Title Improper care of the condition, mother-in-law angrily scolded unfilial piety, confinement was neglected
Li Xiaoran, 40 years old, has been married for seven years and has a six-year-old daughter.
I work at a gas station and my husband is a steel mill worker.
Since we got married, we have been living with our in-laws, who have four large spacious tiled houses.
My father-in-law has been in poor health, and my mother-in-law has no job.
My husband and I are responsible for our daily expenses.
My husband and I met through a colleague.
I was born in the countryside and came to the city to work after graduating from high school.
My husband is a college student who returned to our hometown for family reasons after graduation.
When he returned, he found a job in a steel mill.
Although the husband's family lives in a bungalow, in the eyes of the mother-in-law, this is already a kind of superiority, after all, it is a living environment in the city.
So at first, my mother-in-law didn't approve of my relationship with my husband.
In fact, there is not much advantage in the conditions of the husband's family.
So much so that in the years we got married, my husband often said that if it weren't for the fact that I didn't dislike him, I'm afraid he would still be single.
But my mother-in-law didn't think so, she always felt that I had climbed her family and her son.
Although her husband is a college student, his family conditions are very poor, his father-in-law often needs to take medicine and injections, and his mother-in-law does not work, so the burden of the whole family falls on the husband alone.
When my husband and I got married, his family still had a lot of foreign debts.
My husband told me that many people had introduced him to blind dates before, but once they heard about his family situation, he gave up.
As a result, this delay has been delayed for decades.
Due to my husband's family situation, when we got married, my parents were considerate of him and did not ask for a bride price, while my husband took out his savings of 30,000 yuan and gave it to his parents.
But my parents didn't accept it, but asked me to take the 50,000 yuan they gave me home with me.
Even so, the mother-in-law still felt that her parents were stammering husbands in her heart, and she was not grateful at all.
On the contrary, my husband has always been grateful and cares more about my parents than I do!After my husband and I got married, we couldn't get pregnant.
Both parents and I were very anxious, after all, we are not young anymore.
After a long period of conditioning, I finally did it!
I reacted very strongly after I became pregnant, vomiting whatever I ate, nausea and vomiting when I drank water, and at the same time, the fetus was unstable, and the doctor recommended me to stay in bed for three months!At that time, I couldn't get up and vomit on my own, and my husband's work required shift work, so he was too busy to take care of me, so I told my mother-in-law, asked her to take care of me every day, and I gave her an extra 1,000 yuan for living expenses.
However, my mother-in-law cooks well when my husband is home, but once he goes to work, she disappears.
Sometimes she doesn't even come home from playing cards all day, but she always comes home before her husband returns.
I told my husband, and he found my mother-in-law, and before she could speak, she said, "She spit out whatever I do to her, and I won't serve her anymore!""I felt very aggrieved because of this, I cried for a long time, my husband had no choice but to send me back to my parents' house, and gave my mother 2,000 yuan, but my mother did not ask for it, but took care of me for more than three months, my morning sickness symptoms improved a lot, and then my husband took me home, and I began to continue to work!My husband always makes food for me when he's not busy, and if he's busy, he eats with his mother-in-law.
Since there was only one kitchen, my mother-in-law said that it was her territory, so it was not good for me to go there to cook!Once, my husband and I went to the morning market.
I didn't expect to run into the neighbor's aunt and mother-in-law walking in front.
We walked slowly after them.
I heard them chatting as they walked!The neighbor's aunt said to her mother-in-law: "Your daughter-in-law is pregnant, you take good care of it, cook more delicious food for her, and need more nutrients when pregnant!."I only heard my mother-in-law say, "I'm too lazy to cook myself, so I won't cook for her!."The neighbor's aunt replied: "I have been taking care of my daughter-in-law when she is pregnant, she likes to eat fish, and I cook it for her at least three times a week."
You have to treat others well, and if you have any problems in the future, they will treat us well!People should understand each other!The mother-in-law replied, "I have a son."I don't need her to take care of it!"My husband wanted to interject, but I grabbed him, and when we got home, we bought rice cookers, electric woks, electric baking pans and other utensils, as long as we didn't use the gas from my mother-in-law's!Since then, my husband and I have started cooking for ourselves.
We also discussed with my mother in advance, and let her take care of my confinement and help take care of the children at that time.
My mother agreed, but unfortunately, when I was due to give birth, my mother fell ill with acute appendicitis and had to undergo surgery!You will need to rest for a few days after the surgery.
My husband was also very anxious, so he asked my mother-in-law to take care of me for a while, and my mother-in-law agreed.
I'm not a person who holds grudges, and I'm very grateful to my mother-in-law for her help.
However, on the day I went home for confinement after giving birth, my mother-in-law was lying motionless on the bed, claiming that she couldn't move because of back pain.
The husband could not do anything about it when he saw this.
Later, I called my cousin and asked her to take care of me for a few days during the day.
When my health gets a little better, I'll be able to take care of myself!The day after I returned home, my mother-in-law said that she needed to be taken care of at home and that she was going to her husband's aunt's house, so my husband sent my mother-in-law to my aunt's house.
My cousin took care of me for a week, and then I told my cousin not to come back!My cousin has two children at home, and I always ask others to help, and I feel very sorry not to go!A few days later, my mother came to take care of me, but she wasn't in good health!I complained to my mother!The mother said, "Your mother-in-law has low back pain, otherwise she will definitely take care of you, and you will treat her well in the future!""After my mother took care of me for three days, I saw some ** in my husband's aunt's daughter's circle of friends, and there were pictures of my mother-in-law and my husband's aunt going to the hot springs, eating farm vegetables and picking big cherries together!They went on a pleasant trip!I told my husband that my mother-in-law was not sick, which made my husband so angry that it led to stomach problemsAfter my mother-in-law returned, my mother stayed and continued to take care of me for almost two months!My mother-in-law didn't care about it, which made me decide to quit.
I take care of the children at home, and I learned to open a **, in this way, I can take care of the children and make money to subsidize the family!When my daughter was four years old, my husband and I paid off our previous debts and used our savings plus money from our parents to make a down payment.
We moved out of my in-laws' house!On the day of the May Day holiday, my mother-in-law went to her husband's aunt's house, accidentally broke her leg, and needed to be hospitalized and undergo surgery, which was about more than 20 days in the hospital.
I didn't plan to take care of my mother-in-law because my husband couldn't take care of me at all times because of my shifts, but my mother told me, "No matter how bad she is to you, she is the child's grandmother and your husband's mother!"You can't just ignore it!I'll take care of the baby for you, and you can take care of her!"I thought that it was not easy for my husband, so after thinking about it, I decided to go to the hospital and boil bone broth.
However, when I walked to the door of the ward, I heard my mother-in-law talking to my husband's aunt.
I heard my mother-in-law say, "I'm so unlucky, I married such a daughter-in-law, and she didn't want to take care of me in the first place when I fell like this, it's really unfilial!."My husband's aunt said, "You are so honest that you can't take on her!.""I silently walked out of the hospital, called my husband **, returned to my parents' house, and packed my luggage.
My husband said to me, "From now on, I will no longer interfere in the affairs of my mother-in-law."
If anyone hurts you again, I won't tolerate them!I'll be sure to speak well!"Really!Many times, people's hearts can't be easily cold!I remember a saying that said, "Leaves don't turn yellow in a day!".People's hearts don't get cold in a day!"Does everyone agree?