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Sanmao said: "If love cannot be reflected in actual life, such as dressing, eating, sleeping, financial management, etc., it cannot last long." ”
This sentence is profound and realistic, any love, if it wants to get married, must pass the test of money.
In the past, I always thought it was too cheesy to talk about money in a relationship, and it felt like a relationship deal.
However, it was only after experiencing the trials of feelings and life that I realized the cruelty of reality. It turns out that no matter how beautiful love is, if you don't talk about money, it is difficult to last for a long time.
Once, I saw a father say to his daughter who was about to fall in love:
When you are in love, you must take "being productive" as the first condition for choosing a boyfriend. After all, in modern society, without a certain economic foundation, it is difficult for a relationship to last long.
Every family with a daughter, like the father, reminds the daughter, not because of material things, but because love that cannot stand the test of reality is difficult to last.
The picture shows stills from "I Only Like You". Miss Ning and her boyfriend have been in love for five years, and finally have no choice but to break up, not because they don't love, but because they don't have enough money.
My boyfriend's family is in the countryside, he has no property and no vehicle, and his monthly income is only about 6,000, and he still needs to work overtime.
Miss Ning and her boyfriend are college classmates, and the two have a deep relationship, and they planned to get married early, but because they have not had enough funds to buy a house, the marriage has been delayed again and again, which eventually led to a breakup.
When in love, Miss Ning expressed many times that she was willing to get married, but only if her boyfriend had her own house. However, even if her boyfriend worked hard for seven years, he failed to fulfill Miss Ning's wish.
Whenever the boyfriend saves a sum of money, the family will always encounter various emergencies and need money, so he has to send the hard-earned money to his parents.
Miss Ning is not a material girl, she understands her boyfriend's hard work, but she can't accept asking her to live in the countryside after marriage.
Miss Ning is a girl who grew up in the city and feels uncomfortable with life in the countryside. She can not ask for a bride price, or even a simple wedding, but the only requirement is that the boyfriend must have the ability to buy a house.
However, the pressure of life made her boyfriend try hard again and again, but she could not achieve Miss Ning's expectations. Eventually, Miss Ning followed her parents' advice and broke up with her boyfriend in pain.
When his boyfriend left in disgrace, he lost his dignity, he felt like a failure, crying and running all the way, as if his life was bound.
In many cases, money is both freedom and dignity.
In real life, many girls' first reaction when talking about love is money. When they choose a romantic partner, the first consideration is the other person's financial foundation.
In fact, this is understandable, because without a certain amount of financial strength, it is difficult to maintain a future married life.
This is also the principle of love that every family with a daughter will remind their daughter of:
Before getting married, be sure to talk to the man about money, because "being affectionate" usually does not stand the test of reality.
In a show, someone interviewed Zhang Zhilin: "If you leave first, what are you most worried about?".”
Zhang Zhilin said without hesitation: "I'm worried that my wife is short of money. ”
Zhang Zhilin and Yuan Yuyi are recognized as a loving couple, and the two have been in a relationship for more than 20 years and are still affectionate.
One of the secrets of their relationship over their first love is to dare to talk about money in marriage.
There are many ways to express love, and money is the most direct and concise one.
In marriage, Zhang Zhilin used money to express love, and Yuen Yuen was willing to accept it and was willing to talk openly with him about money.
Once, Zhang Zhilin asked Yuan Yuyi: "What do you have to say to me?"”
She replied unabashedly: "Give me all your money." ”
Even though neither of them is short of money, they still talk about it a lot.
In fact, feelings that can be honest about money tend to be stronger.
In a relationship, if a man is reluctant to talk to you about money, it is likely because he thinks you are not important enough.
And those men who say they love you, but refuse to spend money for you, are likely not to really love you.
Yishu wrote in ** "Xi Bao":
I want lots and lots of love. If there is no love, then it will take a lot of money, and if there is neither, it is good to have health. ”
In fact, for a girl, if she wants to marry you, there must always be a reason worth it.
If there is no money and no love, why should she choose you?
It sounds harsh, but it's a reality.
I once saw a survey online:
85.5% of young people believe that young people today are more concerned about each other's economic situation than the previous generation. 48.9% of young people made it clear that the most important thing in love is "economic conditions", because "without money, love is just a castle in the air and will not last".
In fact, modern love is different from the past and is more focused on reality. But it is an undeniable fact that more realistic love tends to be stronger.
The company Xiaoman girl said: "I will only love capable men." ”
In her opinion, a capable man means a future, a promising man means a rich man, and having money means a happier life in the future.
In general, women nowadays are eager to find a man with "economic strength" when choosing a partner.
In this regard, Associate Professor Hao Yuzhang, who has been engaged in family sociology research for a long time, said
Nowadays, most young people pay more attention to the economic foundation, and this view of love is normal. ”
Professor Hao believes that love is a psychological feeling, and this feeling cannot be built only on the "castle in the sky", it needs a certain amount of material support.
A love built on an economic basis will make the relationship between two people more tangible, stronger, and more durable.
If you only talk about feelings and don't involve money, and only pursue nihilistic romance, once faced with real problems, the relationship is likely to collapse.
Therefore, in love, there is a need for both parties to consider money. The power of love is not enough to resist the pressure of life, and entering marriage requires more trivial life matters.
Planning for the future in advance and having the necessary material foundation can make the relationship stronger and long-lasting.
In the show "Do Not Disturb", there was a male guest who complained in VCR about how his ex-girlfriend squandered money and asked him to pay for it every time.
Therefore, he is deeply disgusted by this, believing that in a relationship it should not be borne entirely by the boys.
Finally, at the end of the short film, he asked Liu Ye a question: "Teacher Liu Ye, should boys be responsible for paying all the expenses when they are in love?."”
Liu Ye responded quickly and bluntly at the time: "Yes, men should pay everything." ”
This answer drew enthusiastic applause and cheers from the audience, and it was clear that the words hit the heartstrings of the women.
In fact, in a relationship, women usually expect the man to take financial responsibility, and the financial situation is an important criterion for evaluating whether the man truly loves her.
However, it is important to be reminded that although feelings need to talk about money, women should not spend their men's money endlessly.
Generally speaking, men are willing to spend money for the woman they love, but if a woman suddenly asks the man to pay otherwise he doesn't love her, it can be very offensive for the man.
In addition, many men work hard because only in this way can they marry a wife that they are satisfied with and let her live a good life. However, if a woman shows up and says, "Don't expect to marry me if you can't make money," it will also discourage men.
At the end of the day, a woman should talk to a man about money, but she must also have the capital to make him spend money for her.
Although wealthy men are popular, why did he choose you instead of Liu Yifei, Fan Bingbing, or Angela Baby?
Because you deserve it, you have enough charisma to make him pay, and you have enough reason to make him spend it for you.
When you are independent, strong, assertive, and gentle at the same time, any man will fall in love with you.
Of course, I don't agree with the statement in the mouth of men that "if I marry you, you will have to accompany me to suffer", and men who can say such things are likely to lack the ability.