In fact, marriage is like a bondage, whether you want to or not, once you are bound, you will voluntarily give up because of your previous commitments and no longer pursue freedom.
Excerpt from the book "Wang Gui and Anna".
A still from the TV series "Wang Gui and Anna" shows.
Anna is a petty bourgeois literary young woman with a strong interest in foreign literature, and she has a strong habit of cleanliness. Before eating, she is Xi wiping her chopsticks with a handkerchief. If it weren't for the influence of the background of the times, she would probably have successfully been admitted to the university, and eventually entered into marriage with her first love Liu Bo, who shared her ideals, and had children.
Due to the limitation of "ingredients", Anna lost the opportunity to enter the university and became a factory female celebrity instead. Despite this, Anna is still very particular about life, and she is always the most special one among the young girls.
Anna and Wang Gui met through an introduction, Wang Gui is a young man from the countryside, his personality is rough, his behavior is straightforward, he is older, he does not pay much attention to personal hygiene, and he always chatters when eating.
Anna felt that Wang Gui's "hypocritical" man did not attract her attention, but Wang Gui's diligence and simplicity won the love of Anna's mother. With the joint efforts of her mother-in-law and relatives and friends, Anna finally accepted Wang Gui.
However, Anna does not have a crush on Wang Gui. At that time, Liu Bo, whom Anna had been longing for, married another woman. After a series of coincidences and opportunities, Anna finally accepted Wang Gui, who was generally considered a good man.
Anna and Wang Gui's married life is full of contradictions and sweetness, and this seemingly ordinary young couple has experienced seven years of emotional twists and turns in the process of supporting each other, and finally came to the point of gray hair.
As the children grew up and entered the palace of marriage, Wang Gui and Anna gradually mastered how to solve the children's emotional problems, so they became experienced in married life."
Even in a loveless marriage, the two are still able to support each other. Anna and Wang Gui are trying to change each other's personalities, Anna has gotten rid of her past squeamishness, and Wang Gui is Xi to taking care of his wife and children, and the two run this small family in full swing.
But does Anna really feel happy?
Wang Gui is a typical "phoenix man", he left the countryside and found a stable and decent job in the city, his family is waiting for his help, and every month he secretly sends money to his family, which Anna ignores.
In addition, Anna is also willing to accept her mother-in-law to help Wang Gui solve various problems within the family. In times of poor economic conditions, Anna also goes to pick affordable vegetables to make pickles.
This innocent and noble young woman has become a hard-working, physically unwell woman after marriage, which is really heart-wrenching.
In their married life, Anna and Wang Gui experienced many twists and turns, including divorce, and almost both made a betrayal move. Luckily, their behavior is controlled, but it also reveals the true emotions between them.
Wang Gui got along very well with his colleague Xiao Guifang, and Xiao Guifang had a very high respect for Wang Gui, which allowed Wang Gui to straighten his waist and become a real man's pride.
Wang Gui cares about Xiao Guifang in his daily work and life, he even took her to and from work on a bicycle, the two went out to eat together, and finally held hands.
Wang Gui has deep feelings for Xiao Guifang, and in his monologue, he is reluctant to divorce Anna because he does not want to lose his two children, and he can accept the loss of Anna.
Anna accepted everything from Wang Gui wholeheartedly, and she paid a huge price for her family, but all she got was Wang Gui's "dispensable" treatment.
Later, Anna also got the opportunity to leave Wang Gui. Liu Bo returns to pursue Anna again, but Anna is unable to break free because of the bondage of marriage. Anna needs to take care of her children and be loyal to her husband, and although her personal feelings seem insignificant, Liu Bo has always been a regret in her heart.
Anna regards Wang Gui as her husband, a title that seems to have no emotional overtones, and he is likely to be the father of the children or a member of a support group. They work together to solve problems when faced with difficulties and consult with each other when they are conflicted. Their main purpose together is to make ends meet, and although they have a partner, there is no real love, nor does it have the feeling that makes people really want to be hugged tightly by Wang Gui. Anna has never had the urge to take the initiative to kiss Wang Gui, and her favorite behavior is nothing more than patting Wang Gui on the forehead.
For Liu Bo and Anna, if it weren't for their thinking and firm will, they might have been surrounded by his tenderness, like two closely connected magnets, naturally embracing each other.
Although Anna and Wang Gui's marriage seems stable on the surface, it is actually Anna's compromise and compromise, a loveless marriage that is destined to make people feel regretful and lonely.
Many people believe that even a marriage without love can bring happiness, but this quote misleads many naïve girls, in fact, it is difficult to find true happiness in a marriage without love.
In this marital relationship, Anna lost the only true love of her life, and under the strong opposition of her husband Wang Gui, she lost the opportunity to be admitted to university again, and the family of the children also restricted her movements, which made people feel deeply lost.
If conditions allow, don't repeat the mistakes of the past and live like Anna. May every young woman have the opportunity to marry true love and thus achieve happiness in her heart.