The saying that the mother is not celebrating her birthday does not mean that the mother cannot celebrate her birthday, but that the child should not celebrate her birthday while the parents are still alive. This proverb originates from ancient traditions, where the ancients attached great importance to filial piety, especially to their elderly parents. In ancient times, longevity was a very important thing, and the prerequisite for longevity was to be at least 50 or 60 years old. According to the ancient etiquette system, only when the child is over 50 years old can he have a birthday, that is, to celebrate his birthday. And even after the birthday, if the parents are still alive, the children should not celebrate too lively, so as to appear unfilial to their parents.
In ancient times, women had a relatively high risk of having a child, and the medical conditions were relatively backward, so the child's birthday was a very painful and dangerous day for the mother. If you celebrate a child's birthday on her birthday, the house is full of lights and noisy, which shows that you do not respect your parents enough, especially for the mother's unfilial piety. Because the celebration of a child's birthday means that the child has a higher status in the family, and does not pay enough attention to the birthday of the parents, which is contrary to the ancient ethical concept of attaching importance to dignity and inferiority. Therefore, the ancients have always emphasized that children should know how to honor their parents and know how to be grateful for their parenting grace. Celebrating one's birthday is just a formality, and companionship and honoring one's parents are the most important thing.
The proverb that the father does not have a beard does not mean that the father cannot grow a beard, but that the father should not grow a beard while he is still alive. In ancient times, a man's beard was a symbol of virtue and masculinity, and the beard was also regarded as one of the lives given by parents.
However, after the fall of the Qing Dynasty, beard growth was gradually seen as feudal superstition and reactionary, and during the reform period, a civilized, modern image was promoted, especially when the parents were alive, and beard growth was considered a sign of old age and was therefore banned. Moreover, the ancient society attached great importance to the relationship between status and seniority, and children should not look old when their father was still alive, so as to abide by the principle of dignity and inferiority.
At the heart of this proverb is the emphasis on filial piety and respect for parents. In ancient times, children celebrating their birthdays meant disobedience to their parents, because on their mother's birthday, the child had just been born into the world, and the mother had to endure great pain and risk. And when the father is still alive, growing a beard means showing old age, which is not in line with the principle of dignity and order.
Although these two sayings no longer have specific practical meaning in modern society, they can still remind us to respect and honor our parents, and to know how to be grateful and cherish. Don't limit yourself to celebrating your birthday, but spend more time with and care for your parents, giving them warmth and care. During the days when our parents are still alive, we should visit our homes as much as possible, spend time with them, and make them feel loved and cared for. Don't let success and prosperity keep us away from our families, because family is always the most important support and support.
No matter how successful we are outside, for parents, what we look forward to most is family reunion and happiness and well-being. Cherishing every day with our parents, caring for and honoring them, inheriting the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, and respecting our parents are the moral bottom line and family responsibilities that we should adhere to.