There is a proverb that says:
What is the advent between love, straight teaching life and death.
In the vast sea of people, it is the greatest happiness in life to meet the person you love most in this life, no matter the distance between thousands of mountains and rivers, you must also go to each other's side.
However, in reality, there are other situations where some people are already in turmoil and only pretend to be calm on the surface, not easy to show off.
Of course, there are also some people who obviously like you very much, and their every move is full of love, but they don't contact you often, which is unpredictable.
In fact, it's not that you don't love enough, it's just that sometimes the more you love someone, the more inferior and timid you feel in your heart, which is the real reason behind it.
Zhang Ailing wrote a sentence:
When I met you, I became low, low, low to dust, but my heart was happy, and a flower grew there. ”
The more you care about and love someone, sometimes although your heart is happy, but you don't dare to say it, it is entirely because of your own inferiority.
I'm worried that once I open my mouth, I will be rejected by the other party immediately, in addition to losing face, the more anxious I will be when I think that the two will have no fate from now on.
But I can't help but want to be close, because this is human nature, but the more I like it, the more inferior I feel, and I can only reduce the number of contacts, worrying that the other party will be able to detect it, and once I refuse, I will let myself have no way out.
It can be said that the heart of a person who really likes someone is often full of hesitation and uneasiness, especially when two people have not officially come together, they will think more and more, so much so that they become overwhelmed.
There is no definitive answer. It's best to reduce the number of contacts, but you'll keep an eye on each other's every move, let yourself settle down slowly, and wait until it's getting better and better before showing love.
So it is clear that being seen as love, but I don't dare to contact it often, many times it is caused by my inner inferiority, which makes me walk a little slower.
There is a proverb that says:
Love gives people armor and weaknesses.
The more you love someone, the more you will feel that the years are quiet, and the more you will let your emotions drift away.
Because of the timidity in my heart, I always feel that I am not worthy of you, so I obviously like it, but I dare not approach it easily, afraid that the beauty of this moment will be destroyed because I am too active, and then disappear without a trace.
From a psychological point of view, when we care too much about a person, we will see that the other person's image is shiny, and we will not easily see the other person's shortcomings;
On the contrary, the more you magnify each other's strengths, the more you will magnify your own shortcomings, and both the left and right eyes feel that the other party is very good, and they are not worthy of it at all, so they are unwilling to get close to each other frequently.
I am also worried that the other party is too proactive, so that the other party understands everything at the moment, and intolerably rejects himself, which frustrates his self-esteem, especially when he thinks that he will be separated from the person he likes, which will make him unbearable, so he will consciously retreat.
On a deeper level, a person's inner timidity is the fear of adverse results, then the current situation must be that the other party does not give them positive feedback, making them unable to understand the other party's attitude.
So the more I thought about it, the more confused I became, and the whole person became hesitant.