Demystifying Selfish People: Three Signs, Don't Make Deep Friends to Avoid Harm.
Author: Wen Qiusheng.
01. Introduction.
Selfishness is one of the natural instincts of human beings, and everyone has a tendency to be selfish to varying degrees. However, some people exhibit excessively selfish traits that are intolerable. This type of person only cares about their own interests and completely ignores the feelings of others. In interpersonal interactions, when we encounter the following three manifestations, we may wish to keep our distance so as not to be hurt.
02. Selfish people who are unwilling to care for and help others.
Selfish people are more Xi of "taking" rather than "giving." When it comes to getting along with others, they don't take the initiative to care about others, they don't want to help others, and they don't want to share their resources. There was once a friend who always asked for help from others, but when others needed his help, he always made all kinds of excuses to shirk it. This behavior caused him to gradually isolate himself from the people around him. Selfish people only care about their own needs and interests, are indifferent to the situation of others, and are unwilling to devote time and energy to others.
03. There is no goodwill and empathy in the heart.
Kindness and empathy are powerful forces that have the power to change the world. Selfish people, when interacting with others, lack understanding and empathy for others, showing numbing emotional responses. They are reluctant to put themselves in the shoes of others and are indifferent to the pain and plight of others. This lack of empathy makes people feel cold and unforgiving, making it difficult to form genuine friendships. Even when others ask for help, they will only do it out of self-interest, rather than genuinely helping or comforting them.
04. Unwilling to share, unwilling to pay to others.
Selfish people often hold on to their money and resources and are reluctant to share them with others. They are afraid of losing their personal interests and power, and prefer to stay in a small circle and enjoy wealth for themselves. This mindset makes it difficult for them to work with others and easily wraps themselves under the umbrella of interests. However, success requires learning to share and exchange resources with others. Only by closely linking the interests of the individual with the interests of others can we truly grasp more opportunities.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message.
On the road of life, being kind to others is a manifestation of wisdom. Good interpersonal relationships require us to learn to be generous, to share, and to be kind to others. For selfish people, keep a certain distance and avoid deep friendships so as not to get hurt. True success and happiness are built on caring, helping, and sharing with others. Only by getting rid of the selfish mentality and being generous can the road of life be wider and broader.
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