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My colleague Su Su suddenly told me today that my boyfriend ignored me and didn't say anything about breaking up, but he didn't reply even if he didn't reply, and he didn't reply to WeChat. I thought something was wrong with him, but I asked our same friends, and they messaged my boyfriend and they all said it was really, and it made me anxious. We've been getting along well before and I don't really know what's going on. All of a sudden, he ignored me and didn't break up with me. This left me feeling very confused and sad. At first, I tried to figure out what mistakes I might have made or what pressure he was under to escape. I tried to message him, hit ** but none got any response. This made me feel very uneasy. I began to wonder if I was doing something wrong or if he had lost interest in me.
I tried to talk to my friends and listen to their advice. Some of my friends suggested that I reach out to him and ask what was going on. But I'm really scared to face this problem. I was worried that he would say something that hurt my feelings or tell me that he had found a new girlfriend. I really don't know if I have the courage to face it all.
Other friends advised me to let him go and stop pestering him. But it's really hard for me to do it. When I was with him, I was really happy. I don't want to give up our relationship just like that. I wondered what was going on and why he had suddenly become so apathetic.
Seeing that my friend is so anxious, I suggest that she try these three methods, hoping that friends who have the same experience can also try, if you want your boyfriend to take the initiative to come to you, the following three methods may be able to help you:
1.Give him some space.
Maybe the boyfriend just needs some time to calm down, or maybe he has some personal issues that need to be addressed. If you keep calling and texting, it may make him feel stressed, which in turn will make him even more disinterested in paying attention to you. So, give him some space and let him calm down on his own. It will also make him cherish your relationship even more. However, don't give him too much space either, or he may mistakenly think that you don't care about him.
2.Hint at him.
If you don't want to ask your boyfriend directly what really happened, you can make him understand what you think by hinting. For example, you can post some of your time together on social media or some memories of your past. This will remind him of the good times you had together, and it will also let him know that you are still thinking about him. However, don't overly hint either, or he might think you're taking the initiative too much.
3.Reach out to his friends.
If you don't want to talk to your boyfriend directly, you can find out a little bit through his friends. You can reach out to his friends and ask them if they've been in touch with their boyfriend recently or if they know anything going on with him recently. This will allow you to know more about your boyfriend's situation and also let him know that you care about him. However, don't bother his friends too much, or they may think you're too pestering.
In short, your boyfriend ignored you and didn't say anything about breaking up, which made you feel very sad. If you want your boyfriend to come to you on your own initiative, you can do so by giving him some space, hinting at him, reaching out to his friends, etc. However, don't be overly proactive, let him know that you care about him, but also respect his feelings. I hope that the problems between you can be resolved and the relationship can become better.