This morning, I watched a three-child mother educating her children to do housework, which touched me a lot: a day of deduction and search to save money, saving for children's education**, it is better to find the right direction, learn how to praise children, and be a mother with high emotional intelligence.
In 2024, I will not focus on saving money, and I will reorient myself:
01 Prioritize and prioritize your life
Different stages of life have different tasks. What is most important to me at the moment?
At the age of 30, it is more important to accompany my young children than to do other things, and in this dimension I will choose family.
Hong Kong's first female chief executive, Carrie Lam, once said in an interview:
When my two children were young, they never hired a worker, and I cooked the rice myself, so I thought it was important for the child to feel that his mother was taking care of him. No matter how busy she is at work, Carrie Lam rarely misses three meals a day for her two children.
Daily companionship is an important link between parents and children. Children can only have the ability to love when they first feel love from their parents.
Li Meijin said in the book "Psychological Parenting": "As a parent, you must realize that in the early years of your child, it is not how much money and wealth you have, but it is very important for your child to accompany you. When a person has not experienced 'loving upbringing' in childhood, which is more important than money, there will be no trace of love in the heart. ”
The love you get in childhood is the light when you grow up, illuminating the mountains and seas of your life.
So, when I'm reading, writing, scrolling on my phone, if my kids need me, I don't hesitate to drop what I'm doing to spend time with them.
02 Seize the opportunity and invest in yourself
I don't know if you feel this way, at first you know what you want, but when you walk, there is a fork, and you go crookedly. Turning back has already missed a lot of opportunities, and it is difficult to go back to the original path.
A few days ago, I had dinner with a few seniors, and I was confused and determined to have a goal: upward selection. Actually, this is what I did six years ago, but I made all kinds of excuses for myself not to stick to it and not to accumulate, thinking that it was impossible to achieve it.
The teacher encouraged me not to rest on my laurels, citing a large number of cases from people around me, which once again opened my eyes to the possibilities of life, and I realized that my possibilities are related to the certainty of my child's future.
There is really a feeling that "it is better to read 10,000 books than to travel 10,000 miles, it is better to read countless people than to read 10,000 miles, and it is better to read countless people than to guide the way".
I know that before the age of 35, while spending time with my family, my priority is **.
With the priority of each stage done, people can better allocate and manage time, and there is no longer internal friction and boredom.
03 Don't save money for the sake of saving money.
Saving money, saving money, and earning money are all in the service of an ideal life.
The ideal life of ordinary people can be to find a good job, pay off the mortgage, retire early, or save a guarantee for themselves.
However, we don't need to save money for the sake of saving money and make ourselves unhappy pickers.
In order to save money, I was reluctant to eat, reluctant to wear, and hesitated and entangled in internal friction on items of dozens of dollars and hundreds of dollars;In order to save money, refuse the needs of children, and even instill in children the idea of "our family has no money";In order to save money, imitate other people's values and consumption views, suppress their true desires, and make themselves unhappy.
Saving money is a good habit, but if you over-pursue saving money and saving, and don't grasp the proportions, you will save the love of life and the passion in your heart. As long as you have a fixed amount of savings every month, do not waste extravagantly, and let the money flow over time, wealth will definitely accumulate slowly.
Please believe that the premise of a person's life becoming better is the yearning for a better life!