surname is not the most important, right?"I tried to defuse this sudden topic.
Nope!This is absolutely non-negotiable!The mother-in-law said solemnly, "You must let the child have the girl's surname, this is my wish and that of your father-in-law!."”
My father-in-law has no problem with this at all, but I can't break it at this time, so I can only come down and prevaricate first. Let's figure it out for ourselves.
Hung up on my mother-in-law's **, I was a little irritable. What the hell is going on, shouldn't the child have his father's last name?I decided to talk to my husband first.
That night, I told my husband what had happened, but I didn't expect him to react so violently: "Oh my God, this is ridiculous!".The child takes the mother's surnameI disagree!I told him to calm down, but he insisted on his opinion and even slammed the door.
For the next few days, my husband's face remained ugly. Finally, one night, he told me that he had decided to have a showdown with his parents to get the matter straight.
I know that this old couple is not easy to get along with. My husband complained to me that his father was short-tempered and his mother was too stubborn. This time, the issue of the child's surname does not know what kind of war of words will evolve.
The next day, I waited anxiously for the results to be brought by my husband. It was near evening that he returned home exhausted, looking dejected.
How about it, did your parents agree?I couldn't wait to ask.
I don't know. My husband's expression was complicated, "I just had a big fight with them, and I lifted the table and rushed out."
I sighed, and sure enough, there was no good news at all. At this moment, I am afraid that the marriage relationship will become more strained.
After a few days, I finally mustered up the courage again and dialed the ** for my mother-in-law. Unexpectedly, she only said briefly: "Take a step back, open the sea and the sky." And hung up.
This sentence made me have mixed feelings. I don't know if this is a concession on their behalf or if it means something else.
The husband said that this sentence should have been said by his father. This means that he will persuade his mother to let her children take her husband's father's surname, but I hope we can also be considerate of the feelings of the elderly.
Indeed, we are all too impatient in this debate. Since the two sides have taken a step back, it shouldn't be a problem for the child to follow her husband's surname, right?I don't want to affect my relationship with my mother-in-law because of this.
So the next day, I made a special call to apologize to my mother-in-law, saying that it is still appropriate to let the child take her husband's surname. The mother-in-law was silent for a long time before she said, "As long as you husband and wife are happy." I could hear the disappointment in her tone, and I felt very uncomfortable.
After a while, the mother-in-law suddenly said, "Forget it." In fact, your father-in-law and I are also at fault. ”
When I gave birth to your husband, we had a daughter. It's just that she died early and only lived for 3 years, which left regrets. That's why we heard that we were going to have a grandson this time, and we were so excited that we wanted to continue the string inheritance.
In fact, the most important thing to have a child is to be healthy, and to grow up smoothly. Nothing else matters, you just make your own decisions.
As I listened to my mother-in-law's narration, my nose was sore, and tears flowed down my eyes. I was so selfish, I only thought about my mood and position, but I never thought about the story behind the old couple.
I apologized softly to my mother-in-law, saying that I would take good care of myself and have a healthy grandchild. My mother-in-law didn't embarrass me anymore, but only told me to pay attention to my body and take good care of the baby.
Hanging up**, I wiped away my tears and smiled slightly. This misunderstanding was finally resolved. I believe that I will pass on this warm love from generation to generation with my husband.
Thank you all for your **, thank you!