With the increase in the divorce rate, marital happiness has also become a focus of attention. There are many reasons why more and more marriages are falling apart. Mainly focused on a few aspects!The first is that the way both parties give love before and after marriage has changed, and the second is that when romantic love is injected with firewood, rice, oil and salt, it becomes less beautiful. In the end, the trajectory of the development of the two is getting bigger and bigger, so that the two people who were originally the right people finally have a high and low difference. How to manage a marriage well has become a common topic that bothers everyone!
First: Don't try to change the other person, but try to accept the other person.
Everyone has a dream of the protagonist and has their own values. After marriage, the two walked together, whether it was a man or a woman, they all hoped that the other party could live as the ideal other half in their minds. This is clearly unrealistic. Instead of asking the other party to live according to their own views of right and wrong and values, it is better to accept the differences of the other party, weaken the unsatisfactory aspects of the other party, and use the advantages of the other party to improve themselves.
No one wants their life to be planned by someone else. Especially adult males, who have their own rhythm and plans for life. Women don't try to change. Once the two have the idea of changing each other, they will inevitably feel less and less good about each other. When the other party's unsatisfactory places continue to be strengthened in the mind, the final result is that they are more and more unable to come together.
Therefore, I advise all couples with families not to try to change each other in life, but to start from self-change, to accept some of each other's shortcomings, and appreciate each other's advantages. When you keep complimenting the other person, you will find that the other person will reciprocate and give you a happier feeling.
Second: Give up unbridled demands and see your partner as your backing for your betterness.
There is no end to human desires, and when you get it, you will yearn for a higher stage. It's human nature. As a couple, what we need is not to blame each other for their incompetence and inaction, but to think about how to make ourselves stronger in marriage.
More and more married families are endlessly complaining about each other's incompetence. This is a very undesirable thing, as the other half of the other party, the other party's incompetence is not inseparable from themselves, why the two of them did not play 1 + 1 greater than 2 together, but became 1 + 1 became a negative number.
Therefore, don't ask and demand from each other uncontrollably, as a participant in marriage, what we have to do is how to make ourselves better to serve the family, instead of hoping to realize our life dreams through the strength of the other party. Don't dream of Prince Charming and Cinderella, or Snow White and the Dwarf.
Third: Marriage is a long-distance race, don't be blinded by the scenery in front of you.
There is never a perfect marriage, and there is no such thing as a flawless human being. Love is beautiful, marriage is dull. We not only have to enjoy the kind of doting and preference during the relationship, but also enjoy the roughness of marriage. When a relationship begins, it is full of surprises and surprises because it is unfamiliar. When the relationship progresses to a certain extent, it will naturally become too familiar and no longer have a sense of surprise.
Therefore, I hope that the two people who enter the marriage can take this as a long-distance run in life, no matter how beautiful the scenery around us is, we must maintain our bottom line and go on this marriage, rather than easily give up and start again.
To sum up: marriage is in crisis for various reasons, everyone will have different crises on the road to marriage, we as participants in marriage, the first thing to think about is what the other party needs, what I can provide for the other party. And not what the other party can give me. I believe that the beginning of every marriage is beautiful, and whether this beauty can be brought to the end depends on the tolerance of both parties and how deep their love for each other is.