"Not busy, what a beautiful word. Not busy, what a poetic picture. A person who is not busy is a person who has seen through the illusion of time and lives outside of time. A person who is not busy is a person who has seen the appearance of things and lives in the truth. Wherever the hand goes, there is awareness. Where a person is, his heart rests. Whatever you do, your attention is on what you do. With whom the heart is with him. Whatever you do, you enjoy it. ”
Populus euphratica. On the morning of Tuesday, December 5th, I saw Luo Zhenyu say "busy" on the **: "What is there to be busy with a person who advances his schedule step by step and methodically every day?Nowadays, everyone says that they are busy, and there is a definition of busyness, which says, 'busy, just a personal medal that modern people use to show off'. Busy, it seems that you have a lot of things at hand, but we all know that busy is often followed by another word - chaos. ”
Indeed, nowadays, "busy" is not only a shield but also a capital for people to show off, which can not be described as a social strangeness. Professor Ning Xiangdong of Tsinghua University once wrote that the whole society is now caught in a "busyness syndrome".
A woman's jewels are not as good as "tranquility and joy".
That day with a "post-80s" girlfriend in a café, I wanted to enjoy a rare time together, but I saw that she kept swiping her mobile phone, and the conversation was not distracted at all. After sitting for less than 20 minutes, she said that the end of the year was very busy, and then she got up to leave, only to spill the coffee in her hand.
Looking at her young back, I wondered: When I was young, I was also as frivolous and godless as her
I never seem to be able to say that I am "busy". When I was young, I was full of anxiety and used my time against time, but I didn't feel "busy", but I liked the full life.
Jiang Xun said that busyness means the "death" of the heart. And busy people are basically "blind" people, and they can't see beauty in their eyes at all. "The biggest enemy of beauty is 'busy', and busy is actually the death of the soul, the meaning of not feeling the surroundings. When we say 'busy and idle', according to the traditional Chinese way of writing, it is to suddenly see the moon at the door of the house. All the tiny, seemingly insignificant things around us may be our greatest ...... of salvationWhat we can do is a lot of trivial things, like Nuwa mending the sky, to make up for our sense of desolation. ”
I remember when I was young, I went to the botanical garden with my best friend, and she selflessly photographed flowers under the scorching sun, and I hid in the shade of the tree and laughed at her silly. From my current perspective, I was full of anxiety at that time, and there was indeed a "lack of beauty" in my eyes. After years of study and Xi practice, the inner sense of order and stability has replaced the inner chaos, and now I only have beauty in my eyes.
Speaking of which, when I **Luo Zhenyu** wrote that day: "I am never busy, and I finish my work smoothly every day." Like yesterday, I call it 'Plump Monday'. I got up at half past six in the morning and read a healthy version of the manuscript;Eat, read early;Work starts at 9 o'clock;Turned off at 12 o'clock, watched TV news, didn't eat lunch;In the afternoon, I went to the unit to check in and watch two health versions;At half past five, I went home and made three dishes for my son - sweet and sour pork ribs, winter melon and shrimp, scrambled eggs with tomatoes, and rice;After eating, I went out for a walk on time at 8 o'clock, and when I came back, I watched ** four sets of "Both Sides of the Strait" and "Today's Topic", and then slept until half past 6 the next day. ”
It was my most ordinary day. Done a lot of work and wasn't busy at all.
My experience is that when you are fully engaged and efficient in your work, you can relax like a child, as if you are connected to childhood. The result of being productive is that you have more leisure time;And more leisure time will recharge and refuel you, making you more efficient. In such a virtuous cycle, the days will be silky smooth.
Therefore, some people say: "An efficient person, their busyness is linear, and the affairs to be done are like beads on the **, which are dialed one by one in an orderly manner." He himself is not a bead, but the one who plucks it. The best state of commitment and busyness is one that is busy and not chaotic. However, a low-performance person cannot observe and dispose of it with an orderly mind, so there is always a sense of entanglement in the heart, and there is a lack of freedom and space. Even the time to make a cup of tea and a cup of coffee has become extravagant or hurried. ”
Lao Tzu's "Tao Te Ching" said: "If you are light, you will lose your roots, and if you are rash, you will lose your king." That is, rashness loses its roots, and restlessness loses its mastery. And "losing roots" and "losing kings" are the psychological portrayals of our modern people.
Nowadays, when I look at a woman, I see whether she has "two qi", that is, tranquility and joy. Stillness is concentration, which allows you to take all your chances while workingJoy is a sense of relaxation, and when you are leisure, you are alive and dehydrated, and you can breathe with nature and feel the beauty of all things. In a word, a woman's jewels are not as good as "tranquility and joy".
The big knows the leisure, and the small knows the intermittent
Charlie Munger, who is 99 years old, and Kissinger, who is 100 years old, recently passed away one after another. On October 29, Munger was also interviewed by the podcast acquired, Kissinger worked 15 hours a day before his death, and since the end of May, he has traveled to Germany, the United Kingdom, and the United States to attend a number of 100th birthday commemoration ......
The author, Sister Shui, talked about the inspiration given to people by the two evergreen trees, and wrote: "Their lives are all young and experienced all kinds of displacement and desperate and painful tests, but they still demand themselves from time to time with the highest standards, and live with the mentality, mental strength, mental energy, and mental strength of a lifetime that is burned out to the extreme and expanded to the extreme." Cicero said in On Old Age that 'the best protective armor in old age is a life spent with care, a life devoted to the pursuit of useful knowledge, glorious merit, and noble manners'. If your heart and lifestyle are aligned, you will only be happier in your old age than when you were younger. ”
These two wise men remind me of Zhuangzi's "great knowledge is idle, and small knowledge is intermittent".
"Leisurely" means leisurely, broad-minded. "Great knowledge and leisure" refers to people with great wisdom, who are good at grasping the laws of things, usually seem to be leisurely, and shoot when it is time to make a move. Leisurely and leisurely is the magic of wisdom.
"Intermittent" refers to a gap, where the two doors are not closed tightly, and there is a gap. "Little Zhijian" refers to a smart person who is busy all day long, always hesitant when he meets people and things, pays too much attention to parts and details, and has no overall concept.
Wisdom and wisdom are indeed different, if you don't have the wisdom to see through and the effort to put down, you will be tired and full of troubles and pains in your heart. In fact, the essence of "big knowledge" and "small knowledge" is the problem of cognitive height or cognitive dimension. And constantly expanding our cognition is the most important thing for each of us in this life.
Busy or not, mentality determines the state
A teacher who is serious about teaching children is not a busy person. A person who immerses himself in drawing and writing every day is not necessarily a busy person. And the woman who is writing the manuscript but is worried about her children's grades, the man who is running but is worried about promotion, and the old man who is tinkering with flowers and plants in the yard but has been worried about his body ......These people don't seem to be busy, but they are "busy people".
So, what to do or not to do does does not tell whether a person is busy or not. What kind of mentality to do things with is the standard of being busy or not.
When people are here, their minds go elsewhere, and they are very busy separating their bodies and mindsDoing one thing and thinking about another, you're busy. Being busy means that you live in the future or in the past, but you miss the present. Busy, led by desire, led by results, led by utilitarianism, do not know who they are and why they live.
When a person is physically and mentally together, even if she is "busy" every day, she may still be a leisurely person, a comfortable person, and a person who is not busy.
As the saying goes: the general does not chase the rabbit when he is in a hurry. When we're on the road, we're going to give it our all. But when we're not in a hurry, why don't we chase the bunny?Maybe you'll find a new continent.
Finally, may we say goodbye to "busyness", be a "non-busy person", and enjoy the quiet years. Live in the state you like and move at your own pace. Happiness does not lie in abundance, but in contentment.