Du Yuesheng: Don't always think about building a deep relationship with others, a gentleman never gets too close to anyone. Only villains and trash like to make friends everywhere!
Du Yuesheng, a well-known gangster on the beach in Shanghai during the ** period, is known for his unique philosophy of life and interpersonal relationship handling. He once said: "Don't always think about building a deep relationship with someone, a gentleman never gets too close to anyone." Only villains and trash like to make friends everywhere!This sentence profoundly reveals the way people interact with each other, as well as the attitudes of different people.
1. The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water: the wisdom of moderate distance.
Du Yuesheng's "gentleman never gets too close to anyone" does not mean that the gentleman is indifferent and ruthless, but emphasizes a moderate distance from each other. The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, which means maintaining a certain distance and proportion in interpersonal relationships, not too close and not too distant. The wisdom of this moderate distance lies in avoiding friction and contradictions caused by excessive intimacy, and maintaining a relatively independent and autonomous state of relationship.
In real life, we often encounter all kinds of interpersonal relationships, such as family, friendship, love, etc. In these relationships, the wisdom of moderate distance also applies. Excessive closeness can lead to bondage and stress towards each other, while being too distant can lead to emotional apathy and alienation. Therefore, mastering the scale and proportion of communication and maintaining a moderate sense of distance is an important prerequisite for maintaining a healthy and harmonious interpersonal relationship.
Second, the way of making friends between villains and waste: shallowness and attachment.
The friendship with the gentleman is as light as water, and it is the way of friendship between the villain and the waste. Du Yuesheng said, "Only villains and wastes like to make friends everywhere!"."Reveals the characteristics of this type of people in interpersonal relationships. They tend to be overzealous about building superficial intimacy at the expense of their own principles and interests. They seek attachment and interests through extensive social networks, lacking true independence and autonomy.
The way of friendship between villains and waste is often based on the exchange of interests and mutual use, and lacks a sincere emotional bond. Such relationships are often fragile and unreliable, because these so-called "friends" tend to quickly turn against each other when interests change or conflict. Therefore, the shallowness and attachment embodied in this way of making friends are what we should be wary of and avoid in interpersonal relationships.
3. Independence and autonomy in interpersonal relationships: the pursuit of the true inner self.
Maintaining a moderate distance and independence in interpersonal relationships is not only a manifestation of wisdom, but also a pursuit of one's true inner self. Everyone has their own values and way of life, and they should not sacrifice their principles and needs in order to cater to others. Only by insisting on one's own independence and autonomy can one maintain a clear head and a firm position in interpersonal relationships.
To achieve independence and autonomy in our relationships, we need to find strength and confidence from within. Through continuous self-reflection and learning, you can understand your own values and life goals, so as to clarify your position and needs in interpersonal relationships. At the same time, we must also learn to respect the independence and autonomy of others, and understand and accept each other's differences and differences.
The Art and Wisdom of Relationships.
This sentence of Du Yuesheng reminds us that the handling of interpersonal relationships is an art and wisdom. In the process of interacting with people, we should maintain a moderate distance and sense of proportion, not too close and not too distant. At the same time, we must also insist on our own independence and autonomy, and not be easily swayed by others. Only in this way can we navigate in interpersonal relationships and achieve harmony and win-win results.
In modern society, with the increasing complexity and diversity of interpersonal relationships, we need to pay more attention to the handling and maintenance of interpersonal relationships. By mastering the wisdom of moderate distance, adhering to the principle of independence, and constantly reflecting and learning, we can better cope with the challenges and problems in our relationships and create a more conducive environment for ourselves and others to grow and develop.