In a remote village in Hainan, a wedding has attracted widespread attention. A ** uploaded to the Internet revealed a shocking scene: in full view of everyone, a man boldly reached into the dress of a young bridesmaid for several minutes. At first, the bridesmaids forced a smile, but as time went on, her expression gradually became painful, and she was powerless to get rid of the unscrupulous hand.
Instead of stopping it, the people around them joined in the heckling, shouting "touch, touch, touch". As soon as this ** was made, it immediately caused an uproar on the Internet, and people were angry and puzzled by this vulgar and ** behavior. What is even more puzzling is that the bride stands aside and turns a blind eye, allowing her best friend to be insulted at her wedding, which makes many people question the attitude of the bride. This wedding seems to have become an absurd "scandal show".
Although the intervention of * put an end to this incident, it still could not completely dispel the doubts caused by the concept of "private matters" and deep-rooted customs. This is reminiscent of some of the extreme wedding customs in other regions, such as in a village where the groom had to jump into a stinking ditch in front of the guests in order to satisfy the bride's peculiar request. Despite the groom's efforts to maintain a smile, it was undoubtedly an affront to his dignity.
Despite the cheers of the surrounding crowd, the newcomers reluctantly succumbed to this absurd custom. In such cases, the value of traditional customs is distorted and turned into a fig leaf for some people to do whatever they want.
The phenomenon of vulgar marriage troubles is suspected of violating the law
Legal experts have made it clear that this type of behaviour goes far beyond the realm of personal "private matters" and is a public misconduct that should be regulated by law. Neither citizens nor legal persons may conduct civil activities contrary to the law and public order. Such blasphemy at the wedding, regardless of the traditional customs, is a violation of the law, and the person involved should bear the corresponding legal responsibility.
Despite this, many people still see weddings as purely private matters and believe that the outside world has no right to interfere, which is a major obstacle to combating such practices. However, from the perspective of the law, there is no "private matter" that can be used as a reasonable explanation for illegal acts. For example, in 2020, Binzhou, Shandong Province, issued a restraining order against similar vulgar wedding practices, and stated that it would pursue the legal responsibility of those responsible.
In fact, as early as May 2020, the Ministry of Civil Affairs had already issued guidance to rectify such vulgar wedding practices and promote the reform of marriage customs. However, changing the deep-rooted marriage traditions is not an overnight thing, and it requires the joint efforts of all sectors of society and a long-term process to gradually change people's deep-rooted beliefs.
The first step is small, but it's a big step!
The Origins and Transitions of "Vulgar Weddings".
All customs stem from their unique historical background, and the so-called "vulgar wedding" is no exception. These wedding customs may have originated in ancient nomadic cultures and were designed to bless the couple with some light-hearted banter and create a pleasant atmosphere. However, with the passage of time and the development of society, some people begin to lose their sense of proportion and sense of boundaries in this "banter" behavior, resulting in these customs gradually evolving into humiliating and abusive behavior.
Weddings that are supposed to be full of joy and celebration are often prey to the entertainment of others in some rural areas. They were forced to put on all kinds of humiliating "performances" in front of everyone, and the bitterness and embarrassment they endured were self-evident. Because these customs are deeply rooted in the traditional ideas of the local society, it is often difficult for newcomers to refuse, and even taken for granted by their families. The distorted evolution of this custom is deeply distressing.
Sociologists have pointed out that changing customs is a gradual process. In contemporary society, people's attitudes are becoming more and more diverse, which also makes wedding customs different. The same form of wedding may be considered a celebration in some parts of the world, while it may be considered unsightly in others. The key lies in whether customs can keep pace with the times, actively absorb new ideas, and appropriately discard those factors that are contrary to human nature and social order and good customs. Only in this way will customs not become an obstacle to social progress.
In general, customs should change with the times, adapting to different regions.
It is difficult to deal with the crackdown on vulgar wedding behavior
While there are widespread calls for an end to vulgar weddings, we still face many challenges in terms of implementation. First, many people still maintain the notion that weddings are private and that the outside world has no right to intervene. In addition, in some rural societies, these customs have become ingrained and become part of the so-called traditional culture, making it difficult for family members to resist local pressures. At the same time, the continuation of customs is also driven to some extent by economic interests, such as wedding companies and studios that may tend to produce more exaggerated and "lively" wedding scenes to attract attention.
In addition, the effective regulation of these violations of laws and regulations is fraught with challenges. In some areas, it is difficult for local authorities to exert influence on powerful families, and in some rural societies there is a hard-to-break gatekeeper culture that is difficult for outsiders to interfere with. In addition, in order to pursue click-through rates, some short** platforms often package vulgar wedding behaviors as "interesting" content for dissemination, which invisibly exacerbates the popularity of these behaviors.
Ultimately, we must recognize that despite the fact that customs have historical roots, this is no excuse for violating the bottom line of morality. It is unacceptable to use "happy and private affairs" as a shield to shirk responsibility. Only when the hustle and bustle of the wedding recedes and the smile on the couple's face disappears will the truth behind the wedding be revealed.
What should we think of this phenomenon?Everyone is welcome to share their opinions.