Sexual unrequited love means: I like you, but you must not like me. As long as you like me, I will have feelings of disgust for you.
The god I once admired the most was pulled off the altar by my own hands, and when it came, I didn't forget to add: "God is nothing more than that!."”
People who are sexually unrequited have no way to enjoy sweet love, they can't kiss and hug and hold high, they will resist and disgust, and there is no way to further communicate deeply. Therefore, being liked by the people they like has become a kind of trouble for them.
Manifestations of sexual unrequited love:
1. People who like and dislike themselves usually have a strong emotional attraction to those who are not interested in them or reject them.
2. Subjectively longing for love, but instinctively resisting Unrequited lovers may deep down desire to establish a romantic relationship with the person they like, but at the same time they will resist this idea for various reasons.
3. Once the other person responds to the relationship, they want to stay away and even feel disgusting When the object of a sexual unrequited lover responds to them emotionally, they may feel uncomfortable or disgusted and begin to distance themselves from the other person.
4. Commitment is ridiculous Sexual unrequited lovers may think that commitment is ridiculous, they may think that feelings are unstable, and commitment will only make people bound and restricted.
5. Attaches great importance to personal privacy, overemphasizes the importance of independence and self-control, and averses anything to manipulate themselves They may think that any attempt to control or manipulate themselves is unacceptable.
6. Intermittent desire to fall in love, although sexual unrequited lovers have conflicting emotional experiences about love, they may intermittently want to fall in love.
Sexually unrequited lovers need love deep down, they just can't build the conduit that will flow into their hearts. They don't have a specific group of people who can be together, but they need to get out of this cycle on their own.
How to improve sexual unrequited love?If you are indeed a person who avoids love and rejects intimacy, here are a few suggestions:
Recognize self-worth Look at yourself correctly, discover your strengths, do something that gives you a sense of fulfillment, and rebuild your sense of self-worth. When love comes, positively suggest to yourself that "I am worthy of love" and try to accept the other person.
Be honest with your partner about your unrequited love Make it clear to your partner about your situation and why not give it a try if the other person is willing to change with youTell the other party about your situation in advance, gain understanding, and reduce the psychological burden. Not everyone knows about unrequited sex, but you know a lot about it now. So if you really like someone, he may like you, you might as well tell the other person before everything starts, so that he really understands you. In this way, even if he confesses one day and you refuse, you can at least gain a trace of understanding, and you can reduce a lot of psychological burden.
Reject intimacy and start with holding hands a little bit. Some unrequited lovers have a completely wrong understanding of sex and love. Some have even progressed to psychological problems. When unrequited love becomes loved, it is associated with "there will be intimate contact", and then "sex" and other pictures, and a sense of disgust arises. This natural rejection of intimate contact makes it impossible for a sexual unrequited person to truly be in love with a person for a long time, and can only linger in lukewarm feelings. So, if you have someone around you who still feels quite a felt, you might as well start with small intimate gestures such as holding hands and touching your cheeks. Try the intimate touch of the body little by little, and gradually eliminate the fear and negative mentality in the bottom of the heart.
No matter what kind of person they are with, the sexual unrequited person must get to the root of the problem, and if necessary, turn to a professional counselor to find the deep fear in their hearts, open it up, and unravel it.
In fact, every individual situation of "sexual unrequitation" is different, and sometimes those pain buried deep in the heart is difficult to solve easily with one or two suggestions. When you are already confused, confused, and painful about your situation, which has seriously affected your life, you may wish to consult a professional psychological counselor for psychological healing. It may be of great help to really get to the root of the problem, to see it, to dig it out, and to solve it.
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