I am 32 years old, my childhood sweetheart and my wife, we have been neighbors since childhood, and we went to the same high school in the city, and we got married in the presence of relatives and friends after working.
I have lived in a rented house for several years, not because I am not qualified to buy a house, but I think that instead of buying a two-bedroom wedding house, it is better to struggle for a while, buy a big house with a positive set, and take over my parents, so that I can take care of each other and not worry about no one taking care of the children.
After getting the support of my wife, we have been working hard in this direction, and now the family lives together, not to mention how lively it is.
I came home from work that day, my mother and wife were busy in the kitchen for dinner, my dad cleaned up in and out of the house, I went into the house to change clothes, and went to the sofa to take a nest, planning to wait for the meal, brush will ** relax.
After more than ten minutes, everyone sat around the table to prepare the meal, and when I just took out two bottles of beer from the refrigerator, my dad frowned and asked me to look at the family group.
The so-called family group was done by my uncle many years ago, and he pulled all the relatives of our Chen family into it, and there were dozens of people in it, some familiar and some unknown.
Usually there is no useful information in the group, either chatting about a few tasteless homely gossip, or helping each other on various software, everyone understands, it's really annoying.
It's quite active to catch up with the New Year's holidays, there are greetings, and they praise each other, anyway, it doesn't matter, because our family basically doesn't squeak inside.
I glanced at it, and the news of the family group showed "99+", I flipped from top to bottom, and after reading it for most of the day, I realized that there was a relative who was sick and was currently hospitalized in the city.
In terms of the distance of blood relationship, there have been five suits, and in terms of seniority, I have to call him uncle, if it weren't for the uncle, I wouldn't know that I still have such a distant relative.
According to the uncle, the uncle has been diagnosed with cancer, and the situation is not optimistic, and the next step is to treat it with chemotherapy.
Uncle and aunt have been farming in the countryside, relying on the loess to support a pair of children, just finished providing for their daughter to go to college, and helped their son get married.
Therefore, the uncle, who has always been "warm-hearted", raised money in the group and made a speech for this love donation: "I can't write two surnames in one stroke, and the family doesn't speak two languages, since they are both descendants of the Chen family, how can they stay out of the matter?"Now that it's time to help, we can't sit idly by, and everyone says it's not a good idea”
Several uncles of the same generation took the lead in responding after the uncle's generous statement and expressed their willingness to donate, so the uncle took the opportunity to propose that all the money be transferred to him, and then he would summarize it and hand it over to the uncle's family.
I was silent after reading it, my dad took a chopstick cold dish and asked everyone's opinions: "Everyone else has donated, how much is appropriate for our family?."If you don't take a point, you will definitely not be able to explain it. ”
I nodded yes, I don't know, it's just that, since everyone knows it, it's a good relative, and it will definitely make people pay attention to it behind their backs, not to mention my uncle's mouth, if you know that we are holding our money bags as iron roosters, it will inevitably make a fuss, I'm afraid we won't have the face to go back to our hometown.
This happened 3 years ago, when a relative was sick, and the uncle went door-to-door to do work and mobilized this group of relatives to donate money and materials.
There is an aunt's family conditions are not very good, the man is moving bricks at the construction site, she has to look after the family's few acres of land, and she has to take care of the two children to go to school, maybe 200 yuan will disrupt the expenses, so she didn't donate.
After the uncle learned about it, regardless of thirty-seven twenty-one, just like a long-tongued woman, she chewed the root of her tongue whenever she met people, saying that this aunt did not talk about family affection and was not close to people, and once made her a joke among the people in the village after tea and dinner.
Since it's so mysterious, and it's life-saving money, let's not be too petty, I'll take 2000. My dad said bluntly.
My mother felt that the relatives who couldn't beat the eight poles were all heart, she glared at my dad and said: "You see everyone in the group donating, 300 yuan for a long trip, not much for 500, what kind of big cloves of garlic do we pretend, but it will be paid attention to, just give 1000, a lot." ”
My wife and I agreed with my mom and decided to give 1,000 according to her opinion.
However, when I was about to transfer money to my uncle, my wife suddenly shouted, my hand stopped in the air, and she said with an unhappy face: "Look at the group, the uncle is a moth again." ”
I don't know why, I hurriedly opened the family group, and found that the uncle was in it 3 times in a row, and I was speechless after reading it.
The third hammer (my dad is the third, the hammer is my nickname), how much you donate, it belongs to you, but don't donate too little, otherwise the uncle is embarrassed to mention it. ”
That's good, Uncle will tell you a number, just 10,000, and set an example for your brothers and sisters in the group. ”
You kid, the uncle told you something, why don't you squeak, if you can't say a word, everyone will look at it. ”
Oh my God, if it is according to the uncle's request, it is 9000 more than expected, I looked at the donation list sent by the uncle in the group, only one person donated 1000, and the others are 200 to 300, 500 are not few, why should I be asked to donate 10,000?
Before I could complain, my mother was anxious and lost her temper at my dad on the spot: "This is your brother, unreasonable, the closer the relationship, the more money should be paid?".is quite old and has no eyebrows, he will open his mouth to call others, and he will use family affection as a bargaining chip at every turn, he wants to be in front of me to see that I don't tear him. ”
My wife also pouted on the side and assisted my mother: "Without him doing things like this, we pay for it, he uses it to earn face, we do good things, maybe people don't know who we are, Mom, don't you say?".”
Alas, in the face of the big truth of the two women, our father and son sighed at the same time.
Take the donation I said 3 years ago, when my wife had just given birth, my monthly salary was only more than 5,000, although I had the help of my parents, but I still felt pressure, and my uncle happened to go into the city to do errands, "by the way" to find the door.
After explaining the intention, my dad didn't say a word, and immediately took 1000, the uncle was displeased, and his mouth was almost behind the root of his ear: "I said the third child, people are waiting for money to save their lives, if they are all like you, take 1000 today, take 800 tomorrow, the dishes are cold." ”
My dad is stupid, and he can't get to the point when he is in a hurry, so I explained the current situation of the family for him, but the uncle said that we are used to living in the city, and we have no conscience, and said that I work in a big place, and I am not short of this money at all, and I am obviously unwilling to help.
Uncle stood on the moral high point and nagged a lot, my dad had a good face, and his face was so hot that he had to turn out another 1,000 yuan from the drawer, or my mother almost dropped the cup, and the uncle took the money and left.
Later, the relative was discharged from the hospital, and in order to thank our relatives for their generosity in times of crisis, the children also specially organized a banquet for him, and our family was also present.
What makes us angry is that the uncle's family of several people only donated 300, and my family took 2000 He is too little, but the matter is Uncle Zhangluo, people only remember the love on the uncle's head, looking at his face full of pride, the more he drinks, the more energetic he becomes, my mother's heart is blocked.
Now, facing such a situation again, my mother has a headache, and at this time, my wife is in a hurry and comes up with a clever plan for us.
So I asked Uncle Aite in the group and asked: "Uncle, with my conditions, it is said that 10,000 should be paid, but I thought about it for a while and felt that it was inappropriate, in terms of qualifications, you are an elder, and we should take you as an example as a younger generation, how much did you donate this time, as long as you take the lead, I will follow." ”
After sending it, I can't help but be a little afraid, what if the uncle donates more?The wife snorted lightly and said that even if the rooster can lay eggs, your uncle will not bring the blood capital.
Sure enough, within a few minutes, the uncle called**, as soon as he connected, I heard the uncle pulling his neck and shouting to me: "Why are you talking kid, so many people in the group are watching, don't you have the intention to get along with your uncle, Ma Yu withdrew the news." ”
My mom made a gesture to my dad, my dad was a myth in his heart, took the **, and pressed the speakerphone: "Big brother, what's wrong, such a loud voice, the hammer is not wrong, our old Chen family belongs to you and has face, and everyone can't be worse than you donate." ”
After my dad finished speaking, my wife also coaxed: "That's it, uncle, you have to let everyone know how much money you pay, otherwise we will donate less, won't it be a loss of face for your old man." ”
After a few words, the uncle ended the call in a hurry, and after a while, my wife and I were kicked out of the family group by him.
Such a result, to be honest, I am not surprised at all, I just feel hateful and helpless, the uncle himself does not take care of it, and he is angry with our juniors, my father is angry, and pulls my mother to silently withdraw from the group, and my mother said that he can't be the unjust boss in vain.
Then I asked my dad to transfer 1,000 directly to his relatives with cancer without going through my uncle.
The next day, a cousin in the group chatted with me privately, saying that after I finished the call, the group suddenly became lively, and they asked the uncle how much he had donated, because my wife and I were removed from the group, I don't know, until now the uncle has not responded positively, presumably the matter is big, and he can't hang on his face.
Uncle borrowed flowers to offer Buddha, in essence, it was to help others, I count him kind, but the question is, why should he borrow how many flowers, what kind of flowers, all of them have to be assigned by him?Everyone gives a review, is there an elder who does this?