Creative Inspiration CenterThe psychological counselor predicts the outcome of the Oriental selection essay incident
Hello everyone, I am Zhang Fang, and I believe that many friends have been paying attention to the Dongfang Selection Small Essay Incident in the past few days. So through the announcement released by Dongfang Selection today, we all know that this incident finally ended with Dong Yuhui becoming a senior partner of Dongfang Selection. In fact, from the very beginning of this event, I thought it would have a good ending.
So from what point do I strengthen this judgment?That is, starting from Mr. Yu Minhong's first apology, when Mr. Yu Minhong made his first apology to the public, when he made such a gesture, I had a judgment in my heart at that time, I said this matter, humility, all six are auspicious. Some people may know, and some people don't know, what does "humility" mean?The humble hexagram is one of the sixty-four hexagrams in the Book of Changes, so what about the sixty-four hexagrams, each hexagram is auspicious and vicious, but only the humble hexagram is auspicious.
So when Mr. Yu Minhong apologized, I said that this matter must be a humble hexagram and six auspicious hexagrams, and there will be a very happy ending in the end, so judging from today's announcement, this is indeed the way it has developed.
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Why do I have such a judgment?We have already explained from the Chinese culture "Book of Changes", humility hexagrams, six lines are auspicious, so what about "modesty", it contains some meanings such as modesty, low-key, and soft body in case of trouble, and what does it include?It's an apology. Apologize, because you are not sincere enough, your body is not soft enough, if you are a very good kind of person, or you are a very self-oriented kind of person, it is difficult for you to apologize, so this "humility", it also contains some meanings such as this apology. So from the perspective of our Chinese culture, the hexagram of humility and the six lines are auspicious, this is an explanation. So how do you explain it from a psychological point of view?
The atmosphere of an enterprise is actually inseparable from the personal characteristics of his first leader, so when Boss Yu himself is such a posture, he will inevitably affect his employees. So later, we saw that Dongfang Xiaosun in this incident also came out to apologize, including Tianquan two days ago, he also came out to apologize, so what does this mean?Explain this corporate culture, he has a modest, low-key, and change the characteristics of mistakes, which is of course a very good corporate culture.
At the same time, Boss Yu came to apologize, indicating that he is responsible, he is able to go to his subordinates, to bear some of their mistakes, we all know that in the history of China, there is a "guilty edict", this "guilty edict" is "the Quartet is guilty, the crime is bowing", just say that my subordinates have a problem, there are some differences in the management, so what is the reason?In me, it may not be his business, but he will be tolerant and responsible, which is a good mentality and a good corporate culture.
So in this hexagram, there is a very important character, who is this character?It's Dong Yuhui. After the incident came out, we can all see Yuhui, his posture is really very modest, it can be said that it has reached the point of sincere fear. He didn't make himself very impetuous because of everyone's surging support, this kind of concern, and even some agitation, no, he quietly returned to Xi'an. He personally did not put pressure on his company, he personally did not do something unfavorable to the company, the voice of the outside world undoubtedly made him feel anxious, he said that it felt like the wind was blowing, and the wind had some impact on him, but it did not affect his own personal attitude, he still had his own insistence, so the most important core figure in the "Qian Hexagram" is actually Dong Yuhui, he is really very, uh, low-key, very modest. This is also one of the reasons why everyone fully supports him, so Dong Yonghui's own attitude is actually very important.
After the matter came out, there were some voices that seemed to me to be very noisy, encouraging him to start a business, to go alone, to fight, to fight, I think these are very ignorant of Yuhui's personality, and they are also contrary to his values. Some people, the reason why they say this may be that many of their own things are projected into it, which has nothing to do with Dong Yuhui, Dong Yuhui is really the most core person in this whole incident.
Humility hexagram, all six lines are auspicious.
A message to Dongfang Xiaosun
Someone may be about to say, you say that the humility hexagram, the six masters are all auspicious, is the ending of Dongfang Xiaosun also auspicious?To remove him from the position of CEO, I think it is still a good thing in terms of his personal development and the management of their company.
When he (Xiao Sun) was dealing with things, he obviously exposed some problems in his personal character, so he really still needs to improve again, so it just so happens that this incident also gives him a chance, and his boss Yu Minhong is really a good person, he is very positive about Dongfang Xiaosun's advantage and ability, a high evaluation, and he is not completely denied because of this matter, he wants to grow, but he is not enough, so it is still auspicious for him.
I also wrote a text specifically for Dongfang Xiaosun, we didn't send it, the reason why we didn't send it is because this incident is not over, but today, I can tell you about it here. Why did Dongfang Xiaosun, as an executive of a company, make such a mistake, an obvious mistake?There is a very important concept in social psychology called "social comparison", so what about this social comparison, that is, as long as you are involved in social life, as long as you are a social person, you will definitely have a comparison with the people around you, because in the comparison you can grow. Social comparison, it is a very natural psychology of our social people, it is equivalent to us driving, we have to adjust our direction, what do we want to see?We have to look at this road sign on the street, and then we can have a reference, we can adjust our steering wheel, so its role is actually to play a role in reference and correction for our personal behavior, which is not good or bad in itself.
As a group of people in the workplace who are socially comparative, they are often the closest group to themselves, that is, their colleagues. But we also know that there are some people among colleagues, he may be because of talent, or because of this hard work, his growth is faster than others, or than the whole, obviously Dong Yuhui, he is the kind of talent and hard work, so his growth is very fast. His growth has surpassed that of his colleagues, and even his team, this Dongfang Selection, has a little bit and can't keep up, so this leads to a group structural crisis. In the Oriental Selection, how did this (mass crisis) finally manifest itself, everyone has also seen it, the small composition incident, we have seen this social comparison, not only Xiao Sun, ah, but even the competition that has been expanded to his industry, I will not say a few company names here, because ** has been reported, and everyone can see it. There are also some social comparisons of former colleagues who have come in, of course, the way they came in is a little interesting, they are all in this kind of suggestion from people who have come over, this kind of loyalty against the ear, such a posture of bitter words, but what is this?It's all "social comparisons" that bring all these people together in this event.
There are even people who mention this social comparison to a departing employee of Gree Air Conditioner, here I want to say that sometimes everyone must look at it calmly, there are some people who are really not at the same level of comparison, because you can compare with this Dong Yuhui, first of all, you are on a platform, and secondly, that is, you are working hard, right?Ah, you both work very hard, but the benefits of everyone's efforts are not the same, so some people may not work so hard, and you have to compare with others, which is obviously a bit embarrassing.
Social comparison is a natural phenomenon, but how can this natural phenomenon make it have a more benign effect, instead of such a destructive effect?In fact, in our culture, there is also a solution, Lao Tzu has these words in the "Tao Te Ching", "Take the law from the top, get it, take the law from it, take the law from it, then you have nothing", what is it?In other words, if we want to compare, one of us should compare with a higher reference, and the other should expand the scope of comparison. Here I still praise Dong Yuhui again, he likes to read very much, so what about his comparison object, these people he is targeting, are all ancient and modern Chinese and foreign virtuous people, whether he is literature, philosophy, all aspects, look at him, he doesn't mean that the mother-in-law and mother are very trivial and sesame things, he is not in these things, so his vision is very broad, but his colleagues are obviously not so broad.
Dong Yuhui, as their colleague, he grew up too fast and was too good, so that other people were blind, and they couldn't see Mount Tai, only the trees and the forest, so after this happened, their team realized that there were so many peers outside them, peers, peers, so many former colleagues, and so many other industries were also ready to poach people. At this time, they realized that social comparison is not just an internal matter for them, but actually involves all aspects.
Change the degree or change the behavior?Use whichever is useful
So at this time, Boss Yu quickly adjusted one of his postures, we said that he apologized, apologized, we are in social psychology, what do we think in the theory of cognitive dissonance, that is, it also has a strategic component, if the apology can work, that is, we can change the ** degree to make things develop in a good direction, then we don't need to change our behavior. Obviously, the boss and the relevant people within Dongfang Selection, after they apologized, changed the degree, but this incident is still fermenting, and all kinds of voices from the outside have come in.
So, just yesterday, the day before yesterday and yesterday, Dongfang Selection made two major decisions, one is that Dong Yuhui and the boss and the two of them went to the live broadcast, and then explained this matter to the public, including what to do later, to give you an explanation, everyone cares so much. So today, the decision has come out, and Dong Yuhui has become a senior partner of Dongfang Selection, so this is also an important aspect of social psychology research. That is to say, when the cognitive dissonance is incorrect, there are two strategies, one strategy is to change the degree, and the other strategy is to change the behavior, if the change is effective, then there may be no need to change the behavior, but if the change does not work, what may be needed, it is necessary to make some major decision-making behavioral adjustments, then we are in this incident, we have also seen, Dongfang Selection has done both steps.
The "public opinion kidnapping theory" is a serious underestimation of the entrepreneur's individual initiative and decision-making ability
At this point, I personally express my admiration for Boss Yu Minhong, because as a boss, a person who has worked hard in a shopping mall for so many years, he can respond so quickly and solve problems so sincerely, which is worthy of our respectThis is a decision kidnapped by public opinion, such a statement is obviously too emotional, before this happened, everyone also knew that the relationship between him and Dong Yuhui was quite good, including the day before yesterday in the live broadcast room, they were also commensurate with "the big head son and the little head father", such a sentence that seems to be a joke actually reflects a definition of the relationship between the two of them, and their relationship is very deep. Moreover, before, I don't remember the specific time too clearly, you can check it, Boss Yu also made it clear that it is possible for Yuhui to take over Dongfang Selection to become his ** person in the future.
Therefore, the kidnapping of public opinion that everyone thinks is obviously very unfair to Boss Yu, first of all, he has feelings, and secondly, he has the ability to make decisions, but ** and public opinion made this happen in advance. Then we know that whether it is in the family, or in the enterprise, or even in a larger scope, sharing power and interests is not an easy thing for anyone, it requires a psychological process, it is obvious that in the event of the Oriental selection, due to the participation of public opinion, the process has been advanced, which needs to be affirmed, but it cannot be said that public opinion kidnapped the decision of a boss, this statement is too naïve.
Conclusion
In addition, as Yuhui is concerned, after this incident, he suddenly rose to a higher level, so in fact, this is a pressure, which also means that he will have to work harder in the future, he will cherish his company more, and he will have to protect the interests of his team.
This issue of ** is over here, the Oriental Selection Essay Incident has come to a successful conclusion, and our spirit can also be pulled back to our own lives from the attention to the outside. I wish you all happiness and good health.
Text Editor: Shanshan Ho
Cover picture of this issue: Shu Ya Xiaoying
About the Author:
Zhang Fang, a national second-level psychological counselor, a master of psychological counseling and mental health from the Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, a member of the Cultural Psychology Professional Committee of the Chinese Psychological Association, a member of the Military Psychology Professional Committee, a member of the Chinese Mental Health Association, the founder of Shuya Psychology, a member of the Shaanxi Psychological Counselor Association, and a psychological expert hired by the Xi'an Association for Science and Technology.