Hello, I'm Lao Wang, a professional reader who likes iron.
A few months ago, because of writing an article to speak out for stray cats (dozens of them were poisoned), Lao Wang saw the horror of online violence for the first time, and a group of netizens flocked to the comment area to maliciously scold me, humiliate me, and even threaten me.
My heart is very painful, obviously it is goodwill, calling on everyone to revere life, but I didn't expect to be attacked like this, people can't talk well with each other, just talk about things?
At this time, I read Tsai Chongda's new book "Destiny", and I felt much calmer.
It is to suddenly realize that in the decades of life, there are always some things waiting for you that you don't expect, and life is nothing more than a pair of skin wrapped in the soul to experience, to endure, to grow.
This is fate.
"Skin" is Cai Chongda's non-fiction work, and "Destiny" is his first **, with a Douban score of 90, TOP4 in the ** category of Chinese literature in 2022.
* It mainly tells the story of the 99-year-old Minnan Ah Tai and his fate, which is the extraordinary life of ordinary people who have gone through a hundred years of history.
In fact, since Ah Tai's ancestors, they have been fighting with fate, no matter how many times they fall, they have to get up, from the ancestral stevedore to Ah Tai's grandfather who changed to sell rouge, from generation to generation to recruit people to continue to use incense, they are all holding their breath to live.
Reading "Destiny" and seeing the various efforts made by an individual for life and for the people around him, I really burst into tears, and I was also admired for people's resilience and potential.
It seems to be a bit submissive and comfortable with the situation, but while accepting fate, it is full of disobedience, just like Ah Tai's mother and her, often cross their waists and point at God and scold: You come out, I want to fight with you!
The gods calculated that Ah Tai had no children and no daughters in her life, and no one would send her to her death. Although she couldn't have children, fate successively sent her two sons and a daughter, from the north, from the west, and from a hundred flowers.
Mrs. Ah is very kind, and she loves them as her own children. She grows sweet potatoes on two acres of land, and when she finishes her farm work, she goes to work as a stevedore. Women weren't allowed to work as stevedores, but Mrs. Ah still impressed the leader.
The sweet potatoes planted were too large to eat, so they dried them into dried sweet potatoes, and later saved the lives of the family during natural disasters.
The children were also angry, and they couldn't bear the hard work of Ah Tai alone, so they took the initiative to help the people in the town pick up dung to make money. Baihua, who suffers from polio, also stood up on her own volition.
Reading this book, you may can't help but stand up and stomp your feet and shake your fists for their wisdom of life, for their unity, for their stubbornness, and for this stubborn spirit of life.
When Yu Minhong read "Destiny", he cried twice and was deeply moved.
The gods mentioned in the book are feudal superstitions at first glance, but if you think deeply, you will understand that the gods are the beliefs of life, and when you can't live and have no one to guide you, you have to have a "virtual" belief to support you and light the candle in the dark night.
Southern Fujian has a long history of respecting the gods, and different gods have different division of labor, and they will pray for the blessings of the gods when they encounter things. But Ah Tai, her experience was too bumpy, she was so ruthless that she even dared to scold the gods, it was useless to scold the gods, grinding foreign workers, and being eccentric.
Later, Ah Tai often chatted with the gods, and like his mother-in-law, Cai Yehao, lay on the chaise longue in the courtyard, munching melon seeds, shaking the chair, and babbling.
She understands that gods have their own difficulties, and no matter how gods are, they can't handle the fate of their people.
A very interesting plot is to observe death.
Mrs. began to participate in the "Death Observation Group" at the age of sixty or seventy, when an old man was about to pass away, other old men and old ladies immediately received the wind and formed a group to observe, accompany the old man, cheer him on, and learn from his own experience.
The home of every old man who is about to leave is a classroom. This group of happy old people came to observe the upcoming funerals and study the last life lesson together. ”
Death, everyone is happy;If you can't die, everyone is annoyed, including the parties involved, who feel that they have failed, and they have a sense of shame that they failed the last test in their lives. It is only after death has actually occurred that grief strikes in a sudden silence.
Here, death is not a taboo, nor is it a pain, but a ritual to look back on a lifetime, a lesson in how to live well from death. Confucius once said, "If you don't know death, you don't know life."
I love this quote from the book: "There is a clear path, and no matter how difficult it is, it will make people feel at ease." "Yes, no matter how difficult it is, if you know what you are living for, you will have peace of mind. For Ah Tai, to live is to fight against fate.
After fighting with fate for nearly 100 years, Ah Tai said on her deathbed, "Don't cry, don't cry, you stupid child, you've been messing with me all your life, don't you know?"In fact, it is really my own birth, only you, my destiny. ”
It's amazing that all confrontations can almost be reconciled in the end.
is like Yu Hua's "Alive", which is so miserable that Fugui of the galaxy is reconciled with fate in the end, and spends every day peacefully with Lao Niu.
From confrontation, to reconciliation, and finally to death, everyone has to go through this process.
Andy Lau said: After reading this book, I feel that exploration, confrontation, and reconciliation are not part of fate"Destiny" is worth savoring slowly.
I suddenly felt that there was no need to take many hardships and encounters too seriously, they were all arranged by fate, they would all pass, they would end, and they would all have a new beginning. As I said a few days ago, the destruction is the previous process, the rebirth is the next process, and this is how the world goes on and over again.
Moving forward towards a clear path in life is the focus of life.
So at the end of the day, what is fate?
Destiny is mine. Put a paragraph that best reflects the main idea and encourage you:
The goddess looked at me tenderly and said, "Silly boy, let me tell you one more secret—fate will go on as long as we live, and fate will not win us in the end." It can make you uncomfortable, it will make you desperate, it will be mischievous, it will even be ruthless, but you just need to know that as long as you don't stop, it has to go on, and it can't help you.
So when you feel uncomfortable, as long as you look at it, you watch, what else can it toss, and after a long time, you will know that it is like a child after all, or, just a child, our own child. Our destiny will be born to us after all. After all, we are the mothers of our own destiny.
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