There is a sentence in "Talking about Roots":
The mouth is the door of the heart, and if you can't keep the mouth, it's a secret, and the truth will leak. ”
This is to say that if a person cannot control his mouth and always speaks everything to the public, then his good fortune will slowly dissipate.
As the saying goes: there is a limit to words, and there is a degree of cruelty. ”
The feeling of self-talking is actually the feeling of self-processing.
Think twice before you speak, often talking nonsense will not only offend others, but also cause yourself a lot of right and wrong.
Think about whether you should say it before you speak, don't say it without thinking, and let yourself know what not to say is the key to reducing trouble.
There are some things that must be kept in mind and never spoken to the outside world.
None of this can be said to the outside world, not only to avoid putting yourself in an embarrassing situation, but also to keep your blessings.
If a really smart person doesn't mention these three things, he will be blessed more and more.
The book says: Shut your mouth, lest your intentions be as sincere as they are, and you would rather endure me than others. ”
This means keeping your mouth closed like a bottle so you don't speak. Guard the city, guard against the enemy, and don't let distracting thoughts invade people's hearts.
In this world, there is no real empathy, and not everyone can keep the secrets in their hearts, and when you feel that it is particularly important, you may just hear a small story in the eyes of others.
Even after you say it casually, you tell others not to tell others, but you don't expect that your secret will spread more and more widely, and it will soon become an "open secret" that everyone knows.
Losing privacy often makes you an object of criticism and even ridicule.
So don't tell your inner secrets, in fact, it's a way to protect yourself when interacting with people, so that you don't lose the blessing of having the moment because your secrets are exposed.
Writer Zhu Ziqing said:
Your words should be like stars at night, not like firecrackers on Chinese New Year's Eve – who needs firecrackers at night?”
A person's words are not much, but his words are expensive.
Hiding secrets in your heart, keeping silent when appropriate, and not telling them to the outside world is the best choice to respect others and respect yourself.
Keigo Higashino wrote in "A Walk in the White Night":
In this world, there are two things that you can't look at, one is the sun and the other is human nature. ”
One of the most terrible aspects of human nature is jealousy.
You think you're doing well and want to share this happiness with others, but what you don't think about is that not everyone except those closest to you wants you to be well.
On the contrary, when they see that you are doing better than them, they tend to be jealous of you and start plotting against you behind your back, without even any bottom line.
This is what I saw in a recent report.
In one village, this hard-working family started building old houses after working outside to earn money.
Suddenly, their house became the most luxurious house in the village, and the whole family loved to show off to the rest of the village.
Too many people say congratulations, but in fact they feel very uncomfortable.
They think that everyone lives in the same village, so why is their family rich and their family poor?
One day, the family suddenly saw that their screen wall was destroyed, and only after checking the surveillance did they know that it was their relatives.
The relative didn't say anything, but he was angry with jealousy, so he secretly w......reaked havoc with a shovel at night
There is a proverb that says:
Human nature tends not to be jealous of those who have nothing to do with us, but it is easy to envy those who understand us. ”
Sometimes, casually showing off when talking to others does nothing but cause too much harm to yourself.
As long as you live your life, it's not necessary to see everyone say their joy, but knowing how to hide it, is the right way.
Not exposing money and being a low-key person is the best way to protect yourself.
It is not easy for everyone to live in the moment.
Everyone is bowing their heads and gritting their teeth, even if they are covered in bruises and weather, they will not give up easily. What we need most is the encouragement of passers-by, definitely not complaining.
From a psychological point of view, complaining is an emotional energy, and if you always talk about your complaints, then you are a complainer in the eyes of others.
The more time passes, no one wants to be with him, but prefers to avoid him.
Just as people drink water, they know cold and warm.
Even if you are a little bad now, this is just an experience of life, after all, some people have to go by themselves, some hardships have to be eaten by themselves, and no one can replace you.
Instead of complaining, it is better to take action and slowly precipitate yourself in order to accumulate.
In real life, except for your closest parents and lovers, almost no one likes to hear you complain, after all, no one else has anything to do with your life, and no one will pay for your pain.
When a person is at a low point, don't bother anyone easily, you just need to grit your teeth and move on.
I'm lucky if I get it, but if I lose it, I'm dead.
Life is often between gains and losses, seeing some people clearly and understanding some things, but making one's life more transparent and sober.