"Chastity" is the most important thing for women in ancient times, according to the ancient etiquette systemWhen her husband dies, she needs to spend the rest of her life in widowhood, during which she cannot play with other men, let alone remarry at will.
Therefore, these women who abide by the way of "chastity" are regarded by the world as a model for women, and are also called "chaste martyrs" by some people.
During the Qin and Han dynasties, Qin Shi Huang once ordered to cast Huaiqingtai for a chaste woman, so such a sentence was recorded in the history books of later generations:"Use wealth to defend yourself, do not see the violation, the Qin Emperor is a virgin and a guest, for the construction of a woman Huaiqingtai".。That is to say,The reason why Qin Shi Huang built Huaiqing Platform was to commend the chastity of women.
Perhaps it is precisely because Qin Shi Huang opened this head,In the era after the Qin and Han dynasties, "chaste martyrs" became the "virtues" that women should abide by in ancient times, and the flaunting of women's chastity became more and more excessiveIn order to maintain their chastity, many women will not resist even if they encounter flower thieves.
There was a book in the Ming Dynasty called "Gengsi Ed. Volume 9"., the book isLu Can's writings before entering high school, recorded a lot of folk anecdotes, such as "Gunzhou Yue Temple" and "ghost home" and other stories, which were very popular at that time.
In this book, there is also a story of a flower thief, according to the original interpretation, during the Ming Dynasty, there was a beautiful man named Sang Chong in Shanxi, because he looks handsome and smart, therefore, many people treat him as a woman.
But in fact, this Sang Chong is an out-and-out flower thief, he often relies on his outstanding appearance to pretend to be a man, so as to attract the favor of girlsIn the long-term relationship, the girls regarded him as their friend, and gradually let down their guard.
At this time, Sang Chong will use all kinds of reasons to deceive the girl, and after Sang Chong succeeds, he will immediately withdraw and leave the girlIn this way, Sang Chong used this method to try and deceive more than 100 beautiful local girls.
It stands to reason that this kind of thing is not a trivial matter, and after the girls are humiliated, they should report to the government as soon as possible, but in fact, in the more than ten years that Sang Chong has done all the bad things, no girl has ever gone to the government to report the matter.
In the end, Sang Chong's true identity was revealed because of an accident, and related matters were also thoroughly investigated by the government, so at this time, some people will wonder: Why didn't these girls report the case?In fact, the answer is simple: to protect your reputation.
In many ancient folk **, we can find the figure of the flower thief, such as the "Crane in the Clouds" as the four villains in "Dragon Babu";Another example is the "Flower Butterfly" in "Three Heroes and Five Righteousness".
These flower thieves are often endowed with excellent appearance, superb martial arts and conduct beyond ordinary people, but in fact, the image of this flower thief is beautified by literatureHistorically, the real flower thieves were often ugly in appearance and short in stature, and it was precisely because they had difficulty finding a marriage partner that they were outside with flowers and grass.
As mentioned earlier, as time went by, the criteria for judging "chastity" became more and more stringent, from the exemplary role of the Qin and Han dynasties to the rules that all women must abide byTherefore, in the eyes of ancient women, "chastity" is a more precious thing than life, so there is such a concept that "loss of temperament is great".
In ancient times, if a woman lost her "chastity" before she got married, then the neighbors would inevitably point fingers at her, causing her to live in the midst of public criticism.
Moreover, a woman who loses her virginity will bring misfortune to her family, and over time, the criticism of the public will gradually expand from the woman herself to the entire family of the woman. Therefore, when most women are violated by flower thieves, they will not make a sound, and they will not report to the authorities.
Because it is easy to attract people around you to make a sound, such a move will definitely expose the fact that you are "out of line", resulting in yourself being criticized in the eyes of the world.
Second, if you report to the government, it is equivalent to openly admitting the fact that you have lost your "chastity", and although this can arouse the sympathy of others, it will not lead to a decrease in public criticism.
Therefore, most women will choose to swallow their anger after encountering flower thievesThey do this in order to maintain their normal life and not be disturbed by the outside world.
In addition, flower thieves are known for their flower hearts, but this does not mean that they will not choose their targets, on the contrary, flower thieves often do not harass ordinary womenMost of their targets are rich daughters, because rich daughters are raised in the boudoir, often do not leave their courtyards, and do not know much about the outside world.
And the rich daughters are even richer, and under the care of their parents, most of them are extremely beautiful womenTherefore, the probability of the flower thief doing something to Miss Qianjin will be higher.
And Miss Qianjin has been instilled with the corresponding knowledge of "chastity" since she was a childTherefore, the daughter of a rich family often attaches more importance to "chastity" than an ordinary girl with an average appearance.
In the excerpt of the ancient ** in our country, most of the girls will commit suicide by jumping into the river to complete their lives after "playing" with the flower thiefChastity means everything, it determines the direction of a girl's life, and it also affects the final return of many girls.
Death by starvation is a small matter, but loss of temperament is a big thing", this sentence was placed in ancient times as a sign of chastity and daughterhood, but it is no longer applicable today. In our lives, we should give women freedom and live freely, instead of taking advantage of the differences between the sexes to elevate ourselves and belittle others.