More than 40 years ago, when I was in high school in the district, I went home once a week or every other week, carrying rice and vegetables on a small flat shoulder, and walked about 20 miles. In the middle, you have to climb the mountain, and the most difficult thing is a road of about 200 steps. One Sunday afternoon, I was carrying rice vegetables back to school, and halfway up the hill on the stairs, it suddenly got dark, the wind blew, and I saw that a shower was coming. The mountain wind blew people cold, and I was the only one on the entire mountain road. What to do?Go back to the village at the foot of the mountain to take shelter from the rain?There is a lot of way to go down the mountain, and it may rain on the way down. I don't know how long it will rain, but if it gets dark in the evening, I'll be a little scared to climb the mountain again. Continue up the hill?There is still half of the stairs to go, climb to the top of the hill and walk a long mountain road with a gazebo to shelter from the rain. Of course, it could also rain before you even walked to the gazebo. It's up to me to decide right away. I chose to go all out up the hill, and my first goal was to get to the gazebo as soon as possible. In the whirring mountain wind, I struggled to climb, went to the top of the mountain, did not dare to rest, continued to walk without stopping, and did not have the heart to take a look at the scenery of Zhitang Lake at the bottom of the mountain. After climbing the mountain, walking on this buffered mountain road, you must always enjoy the sparkling lake and mountains at the foot of the mountain. Walk to the gazebo, take a short rest, and continue walking, returning to school smoothly.
Strangely, I don't remember if it rained or rained afterwards. At that time, I was about 14 years old. The professor listened quietly to my story and said, "You were very right that you didn't go down the mountain that day to take shelter from the rain." It has a lot of implications for your growth. ”
When a person grows up, he will encounter unexpected things, and he has to make his own independent judgments and decisions. It's not easy. I decided to continue climbing the mountain that time, although time is pressing, and there is no room for delay;It's also because I know the way up the hill and there is a gazebo to shelter from the rain. I also asked myself: if I climbed over an unfamiliar mountain range alone, climbed a mountain in the rain, what would I choose?Go down the mountain to avoid the rain, or continue up the mountain?When I was a child, I played mountaineering chess, and the last number I wanted to throw was to go to a grid and return to the base camp due to a snowstorm. For safety, returning to the base camp for the time being is also an option. Of course, it's likely that someone else will win first. I think there is a high probability that we will continue to move forward. The knowledge, experience, and information accumulated through daily learning will help you to cope with your thinking. Maybe there is a gazebo in front of you to rest and a temple to spend the night. The dramas I've seen, the books I've read, tell me this. The Yue opera "Splitting the Mountain to Save the Mother", and the travelogue of the former sage Wang Siren all have such plots.
I shared my story and experience of climbing the mountain with a few friends. They said that their children are still in primary school, and they usually encounter such and such difficulties, and they are all helped by their parents to solve them, and they have no experience of solving difficulties independentlyBut it is really difficult for children to go on adventures, and they are not at ease. Children have to grow up on their own. Simple preaching, unattractive, with little effect. If you can arrange some specially designed games or competitions, under the premise of safety and security, go through some training similar to climbing a mountain and encountering rain that requires independent judgment and decision-making, it may help to grow. Of course, such games or competitions must not become an additional burden for children. (Autumn water).